Rebel Child

girlllll i got you

1. don’t go fucking crazy bc this your first time at freedom

2. talk to a lot of different people, the ones who will be your closest friends will reveal themselves

3. if someone is toxic, cut them IMMEDIATELY. there’s too many people at school for you to deal will bullshit. and if you keep the negativity away you’re going to be left with an amazing group of friends💞💞💞

4. try not to fuck anyone in the first month or two. niggas are trying to fuck anything they can get and you’ll never get to know what someone is about in such a short time

5. go to class. participation points can make or break an A

6. study continually. keep your books and notes open on your desk and study throughout the day casually. instead of doing it all at once/every few days.

7. bro use a fucking planner. as soon as you get the syllabus the first day of classes, write all due dates down and make it cute and neat.

8. go to events !!! go to parties, campus events, club meeting, alldat. and if you trying to cross into a sorority be at EVERY event they have. this how you make ya friends and get good opportunities.

9. try for internships and leadership opportunities. they will only lead to more

10. don’t blow your classes bc it will be hard to bounce back your gpa and you need to maintain a specific gpa to get financial aid and scholarships

11. apply for financial aid and scholarships. and when you know your tuition is due, tell your parents all the due dates (if they’re providing financially for your education)

12. try to find roommates that you’ll click with. i found mine on twitter and she’s one of my best friends now. and make sure y'all communicate. if you’re sharing an area with someone else there needs to be boundaries so that a falling out does not occur (me and my roommate didn’t speak for a month at one point lmaooo)

13. if a boy is trying to run games on you drop him. sure you like him but it really is not worth the stress. once again, there are too many people for you to be worried about one shitty boy who won’t act right

14. male friends are so important !! they will always look out for you and plus you can see the way they treat girls and it’ll help keep your focus right

15. you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. want to go to class in pajamas? do it. don’t feel like putting on makeup? don’t. wanna get fucked up tonight? go get fucked up responsibly. it really doesn’t matter. hell at one point i was going to concerts once a week by myself just because i could.

16. sit at the front of your classes and not with friends, it will motivate you to stay focus and show up bc the professor will recognize your face.

17. it’s okay to detach sometimes and do things on your own. eat alone, take walks alone, have self care times. it’s all important so don’t feel obligated to do something when you just want to disconnect.

18. if you are having sex, there is always free hiv testing somewhere on campus. get tested and fr have safe sex

19. if you can do tests/quizzes on you own computer then cheat. google the answers, a quizlet should pop up lmao

20. save ya money. don’t ball out at the mall once a week bro. save that shit you never know what can happen + the money you save could go towards a vacation w friends for spring break

21. learn how to do your own protective hairstyles. instead of spending $140 learn how to braid ya hair and only spend money on the hair. and also has hair does not have to be poppin all the time, it’s okay.

22. pack two pairs of heels and a few nice dresses. there’s always formal events on campus.

If you’re not looking for a relationship, tell the person you’re seeing.

If you’re thinking of ghosting someone, tell them.

If you can’t handle meeting up with someone after all, tell them.

If you’re terrible at responding to messages, tell people.

If you prefer talking in person to texting, tell people. 

If you’re seeing several people at the same time, tell them.

If you’re looking for sex rather than dating, tell the person you’re seeing.

growing up, i felt like something was wrong with me because i didn’t have the assets i was “supposed” to have. i didn’t have what black women were generally all supposed to possess. because of it, black boys didn’t see me as attractive and black girls told me i had a “white girl body”. its pretty sad being 14 and 15 years old looking up ways to make your boobs and butt bigger just to feel wanted within your own community.

what we need to realize is that this generalization of ALL black women possessing this one physique is NOT true. we come in all shapes and sizes and its sad that girls who don’t have perfect curves are made to feel like they arent black enough with the black community.