Help me improve this and/or share it. There are so many misconceptions floating around.

What is Omorashi?

Omorashi is a fetish centering around people who are desperate to pee or wet themselves. Some omorashi lovers enjoy the feeling of a full bladder, or the feeling of losing control, while others strictly enjoy watching. The word omorashi comes from Japanese and means “to wet oneself.”

Eww. That’s disgusting.

Pee is sterile when it comes out. It’s certainly not for everyone, but then again, neither is any other fetish. However, we need to clearly establish what omorashi is not:

Omorashi is not watersports or golden showers.

Omorashi is not drinking pee.

Omorashi is not peeing on other people.

Omorashi is not a fascination with urination in general.

Omorashi is not diapers or adult babies, although those fetishes may also involve wetting.

Some omorashi lovers may enjoy these things as well, but they are not part of the omorashi fetish. Omorashi is strictly bladder desperation and wetting.

You should be ashamed / I’m ashamed.

Peeing is taboo. Incontinence in adults is taboo. Any fetish that involves something taboo will be subject to shaming by society. Many kinksters cycle through phases of acceptance and shame. For omorashi lovers, the high of a desperation and wetting experience often comes with a shameful comedown. Suddenly you’re left with a puddle of cooling pee to clean up, and after getting release for the arousal, you’re down to the level of excitement vanilla people experience with regards to pee, which is to say none.

There’s nothing inherently shameful about any activity between consenting adults that doesn’t harm anyone else. It’s society that puts that shame on us. Nobody has that right. Like any other kink, the majority will find it weird at best, disgusting or immoral at worst. We can choose to accept our interest or attempt to reject it for society’s sake. The latter is unnecessary and often futile. Many people have been ashamed about their fetish and tried to somehow erase or forget it. Usually, it doesn’t work. It’s like repressing a sexual orientation. It doesn’t work and we shouldn’t have to do it.

That’s sick.

A fetish is normally not seen as pathological. It’s not a disease unless it causes significant distress to the fetishist or others in their life. 99.9% of omorashi fetishists do not have significant impairments to their daily functioning or general happiness due to their fetish. For many, it enhances their sex life. As for the moral sense of “sick,” see above.

Why would anyone get turned on by needing to pee or seeing others who need to pee?

There are many elements to it that cross over into other fetishes:

Exhibitionism. Being visibly desperate to pee, or peeing oneself in public is an attention-grabber that some people find arousing.

Humiliation. Some people get turned on by being humiliated, or humiliating others. Wetting accidents are certainly embarrassing.

Masochism. The feeling of a desperately full bladder is painful and uncomfortable. Some people enjoy the pain and discomfort. Paradoxically, sometimes pain equals pleasure.

Sadism. Some people like inflicting pain and discomfort on others, or watching them inflict it upon themselves. Knowing the other person is desperately struggling against their own body, or seeing them embarrassed, can be arousing to some.

Dominance/submission. Some omorashi fetishists enjoy controlling another person’s bladder, or having their own bladder controlled.

Voyeurism. Some people get turned on by watching other people without their knowledge. (The morality of which depends entirely on context and that discussion is outside the scope of this FAQ.)

Ultimately, omorashi is all of those things and none of them. Just like some people get turned on by earlobes or balloons or latex, some people get off on pee desperation and wetting.

But how could such a fetish develop?

When this question is asked on fetish forums, the answers are too many and varied to come up with a one-size-fits-all origin story. Some people have had an unusual fascination with peeing since childhood, and at some point it turned sexual. Some people have defining events that they link to the origin of their fetish. Some people were merely curious and started experimenting. Some people explore omorashi as an extension of other fetishes, such as the ones mentioned above. Some people were bedwetters as children, others were not. Some people have known about their fetish since before they became sexually aware, for others it’s a more recent discovery.

Holding your bladder until it explodes sounds dangerous.

It’s almost unheard of that a bladder actually ruptures from the inside out. You will almost certainly wet your pants long before there’s any danger to your bladder, unless there is something physically obstructing the urethra. It’s possible for urine to back up into the kidneys and damage them, but this is, again, a one in a million type scenario that is highly unlikely to occur during a pee holding session.

The biggest danger isn’t to your bladder, but to your kidneys. If you drink too much in too little time, your kidneys can’t filter all the liquid fast enough. If you get kidney pain, abort immediately. Make sure to drink sensibly. Don’t down a gallon in an hour.

Many fetishes carry risk, but omorashi is a very low-risk fetish, considering it involves inflicting physical pain. It’s no balloon fetish, but for what it is, it’s rather safe.

But there was a woman who died from holding it too long?

The origin of this urban myth is a pee holding contest called “Hold your wee for a Wii”, held by a radio station. A woman, Jennifer Strange, died after competing in the contest. The cause of death was water intoxication, not holding it too long. The dose makes the poison, and even water becomes poisonous in high enough doses. If you drink too much, your electrolytes–which your body need in order for muscles and nerve cells to fire–become too diluted, and you could die.

Water intoxication occurs when you consume way too much liquid over a short period of time. Going to the bathroom wouldn’t have saved Jennifer Strange.

The best safety advice is not to overdo your water consumption. It takes a whole lot of water to get water intoxication. Another tip is to mix it up with energy drinks, which contain electrolytes.

What is this I see about 4/10 or 10/10?

These are numbers on the “desperation scale” where 0/10 is not having to pee at all, and 10/10 is on the verge of losing control completely. The numbers are obviously subjective, but are meant to give some idea about what state the person is in.

Where can I find out more or meet others who are into omorashi?

Trying to act helpful but in that knowing way, “oh no whats wrong :(”

Kissing, touching, maybe even a hand pressing on their partner’s bladder, “I just want to help, tell me what’s wrong, baby”

Ups

Trying to act helpful but in that knowing way, “oh no whats wrong :(”

Kissing, touching, maybe even a hand pressing on their partner’s bladder, “I just want to help, tell me what’s wrong, baby”