Vivaldi Ives

When the male lead and female lead make it to the end of the story without kissing

Rosie: Now, as I own your soul, I want you to wear this to symbolize my ownership of you, that you are beneath me, that you are nothing but my pet!

Anyway, no, sex repulsed aces do not have to disregard our own boundaries and be hyper-congratulatory about other people's sex lives or constantly be checking to make sure our repulsion doesn't make us bad allies to the rest of the community (a community which we aren't "allies" to in the first place — we fucking live here), just like butches don't have to be knights in shining armor/human shields for femmes and nonbinary people don't have to present as "man/woman aligned" unless that's what they've genuinely chosen.

I think people should ship things platonically more, and not in a “why can’t they just be friends 😡😡” way, I’m just very aroace and I think fandoms tend to push aside platonic relationships in favor of romantic/sexual ones a lot. I’m not surprised by this, it happens in real life too, but yk I just think it’d be nice to see platonic relationships be explored more in fandom spaces.

“Aros can still date” and “aces can still have sex” are not neutral statements. They are loaded with pressure to conform to amatonormativity and abandon romance-/sex-avoidance in favor of romantic/sexual partnering. It’s like telling a trans person “well, you don’t HAVE to transition.” It’s a passive way of telling someone that you want them to confine themselves within societal standards. Yes, there are aromantic people that date and asexual people that have sex, but many of us are not romantically or sexually partnering, and it is intrinsic to our aro/ace identities. Any attempt to erase that or otherwise downplay its significance is blatant aphobia. Not to mention how those statements are constantly used to erase aro/ace representation in media, even when the character in question has made it abundantly clear that they are not at all interested in romantic or sexual relationships. Get your fucking nose out of aro/ace peoples’ business and stop playing into belief systems that constantly harm us.

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A large part of the failure of the left has been a failure to distinguish between 'this shouldnt be illegal' and 'this should be acceptable.' That if you dont praise and uncrically support someone's actions, you must want them arrested or otherwise punished for it.

A truly moral people don't need laws.

That is the teaching in confucianism as well.