dress desires 😍

This past week marked one year since I purchased the first femme clothing for myself. Since that first package arrived at my door, I believe there has only been a single day that I have not worn something girly around the house. It’s usually nothing more than pj bottoms and a feminine t-shirt or top, but it makes my whole world feel right when I put them on.

As with any anniversary, inevitably thoughts turn to the past and what led up to this point. Below is a small sample of some of the things I have learned during this year.

I am a shopaholic

I truly am, my closet is overflowing. I am still learning what works on me, some of the items do and the others I am sure I can find something to go with them to make the perfect outfit!

Sizes are just someone’s random half assed guess

Seriously, I am sure there will be some in depth investigative reporting soon to confirm this.

If it looks good on the ultra petite anorexic teenage model, it’s probably not for you

I know it’s cute and even a bit baggy on her, but you’re still probably going to have to stretch it out of shape to get it over your head and the hem won’t cover your belly button.

Self checkout is better than sliced bread

I know people say that no one really cares what you are buying, well they must be shopping in different stores than I am. I also shop the local discount store early in the morning. Although there are plenty of bored employees stocking shelves at that time watching your every move, the odds are greatly reduced that your ex sister-in-law’s best friend will come around the corner of the cosmetic aisle just as you are grabbing your favorite brand of mascara. She knows for a fact that you have no one in your life to be picking this up for. And she has a big mouth.

Makeup is the ultimate game changer

One of the hardest things to learn yet can make the biggest impact on your appearance. Even subtle changes with your makeup can change your looks from “chic princess” to “psychedelic clown turned crack whore”.

Nail polish is liquid happiness

When first coming out, Caitlyn Jenner was asked what she most looked forward to as a woman. She was widely criticized when her answer was nail polish, but I get it. Nothing can lift my spirits more!

Pantyhose is designed to only run when you are making that last tug to confine everything in the control top

I love wearing hosiery but sometimes getting pantyhose on can be a challenge. And why is it when you do get everything situated just right, it is at that moment you realize you need to pee?

Having smoothly shaven and moisturized legs is the best feeling in the world… for about 24 hours

If I stopped all this tomorrow, I don’t think I could ever go back to hairy legs. But that prickly sensation and bumps in certain areas is definitely a turn off. I have tried every trick and product I can find, but still have problems. It is getting better, I don’t know if it is what I am doing or my skin becoming accustomed to shaving.

So I have had a lot of request, “How can I become more of a sissy?” etc. I decided to put together a post of some of the things I do, and things that will help you, in your sissification.  This post is “bloggy” more than anything, so you’ll just have to wait for more of my own sissy pics~  ;)  Anyone can become more feminine, old, big, small, whatever…. trust me, I am older than most might think…. nothing is impossible, just a matter of how much you are willing to do! Let’s get started~

HRT (Hormone replacement therapy):

is NOT something you do to become a sissy. HRT is a serious decision, and should be made after consulting professionals (Doctor, and Therapist). I know it’s fun to read the captions about taking HRT etc… but it WILL cause permanent long term effects on your body, and can also lead to other permanent, dangerous, side-effects if not taken properly.  From my own experience, when I was young and stupid, I do not condone HRT unless you are SERIOUSLY considering transitioning.

The Workout: Getting in shape is very important! The more feminine your figure, the easier it will be to pull of a feminine sissy appearance! This is make basic routine for my legs and butt (I am pretty thin otherwise, luckily). I do this 3 times a week.  On the off days, I jump rope! It’s a great, easy way to burn fat/calories, and you can do it almost anywhere. It is important here to mention, you want tone, slender muscles, not bulk; more reps, less weight. Also I don’t really work my arms out at all, that way I don’t have big shoulders etc… However, if you have extra weight in those areas, you might want to work on toning them down as well.

Body Hair:

Shave those legs sissy! Getting rid of body hair, is one of the most feminizing things you can do, that achieve almost instant results!  I always see sissies posting pictures, asking how they look, and they are brandishing unshaven legs etc. This will break the illusion instantly (obviously the reason for this can very depending on what you define as being a sissy, and how feminine a sissy should be). You don’t even have to shave all the time! For example, I use a beard/hair buzzer on the closest setting to shave my legs (if I am just doing photos), because the slight stubble will not really be noticeable, and I can avoid any razor-burn/ingrown hair etc… That being said, my hair is already quite fine/thin and not very dark. Some of you might have to shave completely. I suggest you look at many youtube videos on how to shave, to lessen the effects of burn etc.  “But I have hair EVERYWHERE!” Yes, some of us are not as fortunate when it comes to hair. This is one of those times where I mentioned in the beginning; “how much are you willing to do?” Laser hair removal is cheap, and can effectively reduce/thin/remove body hair. Look into whats available near you! 

Stockings:

STOCKINGS ARE SEXY!!!! Seriously, on those nice smooth legs, stockings will make your legs 10x sexier, and feminine, just how a sissy sluts legs should look. (Also, you can cheat here. If you have fine hair like me, just be lazy; shave your legs real close with the hair buzzer, then put on some black/nude sheer stockings, and your legs will look sexy smooth for photos!). Stockings can also help manage the appearance of your legs. They make them look longer and more tone. They also create a nice consistent color! Nothing is sexier than rubbing your smooth nylon legs together. It drives most crazy. (I love it when I guy rubs his hands over my stocking legs, and tears at the rump to get to my, lady parts hehe)

Makeup:

Is not as hard as you think, so don’t be intimidated. It takes me about 20-30min to achieve a decent makeup look that I am satisfied with! There are literally thousands of girls on youtube doing howto makeup tutorials. Fine a girl with your same skin complexion and watch her videos. See what product she uses, how she uses it, and there is probably going to be a style of makeup that you like. Watch, practice, learn. You can buy the same makeup in the vids online. Also, there are makup apps on the phone you can use too (if you’re lazy). Get a nice clean shave, take a selfie, and makeup away! When I am feeling lazy, I use a combination of “Airbrush” “YouCam Makeup” and “Perfect365″. 

Hair/Wig:

A quality hairpiece is essential. A cheap party wig, is going to give you a cheap party look…. a quality piece, not only will look 10x better, but will last 10x longer with proper care. It will also look waaaay more convincing when you meet your guy in person! So don’t be cheap here.

Clothes:

Don’t just buy clothes that you think look great on the model, they might not fit you the same way. Buy clothes that work for you, and that show off your most prominent feature. For example: I don’t buy hot-pants, because don’t have a bubble-butt yet, and they just wouldn’t fill out…. However, I my legs, or probably my best asset, so miniskirt/dress all the way!  You’re a sissy, the sluttier, the better in my opinion (within the tips above). Online shopping makes this a breeze, just measure yourself, and look at size charts.

High Heels:

Nothing screams sissy more than having to prance around on a pair of slutty heels! 

(Other Things To Consider)

Your surroundings. Don’t take pictures in your bathroom, and clean your room. I nice clean room/bedroom background is really going to make your feminine sissy self stand out.

Photo filters can add a better sense of lighting if you have poor conditions or a not so great camera.

Be confident.

When meeting a guy, make sure they know what they are in for. Make it clear your a CD or just a Sissy etc.

Have fun! Explore your femininity.

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It makes me feel like a real girl!

This is going to be my response to a message I received through an anonymous submitter.

“I often see pretty CDs who say on their profiles they are straight, zero interest in men, often have a supportive wife or gf, etc. It doesn’t add up. Why would a straight guy put in the time & effort to look great, assume the aura and persona of a beautiful & desirable woman, then totally deny the sexual attraction part? Is is truly all about the illusion, playing the role, and nothing else? Example: you are a lovely CD who would easily pass for an attractive woman.

At a club or party, you notice a man watching you. Handsome guy, he’s not leering or being a jerk. Maybe he reads you as CD, maybe not, but he likes what he sees and he approaches you. How do you react? Is it just a compliment to your crossdressing skill? Do you privately laugh? (Buddy, if you only knew…) Are you flattered? Is it a turn-on? And if you’re turned on, is it a general feeling, or do you feel pretty and desired the way a woman would feel? See where I’m going with this?

I’m not saying you would follow through on it. I suppose most crossdressers would not (it would be a huge step to take). Still, it’s hard for me to believe that a guy would try so hard to be beautiful, feminine, sexy, alluring, and NOT respond at all when a man reacts with genuine sexual and romantic interest. It just seems like a denial of what the x-dressed lady is trying to accomplish. Anyway, I was curious and though I’d ask (never asked a CD this before). Your thoughts? Thanks!”

I’m going to address each point, one by one.

“It doesn’t add up. Why would a straight guy put in the time & effort to look great, assume the aura and persona of a beautiful & desirable woman, then totally deny the sexual attraction part?” I don’t know if the phrasing was intentional or not, but that’s a loaded question. Crossdressers like myself aren’t “denying” anything because there’s nothing there to deny in the first place. This question is based on the assumption that the only reason women enjoy being feminine/pretty is because they want to look good for a man. This is NOT true! Women enjoy looking good for a variety of reasons. Main one being self esteem. Another is that they’re just comfortable being pretty. I know that some women are comfortable regardless of how they look and that’s fine, but some women actually LIKE to do makeup and LIKE to wear dresses and high heels. To them it’s not a drudgery like it is for other women. To them it’s actually fun! And they will do those things whether or not a man is going to see them, because that’s not who they’re doing it for.

“Is is truly all about the illusion, playing the role, and nothing else?”

I do it for many reasons. I primarily dress for creative expression. I LOVE putting together cute outfits and modeling them. Women’s fashion just has an infinitely greater diversity than men’s fashion. It’s the difference between painting in black and white and painting with every color imaginable. 

Also, I like classy, elegant, feminine women. And unfortunately there aren’t that many women, and even fewer crossdressers, who dress that way. I like sensible high heels, knee length skirts, fitted button down blouses, and dresses that cover up most of your body. Other than fashion magazines, you rarely get to see women dressed in these types of clothes. That’s why I dress the way I do. I do it for me. I dress in a way I would enjoy seeing other people.

That’s not to say that some women don’t dress because they’re seeking attention from others, but that isn't the case for me, nor should it be assumed to be the status quo. As you may have seen from my pictures I don’t do any nudity, nor do I expose myself other than the occasional reveal of the stocking tops. Do I think my pictures have the potential to be sexually arousing? Yes, I believe so. I’ve been told that on many occasions, but that’s not what I’m setting out to do (at least not with the majority of my work.) I have taken more risque pictures, but again, they don’t show anything you wouldn’t see in a department store catalog.

Also, from reading about others and my own experience, crossdressers tend discover their desire for feminine clothing at a young age, before any sort of sexuality is developed. I started when I was really young, maybe 6-7 years old and I just loved the way my mother’s pantyhose felt against my legs. I didn’t know why I liked it, nor did I think about anyone else but myself when playing with my mom’s high heels. I just knew it felt good in a non-sexual way.

“At a club or party, you notice a man watching you. Handsome guy, he’s not leering or being a jerk. Maybe he reads you as CD, maybe not, but he likes what he sees and he approaches you. How do you react? Is it just a compliment to your crossdressing skill? Do you privately laugh? (Buddy, if you only knew…) Are you flattered? Is it a turn-on? And if you’re turned on, is it a general feeling, or do you feel pretty and desired the way a woman would feel?”

It all depends on the approach. For example, here are two messages I’ve received.

Bad - “youve got me rock hard and raging right now. Id love to take you to bed.”

Good - “Though I’m sure you hear it all the time, I wanted to tell you that you look stunning in your pictures. You have a killer smile and a real sense of elegance that you don’t see often in the real world, much less Reddit. Keep it up.”

If you get down to the core of each message, each person is saying that they think I’m attractive. I get the former type quite often, which I tend to simply look over. But the latter is a genuinely nice message which I really enjoy getting and it makes me feel great when I do! That’s the kind of message I would take the time to reply to. 

To answer your question. I would be flattered, but it would not be a turn on. Again, because I’m not really attracted to men. If it was woman on the other hand, I think it would be a turn on. I also think anyone wants to feel attractive and desired, man or woman. It is a double-edged sword though. I think it’s easier to become attractive as a woman; I’m a testament to this since I’m a guy. But this also tends to have the negative effect of tying a woman’s value as a person to her appearance.

What I’ve learned from crossdressing is that most of what we consider beautiful and feminine is a facade. I no longer say someone “is pretty”, but rather they “look pretty” because it is just a temporary state that you shift in and out of. Looking “pretty” is a mask. It’s something you put on and take off each day. It’s not something that you are. As I’m typing this now I’m sitting here in my basketball shorts, hoodie, scratching my two-day old stubble, so I am as far from “pretty” as anyone can be. Yet, I know that if I shave all of my facial and body hair, put on some makeup, a wig, and some cute clothes all of a sudden people think I’m “pretty”. I think it’s unfortunate that many people prescribe to the notion that being pretty is some inherent trait like intelligence, kindness, humor, or character. It puts a lot of undue and unfair pressure on women to focus on their appearance when they could be focusing on things that truly matter. 

“Still, it’s hard for me to believe that a guy would try so hard to be beautiful, feminine, sexy, alluring, and NOT respond at all when a man reacts with genuine sexual and romantic interest.”

I think that is based on the wrong assumption that “femininity = desire to have sex with men”. It’s simply NOT true! Although I will admit there is a subculture of crossdressing whose practitioners call themselves “sissies” the object of which does align with your assumptions, it’s not representative of crossdressing or femininity as a whole. I think Eddie Izzard is a great crossdressing role model and sums it up well by describing himself as “a lesbian in a man’s body”. I mean, if you would approach me when I look female would you approach me when I’m male? I’m the same person, the only thing that changes is how I look. Any changes attributed to your reaction would be for superficial reasons. Just because I get dressed up doesn’t mean I become a different person. I know that some people might see the female persona of a crossdresser as a separate person, but it’s not. Wherever I go and whatever I do, as male or female, my thoughts are the same.

Before I started posting pictures of myself I knew the word “objectification” but I didn’t know what it meant. I don’t think most men ever find out what it’s like to be treated that way. I become not a person with feelings and desires of my own, but an object to fulfill a man’s sexual desires. I am a means to an end. Their goal is to get off and if they can’t convince me to help them reach that goal they’ll move on to the next “girl.“ 

I know quite a few people who started out crossdressing and found you they were transgender. I know that’s not the case for me because I wouldn’t want to endure the hardships that come with the territory of being a woman. 

Women have to work twice as hard to get half as far. Men will ignore you if you don’t look good enough and if you do look pretty they will dismiss you and say anything you achieved was because of your appearance. 

The questions the submitter posed were, in my opinion, based on the assumption that a woman wants to look pretty only because she wants to get the attention of a man. And I think it’s a very harmful assumption. Women aren’t defined by their relation to men. A woman does not exist solely to be a love interest. She is her own person and if a man ever gets to be with her, it is because she allowed it. 

”It just seems like a denial of what the x-dressed lady is trying to accomplish.“

What do you think we’re trying to accomplish? I dress up for me. I don’t seek attention from men. If someone says “you look pretty”, sure that’s nice. But whether or not anyone says it I’m still going to dress up because I have an innate desire to do so, which is not affected by what anyone says or does.