oh no! a curse to lose 3 lbs!

I made this list because, for a lot of trans guys, 'handsome’ makes up 90% of the compliments we get, and can become overused and lose its meaning for us, even if it comes from a genuine place. don’t get me wrong, handsome is a lovely word (and I personally like it a lot), but there are plenty more validating masculine complimentary words out there you can use for your transmasc friends/relatives/partners !!

Instead of just 'handsome’, try also using:

- dashing

- distinguished

- dreamy

- spiffy

- sharp

- charming

- sleek

- sunny

- chipper

- suave

- dapper

- grand

- regal / kingly / princely / knightly

(and some silly ones:)

- hunky

- macho

- boyfriend material / husband material

- fiery / Flamin’ Hot (be careful with “flaming” tho - can be used as a gay slur)

Here’s some food for thought…

DISTRACTION & SELF-SOOTHING TECHNIQUES 

1. Leave - step away from the current stressor physically.

2. Activities - shopping, movies, cooking, haircut, photography, writing?

3. Thinking - fantasies, sexual thoughts, fictional stories?

4. Chores - clean house, redecorate, reorganize, yard-work?

5. Counting - breaths, tiles on the wall, lines on the sidewalk, leaves on a tree?

6. Smells - incense, scented candles, fresh flowers?

7. Sounds - books on tape, the outdoors/nature sounds, music, television?

8. Taste - favorite food, ice cream, ice cubes, fruit, gum/candy?

9. Touch - comfortable clothing, warm water, massage, stress ball?

ALTERNATIVES TO SELF-HARMING

Hold an ice cube in one hand and squeeze it tight - this sensation should create a numbing effect and distract you from your pain.

Write on your wrist (or wherever you self harm) with a red felt-tip marker instead of cutting - draw in the same area you would cut and use red to simulate bleeding without actually breaking the skin.

Don’t be afraid to CRY - this releases stress hormones [ which are good for you ] and eventually you will stop crying and likely feel better.

Write letters to the people who have wronged you. As explicitly as you can describe what they did to you and why you hate them. Keep the letters for later review or tear them up and throw them away. 

Scream face-down in a pillow or scrunched up blanket. [ be sure to tell family/room-mates if you plan using this as a distraction technique so that they don’t come running to your room every time ]

RADICAL ACCEPTANCE - “IT HAS HAPPENED, I HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT.”

* this does not mean you agree with or support bad behavior in others

Getting angry or upset about a situation stops you from seeing what is really happening. Have you ever heard the statement, “blinded by rage”? This often happens to people with overwhelming emotions. Criticizing yourself and being overly judgmental of situations is a lot like wearing sunglasses indoors - you’re missing the details and not seeing everything as it really is. By getting angry and thinking that a situation never should have happened you’re missing the point - it did happen and you do have to deal with it. Additionally, you can’t change the past, and spending large quantities of your time fighting with the past - this is the equivalent to wishful thinking that your current anger will change the outcome of something that’s already happened. You’ll begin to feel paralyzed and helpless in this case and nothing will have the chance to improve. 

Adapted from The DBT Skills Workbook, Matthew McKay, 2007

1) I become clingy because I’m afraid you’ll leave.

CRYSTALS FOR WITCHES W/ BPD!!!

Hello! Recently I’ve been struggling with my bpd, and thought I’d turn to some crystals that may help me cope with it a little easier. Of course these are not the only crystals that can help, but these are just the ones I own.

Lepidolite

Has a calming effect. Promotes self-love, trust, and honesty; helps relieve depression, anger and anxiety, as well as other mental illnesses!

Do not soak in water!

Angelite

Brings peace, serenity, has a calming effect. Can help bring openness in a relationship. Also can help with infections and headaches!

Do not soak in water!

Calcite

Clears negative energy, calms mind, alleviates stress, enhances personal growth. It is a very very very purifying stone! Can improve relationships and help maintain a balance. (I think it would help with a relationship with your FP if you have one!)

Do not soak in water!

Malachite

Positive transformation, in this case I think of helping overcome bpd. Promotes faithfulness in partners. When you have feelings of “well this person must want me dead because ____ ____ ____”, it can help you remember that no! They don’t want you dead, they love you and want you around! Can also help counter self-destructive tendencies in a romantic relationship.

Do not soak in water!

Bloodstone

Healing energy. Helps control stress and anxiety. Helps control anger and calm fears.

Do not soak in water!

*I recommend cleansing these crystals by burying them, setting in moonlight, or using another crystal, such as selenite. These are all water soluble and can be potentially harmful if soaked!*

It’s really common to find witchy mental illness/health related content that is catered towards specific illnesses (usually anxiety and depression). This is more catered to specific symptoms.

Witchcraft is to be used as a supplement to proper medical care, medication and therapy - not as a sole alternative!

Anger:

Amethyst anger release spell

Easy anger release spell

A quick way to cool anger

Anger dispersion magic tea

Anger reducing bath

Bath spell to release anger

“I channel my anger in a healthy, safe and productive manner” sigil

“My anger is under control” sigil

This masterpost

Anxiety:

Anti-anxiety shower spell

Soothing bath spell

Rainy day anxiety spell

I will be okay spell

Anti-anxiety spell jar

Anti-anxiety spell charm

Anti-anxiety tea

Brain Fog + Memory:

ADHD concentration spell bottle

Brainfog lifting

“Brainfog begone” sigil

Rosemary memory spell

Finding things/ memory spell

Memory and concentration spell

Memory enhancement sachet

Memory and awareness spell bottle 

Depression:

Post-depressive-episode bath spell

Ease my depression spell bottle

“Last hope” spell for depression

Anti-depression tea

Gems for depression

Disassociation: 

Spell for disassociation 

Witch’s disassociation bracelet 

“Anti-disassociation” sigil

“I am grounded and in control of my emotions + reactions” sigil

Fatigue:

Spell for energy

Energy gain spell

Energy jar

Energy bath

Crystals for fatigue

“No fatigue” sigil

“Energy” sigil

“I am energetic” sigil

“I have the energy to take a shower” sigil

Flashbacks/trauma

Spell to release emotional blockage

Piece by piece trauma healing spell

Healing from childhood trauma spell bottle

Spell bottle for reassurance 

“My trauma does not hold me back” sigil

Insomnia + nightmares:

Restful sleep and sweet dreams sachet

Sleep crystal spell

Stuffed animal sleep spell

Sleep easy spell sachet

Sleepy witch tip

Nightmare ward charm

Nightmare repellent

Nightmare prevention - crystals and herbs

Dream witch nightmare tips

Intrusive thoughts:

OCD assistance bath

Spell to ward against intrusive thoughts

Spell to control intrusive thoughts

Banish intrusive thoughts incantation

Banishing unwanted thoughts spell

Intrusive thought banishing spell

“I am in control of my OCD” sigil 

Panic attacks:

Panic attack relief pouch

Anti-panic attack spell earrings

Rose Quartz calming spell

“Ease my panic attacks” sigil

“I have less panic attacks” sigil

Paranoia:

Crystals for paranoia

“My paranoia does not control me” sigil

“I don’t let paranoid thoughts overcome me” sigil

“My paranoia does not affect me” sigil

Picking (hair, skin, etc.):

Ease skin picking spell

“I resist the urge to pick my skin” sigil

“I keep from picking” sigil

“My trichotillomania is under control” sigil

“I don’t pull out my hair or eyelashes” sigil

“I am in control and resist the desire to pick my hair” sigil

Mood Swings/Emotional Balance: 

Increasing your emotional tolerance spell

Crystals for BPD

“I regulate my emotions well”

“I am happy and do not have mood swings” sigil

Some tips for witchy things to do in the fall. Feel free to add! Here’s part 2 the one about summer witchcraft

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🍁 Collect rainwater. Be careful with consumption, it can be filthy or sour

🌙 Redecorate your altar with oranges, browns, and dark greens

🍁 Enchant your umbrella to deflect negative energy

🌙 Tea, tea, and more tea! Enchant it, drink it, practice tasseography (divination)

🍁 Make spell jars with leaves, acorns, rocks, and other things you find

🌙 Harvest if you grow herbs

🍁 Keep spending time outside, even if it’s chilly. Remember to dress according to the weather

🌙 Do tons of cleansing and meditation. It’s not unlikely that you’re stressed during the fall, you’re in between summer break and winter break, there might be a lot going on at work. Remember to take breaks and treat yourself once in a while

🍁 Celebrate Mabon and Samhain

🌙 Not really a magick activity but have a movie night with blankets and hot chocolate or tea, it’s so cozy. Make it a part of a witchy sleep over if you’d like

🍁 Bake pies

🌙 CANDLES INCENSE BUUURN THEM ALL

🍁 Read about witchcraft, and learn new spells

🌙 Orange peels and cinnamon sticks. On your altar, in jars. Just orange peels and cinnamon sticks, man

🍁 Enchant sweaters to be extra protective and cozy

🌙 Make a sachet

🍁 If you’re living somewhere cooler, you’ll probably be wearing a jacket. That jacket might have pockets. Put a talisman, a crystal, or a something in one of those pockets. Something you can hold on to whenever you’re insecure

An emoji spell to keep all the negative fuckers and mindsets away from you this October!!

Tea for the soul 

Edible Flowers and Their Properties

what is the harvest moon?

🌜 It is the full moon that is seen nearest to the time of the autumnal equinox, the full moon of september. It is sometimes called the the “Chrysanthemum Moon”, “G*psy Moon”, “Elk Moon”, “Singing Moon,” and “Wine Moon”. It is followed by the hunter’s moon.

what does that mean for witchcraft?

🍎 This is the time for completion. Anything you have left undone or overdue, this is the time to wrap it up. Tie loose ends and trim the fat. As we approach the end of the year, it’s a time to ready a clean slate for the new year.  

🌾 This is the time to collect debts and crops, to reap the efforts you have put in, take what you are owed. Some take this advice to mean to serve just desserts to those that have wronged them.

🌜 There is more moonlight during this full moon, as it rises earlier and appears to stay full for multiple days, which can be used for multiple-night full moon rituals. 

The High Priestess.