You’ve taken the time beforehand to think about what your goal is (Are you trying to be right? Or are you trying to understand each other?)

You do your best to not hurt each other with your words, because you’re trying to understand each other.

You address your feelings without accusing each other (“I feel ___ when ___ happens”…. NOT “You never ____!”) because no one likes being accused. Even if it’s an accurate accusation.

You verbally remind each other that you’re arguing for the sake of understanding each other, and NOT just to be right/stir up some drama/take out frustration.

You both listen to each other’s points. Listen fully. Express your thoughts fully.

The argument finishes with you both feeling respected.

Song of the Day ::: 7+11=11

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“Love ridden, I’ve looked at you

With the focus I gave to my birthday candles.

I’ve wished on the lidded blue flames,

under your brow, and baby, I wished for you.

—–

Nobody sees when you are lying in your bed,

and I wanna crawl in with you, but I cry instead.

I want your warm but it will only make me colder when it’s over,

so I can’t tonight, baby.

No, not baby, anymore.

If I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

and in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.

—–

My hand won’t hold you down no more.

the path is clear to follow through.

I stood too long in the way of the door,

and now I’ve given up on you.

—–

No, not baby anymore,

if I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

And in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.

—–

No, not baby anymore,

if I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

And in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.”