My Happiness blog, for myself and others.

You shouldn't feel like your struggles don't matter. Your feelings are important.

i fucking hate self care posts made by neurotypicals so here’s one from someone who Actually Gets It

-can’t shower or take a bath? me either. dry shampoo can make your hair look and feel cleaner, and baby wipes or makeup wipes work great to get the top layer of grime off your skin.

-can’t wash your sheets and make your bed? i feel you. push your blankets out of the way and shake the crumbs off your sheet. it will at least be a bit more comfortable.

-can’t even change out of your dirty pajamas? been there. hit yourself with some febreeze and a lint roller. if you can, brush your hair. if you can’t, hair ties and bobby pins are fantastic.

-can’t make anything to eat? same. if you can, there’s no shame in ordering food. in fact, it’s probably better you eat something rather than go hungry. if you can’t, try and find something that comes pre-made or takes minimal effort to make. at the very least, drink some water.

can’t respond to messages or reach out for help? yeah, i get that. set an alarm for a few hours from now and respond to any messages you need to once you’ve given yourself time to prepare. if they’re Important Messages that need Professional Responses, you can find fill-in-the-blank format rough drafts on google. as far as personal messages go, don’t feel bad for sending a mass “I’m sorry, I’m in a personal emergency right now. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.” response to everyone.

-can’t even sleep because it’s so bad? asmr videos always knock me out, personally, but i also watch a lot of bob ross. just try to find something quiet and soothing to use as background noise and take your mind off it, or at least give you a more peaceful environment to think about it.

-can’t go for a walk/drive? try opening the blinds or curtains. you’re still exposing yourself to the outside world. baby steps. (i also play animal crossing or sims; it may be virtual but fuck it. i went on a walk.)

-can’t go into work/school? let people know. let your coworkers or classmates know it’s an emergency and you can’t make it. give yourself up to two days, but then you have to go back. ask to have your work emailed to you so you know what you missed.

-can’t brush your teeth and wash your face? makeup or baby wipes and gum or mouthwash. don’t let yourself physically rot bc you’re rotting emotionally.

Twenty-three Journaling Prompts for Self Discovery

Recently been trying to be a bit more intentional whenever I do morning pages or journal. I love stream-of-consciousness writing, but sometimes I feel aimless going around and around with the same negative thought patterns.

What do I need right now?

What is my body asking for? What is my mind asking for?

What do I need to feel nurtured?

Am I engaging in any self-destructive patterns?

Write a letter to someone you miss.

Write a letter to someone you want to talk to (because of any reason — anger, hurt, love, want, jealousy … )

What is not serving you today?

What do you want to remember about today/yesterday/this week/this month, etc.?

What am I avoiding?

What did I learn today/yesterday…?

What are you looking forward to today?

Why am I feeling ___ right now?

What are my goals for today/this week/this month?

One thing I like about myself today.

How have I exercised compassion today?

Wins! (of the week, of the day, of the month, etc.) What went well today?

What do I want to change, and why? Is it worth the effort?

What am I afraid of?

How am I evaluating myself right now?

What kind of energy am I putting out into the world?

What is something I’ve been wanting to do, but have been putting off? Is it worth pursuing right now (is it a priority), or can it wait?

How can I be with myself right now, in this moment?

That thought isn’t helpful right now.

Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later.

This is irrational. I’m going to let it go.

I won’t argue with an irrational thought.

This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need.

This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isn’t.

I don’t have to be perfect to be OK.

I don’t have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it.

It’s OK to make mistakes.

I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational.

I have to take risks in order to be free. I’m willing to take this risk.

It’s OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t have to pay attention to it.

I’m ready to move on now.

I can handle being wrong.

I don’t have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable.

That’s not my responsibility.

That’s not my problem.

I’ve done the best I can.

I don't care how monotone it is, I don't care if it's deep or high, I don't care if you lisp, or stutter, or have an accent, or a vocal stim, or a tic