Victim Blaiming
A 7yo girl was adbducted from a shopping center and sexually assaulted by a stranger over the weekend on my home state. Her mum turned her back for 5 seconds while her daughter went to get a toy to show her mum what she wanted for Christmas. 5 seconds in a busy shopping center. Her abductor returned her to the shopping center once he had finished. It had made headlines all across the country. This morning it was on the news and let’s reflect on my mother’s comment...
“A 7yo girl shouldn’t have been on her own”
Let’s victim blame a 7yo girl rather than blame the individual who decided he was within his right to abduct a young girl from a busy shopping center and sexually assault her. Let’s blame a 7yo girl for being excited about Christmas and wanting to show her mum what she wanted Santa to bring her. Let’s blame this 7yo girls poor mother for taking her eyes off her daughter for 5 seconds.
I was fucking 7yo when someone decided he was within his right to sexually assault me. I was 7yo when my mother took her eyes off me and left me with someone who was “trustworthy”. I was 7yo when my mother decided not to protect me. I was 15yo when I told my mother what had happened too me and she didn’t believe me and now I understand why, even though I was the victim, it was my fault that I was sexually abused.
I hate society and I hate that I was born to someone who thinks that way. It’s only added to the years of trauma and abuse and the years of emotional and mental pain and suffering that has followed. NO ONE ever deserves to be sexually assaulted. We should be blaming the perpetrator who decided to take away a child’s innocence.
I feel like I am never going to heal while I still live under the same roof as someone who thinks this way and while I still have to hear comments like those.














