Did you actually predict the outcome? It’s a genuine question, because I consider that we, as people, usually look at others’ actions and meanings through a limited view. Moreover, if it’s a romantic context and you want much in a short amount of time (you want to be loved, held, valued, etc.) and there is no love story behind it, I think we usually miss the chance to ask and discuss things thoroughly. And yes, that’s a soft, itsy-bitsy simple perspective most would say.
See, this is exactly where nuance gets chewed up by expectation. Predicting the outcome isn’t some clairvoyant skill, it’s pattern recognition, a reading of the psychic climate of a person or situation. Not only that, but for me personally, people are easy. The human brain is the most complicated simplicity I’ve come across. But you’re right: most people see only the surface gestures, the shallow proxies for intention, and interpret them through the lens of their own limited hunger. Wanting love quickly, wanting validation fast. that’s a kind of cognitive tunnel vision. The irony is, the more you chase it, the less legible the other person becomes. You miss the conversation that could actually illuminate things because you’re too busy projecting your desire onto them.
Romantic urgency is almost always deceptive. It tricks you into treating a moment as narrative when it’s just motion. And yes, what you call a “soft, itsy-bitsy simple perspective” is actually uncomfortably accurate. People tend to simplify, to sanitise, to package meaning into digestible chunks so they can feel secure. But the truth of connection, the kind that lasts, or even the kind that really matters—is rarely digestible. It requires patient excavation, questioning, reflection, pain. And most won’t bother. They’d rather assume they understand than actually try to see.
So yes, in a way, I did “predict” the outcome, not because I’m prescient, but because I’ve seen the mechanics too often. A lot of people are the exact same, which is why most bore me, because typicalities would never have a favour to me. Not in honesty, not in entertainment, and not in study. Humans are easily disinteresting individually because it’s a copy of the last, but in a slightly different shade. Human desire is predictable, but the interpretations of others’ actions, that’s a labyrinth. And most people walk through it blindfolded. I like to think it’s conditioned—an avoidance mechanism so people don’t have to confront the brutal truth. Humans are inherently selfish, often driven by hidden agendas, so the rare ones who are genuinely good shy away from even entertaining the possibility that an action could spring from pure malice or self-interest. To acknowledge that would fracture the fragile trust and mutual tenderness that underpins the connection. Humans and their emotions, oftentimes misplaced or miscalculated, will never fail to fascinate me.
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