(5/0) when i tol d my mom about this experien ce a year ago she just shrugged it off like "you we re kids lol forget a bout it" ok thanks. but yea i.. dont kn ow if i am allowe d to call myself a csa survivor sin ce there was no sexual intercour se .. im als o a bit scare d of bringin this topic up to my recent psychologist b c my appointments there are just temporar y and i dont know them v well... s orry for the lon g text i fee l really ba d for telling you m y life story rn ah..
Doesnât need to be sexual intercourse for it to be CoCSA or even CSA.
For official purposes- childhood sexual abuse? can be defined as /any/ of the following:
Obscene phone calls, text messages, or digital interaction
Exhibitionism, or exposing oneself to a minor
Masturbation in the presence of a minor or forcing the minor to masturbate
Sex of any kind with a minor, including vaginal, oral, or anal
Producing, owning, or sharing pornographic images or movies of children
Any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a childâs mental, emotional, or physical welfare
and CoCSA? is csa that happened to involve a second minor.
and I know society likes to claim itâs just kids being kids so it canât count-
but they also said that about bullying. and now when I visit elementary schools I see anti-bullying campaigns everywhere because some people at least are starting to wake the fuck up that things that happen in childhood effect us for the rest of our lives and that it doesnât matter if the other person was an adult or another child. Â There may be slightly different power dynamics involved, but it doesnât completely wipe out the effects of the act anymore than the fact that in general- in het couples the power dynamic scews towards the male. Does this mean that men donât get abused/rape by women? absolutely, 100% not.
and the survivors of these things arenât required to go âat least it wasnât _________âtype of person. or at least it didnât go __________ far.
Fuck that noise. Traumas donât exist to be compared. Thereâs no official sliding scale of âokay this is act is def worse than that act and will always traumatize the person 100% moreâ
As for your psych- maybe you could talk to them and be like âhey whatâs your experience with child on child sexual abuse? do you know anything about that?â and you could always do the whole frame it as a friend thing âso I was talking to a friend and she mentioned that sheâd gone through this thing when she was younger⌠and it kind of sounds like sexual abuse??? except it was another kid and like sheâs still pretty messed up about it and I donât know how to comfort her/help her.â