International Womenâs Day â being the only girl in the room
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Back when I was working in Student Union events, Iâd invite one or two members of the volunteer tech team to shadow on the larger, professional concerts. One gig, a fairly shy female student who was shadowing asked me how I deal with being âthe only girlâ in the room.
Looking around, I realised that in a room of 20+ people beavering away putting the gig together, we were indeed the only two women. I told her something about just getting stuck in, getting the job done, just âgetting on with itâ and throwing yourself into the teamâbut in my head I knew what I really wanted to say was, âSHHHHH! Donât mention that, theyâll notice weâre not boys.â
For a long time that was my approach: if you donât make a big deal about being the only girl, they donât need to make a thing about you being a girl. Youâre just doing your job just like theyâre doing their job. Iâm a person who can do the job as well as the next person, and the fact that Iâm a woman doesnât need to be a thing. To further bury the issue, I made a point of being able to lift heavy things without help and avoided openly doing female-coded things like fussing about my appearance or getting emotional. I didnât ask for special dispensations.
However, itâs hard to deny that sometimes, it is a thing. And sometimes, ingrained misogyny can make it a thing where it neednât be.
When I was 15, I thought I might like to become a sound engineer. I applied to do work experience at a recording studio in Birmingham. I went down with my Dad to meet the owner and check it out. The owner (a guy) asked me if I really thought this was worth his while. âItâs tough being a sound engineer â thereâs not that many positions out there - thereâs maybe 2 or 3 studios in Birmingham,â he told me, âand not one of them has got a female sound engineerâno oneâs going to be interested in hiring a girl as a sound engineerâthatâs just the truth of itâŚIâm not sure thereâs much point in you being here.â. It was at that point my dad sent me to sit in the sound booth, and though I couldnât hear what was said, I could see through the glass that my Dad was busy tearing this idiot a new one (#godad).
Outright misogyny like that, at least in the present-day events industry, is rare, but thatâs not to say misogyny and sexism in our industry is entirely non-existent. People will assume I have no upper body strength and stop me carrying even the lightest of objects, even after Iâve said Iâm fine. People will automatically assume I know nothing about technical things. Thereâs one engineer (who will remain nameless), who no matter how much I try to explain that I do know stuffâwill be awash with awe every time I do so much as plug in a microphone or coil a cable properly. One time a supplier, during a meeting to discuss hostile vehicle mitigations (terrorist attack prevention) for an event, started asking me if I had children, if I planned to have them, and how my husband feels about my traveling for work (and no, he didnât ask this of my male colleague). The whole âworking womanâ thing honestly seemed to perplex and confuse him. On the other end of the scale, one client (a woman herself) told me that âwomen are better at our job once theyâve had childrenâ (itâs great to know Iâll always be a bit rubbish unless I decide to pop sprogs). And some people, no matter how many times theyâre told that I am the one who wrote the plan, have the plan, and am in charge of the plan, will defer to one of my male co-workers, assuming they are my senior. These are just a few examples of #everydaysexism that happens in our industry.
But you know what⌠none of the above is anything Iâve not been able to laugh at, or brush off, and mostly because when this kind of thing happens, team WMSH always have my back.
My (male) boss - when seeing people going to him, where they clearly should be going to me or one of my other female colleagues (who are actually running the project in question), doesnât hesitate to direct them back, is fully aware of why it happens, and is fully dedicated to putting a stop to it. Heâll call someone out for being sexist sometimes before Iâve finished processing that thatâs whatâs happening and were thinking they were âjust obnoxiousâ. My ordering of taxis on the company dime, when I donât feel comfortable walking alone at night, has never been questioned. Iâve cried in front of co-workers, and have never been branded the âhysterical femaleâ.
So my advice to women looking to get into the events industry is still to get on with the job if itâs the job you want to do. Get stuck in, get the job done, donât worry about being a woman doing it. But equally, donât worry about being seen as female. The industry has changed, even since I was a teenager. Thereâs no denying that female sound engineers and crew are still very few and far between (and the reasons for that need to be addressed, alongside the under representation of other marginalised genders), but here I am, planning two of the few outdoor events going ahead this June, alongside two other bad-ass female production managers from other companies, and working within a production company that is 60% female.
Surround yourself with people whoâll join you in laughing at those who might underestimate you because of your gender, and who will be your ally. You donât have to be a man to work in events, and youâve nothing to prove to anyone worth proving it to.
Alice Hunt
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