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okay . i do want to say that i genuinely and sincerely apologise for not changing the title of this blog until today . it slipped my mind that it was something to be done as i had logged off here and honestly completely forgot about the blog for two months . i will happily admit that i have made mistakes and that i’ve definitely messed up , and i take accountability for that which is why i no longer have an active rp blog . i understand there is no obligation to believe or forgive me , but i hope that me removing myself from the rpc will help people feel safer and give me the time i need to reflect and improve to be a healthier and better person overall . thanks for reading !
logged on here because a friend told me apparently ppl are claiming im transphobic for not changing the title of a blog i havent been on in over two months . first of all : dont be stupid , i am Literally Trans . i simply didnt know the password to here until i had reset it today . secondly no , i will not be deactivating this blog . i dont fucking use it . but i refuse to document the only record of x’s abuse over the years . DO NOT DARE TRY AND SILENCE VICTIMS JUST BECAUSE YOU DISLIKE ME .
So, none of that was an apology for deadnaming someone. You can also be trans and still do or say things that are transphobic. Also, you logged in 2 months ago and you knew at that time that you were deadnaming Rosario and still hasn’t changed the title. You literally needed to be callout on it to do it. No one is trying to silence you or even asked for you to delete your blog. Literally, all I’ve said is that the title of your blog was transphobic and that you lied when you said you only had 2 blogs since you also have this one, a 3rd one.
i don’t count blogs i don’t use in my blog count ? especially a callout blog of all things . also , i’ve literally spoken to rosario behind the scenes multiple times and we agreed not to be on this blog anymore because it was over , which is why the title was not changed ! but yall act like you know everything i swear to god .
So, just because you didn’t intend on being on a blog AFTER knowing you were deadnaming someone it makes it ok to do it? Got it. Makes a lot of sense. It’s really hard to own up and apologize for you.
thats not ?? at all what i said oh my god . please get some basic reading comprehension. im saying you dont know everything or anything about situations YOU WERE NOT IN . everyone wants to move on and you are just dragging shit out .
logged on here because a friend told me apparently ppl are claiming im transphobic for not changing the title of a blog i havent been on in over two months . first of all : dont be stupid , i am Literally Trans . i simply didnt know the password to here until i had reset it today . secondly no , i will not be deactivating this blog . i dont fucking use it . but i refuse to document the only record of x’s abuse over the years . DO NOT DARE TRY AND SILENCE VICTIMS JUST BECAUSE YOU DISLIKE ME .
So, none of that was an apology for deadnaming someone. You can also be trans and still do or say things that are transphobic. Also, you logged in 2 months ago and you knew at that time that you were deadnaming Rosario and still hasn’t changed the title. You literally needed to be callout on it to do it. No one is trying to silence you or even asked for you to delete your blog. Literally, all I’ve said is that the title of your blog was transphobic and that you lied when you said you only had 2 blogs since you also have this one, a 3rd one.
i don’t count blogs i don’t use in my blog count ? especially a callout blog of all things . also , i’ve literally spoken to rosario behind the scenes multiple times and we agreed not to be on this blog anymore because it was over , which is why the title was not changed ! but yall act like you know everything i swear to god .
logged on here because a friend told me apparently ppl are claiming im transphobic for not changing the title of a blog i havent been on in over two months . first of all : dont be stupid , i am Literally Trans . i simply didnt know the password to here until i had reset it today . secondly no , i will not be deactivating this blog . i dont fucking use it . but i refuse to document the only record of x’s abuse over the years . DO NOT DARE TRY AND SILENCE VICTIMS JUST BECAUSE YOU DISLIKE ME .
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so… unless something crazy happens, this is my last post here for good. to be honest ? i really need to be able to fully heal, so i’ll be turning notifications off for this blog and not logging back on. i may also be making it password protected. if anyone else wants to continue this thing you’re welcome to, but it’s been a year and a half now and i honestly just don’t want to be reminded of this period of my life anymore.
just in case rosario happens to see this: apologise to me directly. message me. don’t just say you apologised years ago and then vague me again for daring to still be traumatised. you stalked me for months. you made me feel like i was delusional. so either actually apologise to me and not in public to save face, or just stop saying you did.
this chapter of my life is over. goodbye. i will remain on here for an hour or so with anon and messages on. then i’ll log out for good.
yall i swear to god idk who it is doing it but don’t fucking harass x? deadnaming is never okay regardless of what a person has done. i’ll admit i’m VERY sceptical to believe change as i have received information about x devaluing what x put me through and calling it a ‘smear campaign’ as recently as december 2021, but do not bully people in my name or the name of anyone else. just block and move on.
x’s known urls: archclergy , dicerph , imbicilite
x’s current alias: rosario raven
fandoms x is currently known to write in: pokémon, the owl house, steven universe and fandomless muses
received an email update to this blog stating that rosario is whitley along with proof provided by rosario xself. live link to this proof can be found here. in case x deletes this post, i’ll post a screencap of it below.
furthermore, x has supposedly been going around and telling people they interact with that any information about x currently online is a smear campaign and alleging that x’s victims were still in the wrong. this is absolutely not true. a reminder that x has a history of stalking (and admitted this xselves), slander, defamation, emotional abuse, blackmail amongst other things against many victims.
if you need detailed proof about what x has done, you can find their full callout here from 2020. there is evidence that x has been going around continuing to slander their ex and call this a ‘smear campaign’ as of december 2021, over a year since x had been originally called out.
this is not a hit list, nor is it meant to serve as a call to attack rosario. however given the fact x has been spreading misinformation and has updated x’s name i found it appropriate to post an update for those who may interact with x and do not know what x has actually done. this blog’s askbox and ims will remain open for anyone who would like to share experiences.
you shouldn't be telling people to 'stay away' from a certain blog or anything. that's very bad. like you can warn ppl of them but don't go saying to 'stay away' from a certain blog just because you and others had gone through shit with whitley. i'm not defending whatsoever cause their actions are hella gross (and illegal like you mentioned) but still. let others figure it out on their own.
i didn’t tell anyone to stay away - i put information up regarding my own experiences. “let others figure it out” you mean let x abuse other people? gross, anon. don’t contact me again.
can you really get ptsd from a relationship with someone you never met irl? [[ genq, im asking for personal reasons bc i have a friend who reminds me a lot of rosario, but im wondering if im just being sensitive or imagining it ]]
stares at my diagnosis … yeah. abuse doesn’t have to be physical. literally anything can be considered trauma, it’s how your body and your mind reacts to it. but to answer your question yes it’s absolutely possible and i have documents written by a professional saying as much.
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like i get that things are bad, and people shouldn't interact cause of whit's obvious behavior, but why bother putting this out for the world to see? just deal with it yourselves and move on
blackmail is a crime , anon. stalking me was also a crime. i have documented proof of harassment. i’m allowed to talk about my own abuse if i want to, especially since it led to me being diagnosed with post traumatic stress, and especially since x has a record history of this. it serves as a warning because this behaviour is a repeat pattern, not something x did once and never again.
how did you find out whitley changed aliases again?
i’m still signed into the email for this blog on my phone so whenever someone reblogs or replies or sends me an ask i always get a notification . got a reply to the original callout post earlier telling me about x’s alias change .
x’s known urls: archclergy , dicerph , imbicilite
x’s current alias: rosario raven
fandoms x is currently known to write in: pokémon, the owl house, steven universe and fandomless muses
received an email update to this blog stating that rosario is whitley along with proof provided by rosario xself. live link to this proof can be found here. in case x deletes this post, i’ll post a screencap of it below.
furthermore, x has supposedly been going around and telling people they interact with that any information about x currently online is a smear campaign and alleging that x’s victims were still in the wrong. this is absolutely not true. a reminder that x has a history of stalking (and admitted this xselves), slander, defamation, emotional abuse, blackmail amongst other things against many victims.
if you need detailed proof about what x has done, you can find their full callout here from 2020. there is evidence that x has been going around continuing to slander their ex and call this a ‘smear campaign’ as of december 2021, over a year since x had been originally called out.
this is not a hit list, nor is it meant to serve as a call to attack rosario. however given the fact x has been spreading misinformation and has updated x’s name i found it appropriate to post an update for those who may interact with x and do not know what x has actually done. this blog’s askbox and ims will remain open for anyone who would like to share experiences.
alright - i want to preface by stating i absolutely did not want it to have to come to this. at all. ever. but after being advised by several people i trust ( some of whom are my closest friends ), i have decided to post this for my own safety and sanity. please do not interact with me if you interact with my ex boyfriend, imbicilite / vaniteuxite ( as well as other blogs ). this is not a petty drama following a breakup. i put up with consistent guilt tripping, gaslighting, victim blaming, manipulation and emotional abuse during my time being involved with whit, as well as having his friends sent after me to white-knight for him whenever we got into a disagreement.
i do not want to be forced to make a full callout, so i will include some brief screencaps underneath my post. anyone who needs to see more can contact me privately, but i will not be sharing the full conversation - both for whit’s privacy and for my own as a great deal of personal details were included. his silence has made me concerned that he is going to try and twist this to paint me as the villain ( as he has so often done whenever anyone calls him out ), so i just wanted to put this out there and get it seen, both for my safety and peace of mind and for yours. i would also like to point out that he has already attempted to make himself the victim of this situation, and made it public himself. here is evidence of that so he cannot blame me for this:
this is not a call to abuse, harass or otherwise harm whit. he is ill, something that he has stated several times, and he is trying to get help. but, in his own words, sometimes you have to speak up to avoid others getting hurt. and after a tough decision ( and him vpn blocking me on every platform and blog ) i have reached this decision. whit if you’re reading this, i truly apologise. i will not make a callout on you as i know that you have trauma regarding them, but i HAVE to make this post for myself. i will not be bullied into staying quiet. i can’t. screenshots and further explanation will be below the cut. please like / reblog if you read this so i know who ends up seeing it.
i typically don’t involve myself in things like this, but. i’m the person that whitley accused of being an awful and mean backstabber who uses people for free graphics. so i feel my involvement is now necessary, and my screenshot heavy experience will be posted under the cut. as kier said above, please like or reblog if you read this so i know who has seen it.
i don’t want to drag up old drama, but I am also someone who has had trouble with whit in the past and had many people confide in me about being uncomfortable rping and interacting with him. those individuals repeatedly came to me in very emotionally unstable states due to being guilt tripped in order to continue to interact, always catering to whit’s preferred scenarios.
additionally, whit very often victim blamed myself and these people, and I myself was personally triggered by the way he romanticized abuse.
when i got the courage to call whit out, it was due to him actively hurting one of my friends. the callout I posted was angry and not very well written, and I do wish I had written it differently. However, that does not negate the reaction it got, wherein I was attacked by several anons, whitley himself, blocked when I didn’t give whit his way, and then approached by several more anons thanking me for making the callout post, and revealing that they too had been hurt by whit’s actions.
i reblog this only to let it be known that there is an additional someone who can vouch for OP’s story, and to share my own experience.
So I understand how these posts look. It looks like a lot of personal drama that has been passed back and forth - so why post it on tumblr at all? Why not like, deal with things in private? If Whitley does this stuff, why not block him?
This goes beyond personal bullshit. This is why I haven’t talked about what Whitley has done to me: it’s personal, so I don’t need to put it on tumblr. Now, Whitley has done this to a lot of people.
I am linking the stalking that Whitley has done to me since November. Recently, I had to change all of my discord information because Whitley found it and I don’t feel safe joining discord servers now. In November, I made the mistake of informing him that I will be blocking him (after repeatedly asking him to please, please leave me out of his personal issue). Since then, he has been keeping track of anything that I post. Multiple people have asked him to stop, to leave me alone, and he has refused.
Please listen to people when we say that we have been stalked and abused.
this is not ‘one incident’ this is not ‘breakup drama’ this is not one person with a problem with another, this is dozens of people with their own stories, their own bad feelings, their own struggles.
the level of abuse, gaslighting and manipulation i have seen come out of this person. it’s hard to believe, but i am asking you to believe it.
i have been told that whit seems to think i’m personally responsible for turning people against him, which i never attempted to do (until this moment i guess). in fact, i’ve had nothing to do with whit for months now, but he is still warning people away from me. he’s still claiming extreme emotional trauma over being ghosted by a group of people he was making feel uncomfortable and unsafe; as if he didn’t cause us severe emotional distress first.
i might get called out by him for ghosting him, but sometimes that’s what you have to do to make yourself feel comfortable. his presence in my life was causing me anxiety, so i stopped talking to him. and contrary to his belief, that doesn’t require an explanation, no-one has to explain themselves, no-one needs to give someone who is mentally harming them the reason that they are leaving. especially if the person they are leaving is known for manipulation and guilt tripping people into staying or stepping outside their comfort zone.
i don’t have screencaps, i don’t have a long winded story or a big dramatic reveal. what i have is months of the little things that eat at you. the vague feeling of being watched and stalked, the unease and discomfort, the feeling like the next thing you say might set someone off in a bad way, or that it might be taken out of context and used against you publicly, or that someone is talking behind your back, or trying to get you to do something you don’t want to do and won’t take no for an answer, or any other number of tricks that whitley used to try and keep people quiet and complacent and scared. well i’m none of those things right now and i’m here to tell you:
it doesn’t have to be one huge moment, it can be lots of little moments. and that’s okay and valid too.
i would like to add onto these posts and say i’ve made my own post about whitley. i didn’t want to add it to here, because i thought it would be better in it’s own separate post…
anyways, if you would like to see it, and/or reblog it, i will link it here. and i just want to reblog this post itself to get this spread around and to get the word out of all of this to as many people as possible. my heart goes out to everyone involved in this, and with him, and if you need anyone at all to talk or vent to, my IMs are always open.
this will be my last addition to this post. i am tired. i am physically ill due to stress and anxiety, and mentally i’m not doing too hot. at the time of writing this, i have whitley blocked everywhere, on every platform. the reason i state this is - after the posting of my original post yesterday - whit sent me friend requests, both on my current discord and on my secondary one. as i am someone who believes in seeing the good in people, i accepted his request in the hopes to sort things out. however, this was not to be the case.
i am, once again, putting this under a read more as it got rather lengthy and has several screenshots. i don’t want to clog people’s dash with this. i just want to feel safe and okay again.
This user is @/archclergy @/dicerph && considers Whitley a deadname. X now uses the handle Rosario and the pronouns x/xs/xself, so refer to x accordingly.
@archclergy : “ This disclaimer, “I’ve changed my alias from whitley to rosario for gender-affirming purposes” , has been in my rules page since day 1 on this blog. It’s a little more out of the way as of my latest page updates, but it’s still there and was front and center in my rules for the first two months of this blog’s existence. I’m not hiding anything, nor am I trying to fool anyone. I simply no longer wish to go by a name that gives me the dysphorias. It’s my deadname. I don’t like being called it. " disclaimer x references, screencapped beneath.
pokemon, the owl house, steven universe & fandomless muses beware.
wanted to let this blog know. i didn't know about whitley's behavior prior to becoming mutuals with them a few months ago and just came across this blog after hearing from a friend that there was a lot of shit surrounding them.
that being said, i wanted to let you know that whitley is actively still bringing this situation up (as of august) and saying things like "bad things were done on both sides" and calling this whole situation a "smear campaign". i don't know if it's important but i just wanted to bring it to your attention.
i'm so sorry for the way they treated you and i hope you're able to heal.
hey anon - thank you for the message. i have this account linked to a separate email so luckily was able to see your ask. it’s … beyond irritating to know he’s still intent on stalking me after over a year has passed. would you be comfortable sending me a dm to talk about this? it would be much appreciated. thanks!
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alright - i want to preface by stating i absolutely did not want it to have to come to this. at all. ever. but after being advised by several people i trust ( some of whom are my closest friends ), i have decided to post this for my own safety and sanity. please do not interact with me if you interact with my ex boyfriend, imbicilite / vaniteuxite ( as well as other blogs ). this is not a petty drama following a breakup. i put up with consistent guilt tripping, gaslighting, victim blaming, manipulation and emotional abuse during my time being involved with whit, as well as having his friends sent after me to white-knight for him whenever we got into a disagreement.
i do not want to be forced to make a full callout, so i will include some brief screencaps underneath my post. anyone who needs to see more can contact me privately, but i will not be sharing the full conversation - both for whit’s privacy and for my own as a great deal of personal details were included. his silence has made me concerned that he is going to try and twist this to paint me as the villain ( as he has so often done whenever anyone calls him out ), so i just wanted to put this out there and get it seen, both for my safety and peace of mind and for yours. i would also like to point out that he has already attempted to make himself the victim of this situation, and made it public himself. here is evidence of that so he cannot blame me for this:
this is not a call to abuse, harass or otherwise harm whit. he is ill, something that he has stated several times, and he is trying to get help. but, in his own words, sometimes you have to speak up to avoid others getting hurt. and after a tough decision ( and him vpn blocking me on every platform and blog ) i have reached this decision. whit if you’re reading this, i truly apologise. i will not make a callout on you as i know that you have trauma regarding them, but i HAVE to make this post for myself. i will not be bullied into staying quiet. i can’t. screenshots and further explanation will be below the cut. please like / reblog if you read this so i know who ends up seeing it.
i typically don’t involve myself in things like this, but. i’m the person that whitley accused of being an awful and mean backstabber who uses people for free graphics. so i feel my involvement is now necessary, and my screenshot heavy experience will be posted under the cut. as kier said above, please like or reblog if you read this so i know who has seen it.
i don’t want to drag up old drama, but I am also someone who has had trouble with whit in the past and had many people confide in me about being uncomfortable rping and interacting with him. those individuals repeatedly came to me in very emotionally unstable states due to being guilt tripped in order to continue to interact, always catering to whit’s preferred scenarios.
additionally, whit very often victim blamed myself and these people, and I myself was personally triggered by the way he romanticized abuse.
when i got the courage to call whit out, it was due to him actively hurting one of my friends. the callout I posted was angry and not very well written, and I do wish I had written it differently. However, that does not negate the reaction it got, wherein I was attacked by several anons, whitley himself, blocked when I didn’t give whit his way, and then approached by several more anons thanking me for making the callout post, and revealing that they too had been hurt by whit’s actions.
i reblog this only to let it be known that there is an additional someone who can vouch for OP’s story, and to share my own experience.
So I understand how these posts look. It looks like a lot of personal drama that has been passed back and forth - so why post it on tumblr at all? Why not like, deal with things in private? If Whitley does this stuff, why not block him?
This goes beyond personal bullshit. This is why I haven’t talked about what Whitley has done to me: it’s personal, so I don’t need to put it on tumblr. Now, Whitley has done this to a lot of people.
I am linking the stalking that Whitley has done to me since November. Recently, I had to change all of my discord information because Whitley found it and I don’t feel safe joining discord servers now. In November, I made the mistake of informing him that I will be blocking him (after repeatedly asking him to please, please leave me out of his personal issue). Since then, he has been keeping track of anything that I post. Multiple people have asked him to stop, to leave me alone, and he has refused.
Please listen to people when we say that we have been stalked and abused.
this is not ‘one incident’ this is not ‘breakup drama’ this is not one person with a problem with another, this is dozens of people with their own stories, their own bad feelings, their own struggles.
the level of abuse, gaslighting and manipulation i have seen come out of this person. it’s hard to believe, but i am asking you to believe it.
i have been told that whit seems to think i’m personally responsible for turning people against him, which i never attempted to do (until this moment i guess). in fact, i’ve had nothing to do with whit for months now, but he is still warning people away from me. he’s still claiming extreme emotional trauma over being ghosted by a group of people he was making feel uncomfortable and unsafe; as if he didn’t cause us severe emotional distress first.
i might get called out by him for ghosting him, but sometimes that’s what you have to do to make yourself feel comfortable. his presence in my life was causing me anxiety, so i stopped talking to him. and contrary to his belief, that doesn’t require an explanation, no-one has to explain themselves, no-one needs to give someone who is mentally harming them the reason that they are leaving. especially if the person they are leaving is known for manipulation and guilt tripping people into staying or stepping outside their comfort zone.
i don’t have screencaps, i don’t have a long winded story or a big dramatic reveal. what i have is months of the little things that eat at you. the vague feeling of being watched and stalked, the unease and discomfort, the feeling like the next thing you say might set someone off in a bad way, or that it might be taken out of context and used against you publicly, or that someone is talking behind your back, or trying to get you to do something you don’t want to do and won’t take no for an answer, or any other number of tricks that whitley used to try and keep people quiet and complacent and scared. well i’m none of those things right now and i’m here to tell you:
it doesn’t have to be one huge moment, it can be lots of little moments. and that’s okay and valid too.
i would like to add onto these posts and say i’ve made my own post about whitley. i didn’t want to add it to here, because i thought it would be better in it’s own separate post…
anyways, if you would like to see it, and/or reblog it, i will link it here. and i just want to reblog this post itself to get this spread around and to get the word out of all of this to as many people as possible. my heart goes out to everyone involved in this, and with him, and if you need anyone at all to talk or vent to, my IMs are always open.
this will be my last addition to this post. i am tired. i am physically ill due to stress and anxiety, and mentally i’m not doing too hot. at the time of writing this, i have whitley blocked everywhere, on every platform. the reason i state this is - after the posting of my original post yesterday - whit sent me friend requests, both on my current discord and on my secondary one. as i am someone who believes in seeing the good in people, i accepted his request in the hopes to sort things out. however, this was not to be the case.
i am, once again, putting this under a read more as it got rather lengthy and has several screenshots. i don’t want to clog people’s dash with this. i just want to feel safe and okay again.
as you can see, whit immediately fell back on old habits. however, i was absolutely determined not to be led on by this anymore, and yes this may have made me seem curt in my replies when it came to him. it was two in the morning when this conversation began, and i sat up with whit all night trying to ensure his safety. i wanted to work things out. i am not a malicious or mean spirited person. i didn’t know the post i made would blow up - i didn’t know people would add on. i had absolutely no idea of any of this : i assumed i was just throwing a psa out into the void.
here we see him victim blaming those who did add on to the callout with their own experiences. he also admits here that his own callout had been in the works for two days. the entire reason i ended up making my post was so that if he posted something about me, i would have a safety net to fall back on. it turns out i was right in doing so.
whit also states that the callout and namedropping are triggers for him. i do not doubt this, and i apologise that it has reached this point. however, people are allowed to speak up about the abuse and pain you put them through. if you do not want them to speak up, do not act that way. period. stop excusing it and stop attempting to get people to take things down just to cover up your mistakes.
it became apparent extremely early on that whit wanted me to take the callout down, and i was willing to negotiate it. however, he had also posted several things on me at this point to try and twist the situation, so when he asked for terms i gave him some, which he is now using to say i “blackmailed” him, when in fact it is the opposite. he asked for me to tell him. i told him.
here, i asked him to take down his reverse callout on me. these were the terms i had for taking my post down. it had private information in it, including other people who were uninvolved and did not consent. i left out a great deal of personal information in my original post - this was utterly uncalled for and i was not having my personal information used as a bargaining chip against me. he also lied about taking these things down, as he did not and didn’t even censor them. in fact, he went on to post more screenshots.
now i had been on a blocklist in my previous fandom. however, the experience was traumatic for me and i was removed because those involved did not want me put there. whit knew how traumatic this was and, as soon as i spoke up about my experience he went to the person and got me put back on the blocklist. he then proceeded to use this as a way to blackmail me into taking down my post and EVERY REBLOG OF IT.
here is the evidence of that. maybe stop weaponising people’s trauma into ensuring someone you hurt stays silent. he also continues to insist that he is the victim, and that i am the abuser despite multiple accounts of his past behaviour and evidence being provided.
he then proceeded to blame my abuse on me yet again. he blamed everything on me, despite the fact that it was his own behaviour that got him to this point. he told me i ended his career, and ruined him, and abused him. i only posted his behaviour, and many others ended up doing the same. i felt bad, so i offered to help him out. when i couldn’t offer enough in monetary value, he asked for a post and i agreed.
when i refused to take the post down immediately, he resorted to blatant blackmailing me with my own trauma. i offered to help him out. i sat with him for hours even though i was exhausted. i told him i’d make a post, and i made one. but no, it wasn’t enough at all.
this is blackmail. this is abusive. period. i am terrified even now that you will go and do something to hurt me because i am writing this. because i refused to stay quiet. i offered advice despite this, because i genuinely wanted this to be something that he was able to grow past and learn from instead of lashing out. i offered advice because against my best interest, i still care about him. i want him to be okay. however, he did not take my advice. ever.
i was prepared to do that. i would have helped him out, and i advised him that it would not be an immediate fix. however, he took this as an opportunity to attempt to turn me against those i trusted yet again. he also continued to try and guilt me, even when i offered to stay up all night and try to make him feel better.
at this point, i was tired. i had offered solution after solution. i had offered him support. i had offered him the chance to rebuild. i was running out of ideas to give him. yet despite this, he continued to insist he didn’t see how his behaviour was problematic, and asked me to point it out to him. so i did.
there was a lot more guilting and gaslighting following this, as well as whit digging up my old callout from a previous rpc and reblogging it. but this is a situation i am over. i want to heal and move on and write. whit, keep my name and my friend’s names out of your mouth. i have tried to help you. i care about you, but i will not let you and your friends paint me as an abuser. unless you say something, this is the end of what i will say regarding this matter.
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