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Paramore was right. Hard times

MILLIE BOBBY BROWN IS ENGAGED??

everyone is making me feel crazy for thinking crying over taylors intimate relationship (that she shared SOME things with us through her music or secret sessions or whatever but deliberately kept most of it private because she doesn't like the public to be in her business like that fan or not) is weird which im not even about to call parasocial because even if you knew her personally it would be weird. Imagine you just broke up with someone and you tell your friend and they just fucking burst into tears because they want you back together... righttt right. The internet isn't the reason this is considered weird the fact that you're on the internet is making you think that not being able to get out of bed over someone else's breakup is normal when it's absolutely not and i can't believe i even have to argue about it lmao. I love taylor so much and I obviously hope she's okay doesn't mean im gonna be on here crying and throwing up consistently talking about it. Don't you think that would make her uncomfortable because I know damn well if I put myself in her shoes it would make me uncomfortable. You can have empathy and not cross boundaries...

i saw someone post about how they weren’t being “parasocial” by being upset about the breakup. that a lot of it was that it triggered your worst fears and anxieties. and i want to start by saying i understand and i literally felt the same exact way the first couple hours. but i think some of you took that and decided that because it triggered you it was totally okay to start acting like this breakup happened to YOU. just because something triggered you doesn’t make your response normal/healthy. the healthy response to being triggered is recognizing your feelings, allowing yourself to feel them for a bit, maybe do some journaling, step AWAY from whatever is triggering you so you can feel the feeling and move on. and also recognize that like… one relationship is not the end all be all of love, no matter how it was presented to us. anyway i guess what i wanted to say is that if you’re still feeling triggered by this, maybe you should step away and allow yourself to process away from the internet.