Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist
Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum
You donβt owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child
You had the right for basic resources
Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid
What it means when they say βThis is MY houseβ
My house = my rules is blackmail
Children donβt owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered
You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence
If they βdonβt know theyβre hurting youβ, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?
Hitting children is irrational and doesnβt work
You cannot βprovokeβ your parents to abuse you if theyβre not abusive
Why do parents actually hit, manipulate and traumatize children
Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak
Theyβre lying when they say it βwasnβt that badββ
You wouldnβt have grown up spoiled if not for abuse
You got too affected by itβ is a lie
Your parents are notΒ βjust too emotionally immatureβ to understand abuse
βYouβre not living in the real world!β is nonsense
Youβre not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.
Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse
Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse
Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy
You are not abusive for resisting abuse
When they claim βthey didnβt mean itβ, itβs still abuse
Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you
Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing
Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids
If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they donβtΒ
Parents donβt have the right to enter your room to scream at you
Parents insisting for you to beΒ βtoughβ are doing it to hide the trauma
Even if a kid acts likeΒ βthey can take itβ, itβs still abuse
Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred
Itβs inhumane to control and shame childrenβs reactions to abuse
Why donβt you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills
Acting like theyβll change is escape sabotage
Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm
References to how healthy parenting looks like
Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse
If parents want you to act way you did when you were little, theyβre dangerous
Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you
Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety
Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships
Parents acting like youβre a βbadβ is a shame tactic to control you
Thereβs healthy and abusive ways to give children chores
Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting
If your parents make you suicidal, theyβre abusive
Parents threateningΒ βthey could be worseβ is abuse
Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong
Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture
If this hits home, also readΒ Recognizing Abuse Masterlist
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