are all (or almost all) men bad? like when you said in a previous ask that 99.9% of straight men are not viable partners, do you literally mean this, or is it an exaggeration? I struggle with this sometimes because I want to have a balanced worldview but I am also not sure what to think anymore. I've seen the statistics about male violence and I know that even those who don't commit violence may still be misogynistic in some way, but surely not all of them are bad?
Its not that I think every male partner is going to kill you, or rape you, or beat you, or punch walls, or scream at you, or call you names, or emotionally abuse you, or be neglectful....its just that it's a lot of them.
And its the fact that if he's not doing all that, he's still cheating, or calling women bitches and cunt and other slurs, or watching porn, or you have an unequal distribution of domestic labor, or he expects you to prioritize his career over yours, or he expects you to have his children and be financially dependent on him, or he expects to be the decision maker or man of the house, or he laughs at rape jokes, or he uses you as his therapist, or he's into BDSM, or he believes in a male-God figurehead, or he believes in misogynistic versions of "cultural relativism", or he wishes you would wear makeup or shave your legs, or he is pro-sex work, or he never learned to cook or do laundry so it falls to you, or this or that and on and on and on.
And even if none of that applies, absolutely none of it, even if he's individually a perfect male partner....he is still a part of your oppressor class. He still holds societal power over you, in ways that you were both socialized in, and that will bleed into how you make decisions, how you handle problems, how you navigate fights, and how you structure your life.
So I do not recommend male partners. Because that is recommending a lifetime of dealing up close and personally with misogyny, even in tiny tinges. Of course, every woman has free will, so if you do pursue a male partner, that's why I offer advice on how to do it most safely.
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