jackal

Learn to articulate how you're feeling without accusing anyone of having bad intentions. You can say "I'm afraid of being alone" without saying "you're just going to leave me like everyone else." You can say "I need some reassurance" without saying "you probably don't love me anymore." You can say "I'm afraid I've hurt your feelings and I'd like to talk it through" without saying "you don't even like me anymore." You can say "I want to spend more time with you" without saying "you've gotten tired of me." You can say "I feel misunderstood" without saying "you always judge me." Try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Have a conversation focused on finding solutions instead of escalating the conflict.

sooo annoying that my parents didn't provide emotional support growing up now it's a whole fucking thing

people really will just stroll into a conversation about the dehumanising way our society treats children and start their argument with "I work with dogs, which is like working with children and makes my opinion worth listening to"

I know this might make people mad, but absolutely refusing to even attempt to treat your mental illness, and instead just endlessly inflicting your unmitigated episodes on the people around you, is abusive. Your loved ones are not stress toys that you can just squeeze every time you feel bad. It is bad if someone says your repeated behavior is hurting them, and you take no steps to change. I know damn well that you can’t always help how your brain acts, but I’ve also spent a lot of years trying to stop my spiraling brain in its tracks, work on strategies to calm down, and consider the impact I’m having on others, because I grew up in a household with people who have the attitude of, “I have the right to consume all the attention in the house and drain your energy every single day because I feel miserable, and you’re the bad guy if you say that I’m making you feel bad and that I need to get help. I can treat you however I want because of my anxiety.”

we lost the plot when people started saying "afabs" or "amabs" like that's an adjective or a noun. or, especially, a discrete category of person you can make generalisations about. agab is just a single event that happens to most (but not all) newborns. it doesn't mean that person was raised as their agab. it doesn't mean that their body looks a certain way. litcherally it was someone looking at da baby and going "seems like a boy" or whatever and writing that shit down

reblog to give a trans woman a yummy burger

glad i reached my target audience of ppl showing love to their trans gfs/wives through the power of burger

okay so since making this post i've become the target audience

I always wish the concept of plurality/multiple selves was more widely accepted because I’ll be watching someone play a game and say something strange then immediately go “what’s wrong with you man” and it’s like wow I do that.girl turn around plurality is behind you