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On our second date, we went to this Ethiopian restaurant in Bushwick. He took the lead on picking me up in an Uber, and then ordering our dinner when we arrived.

As a woman who plans everything, it was nice to not have to think and plan a date. And I always appreciate when my counterpart takes the lead because my whole life is surrounded by scheduling, reminders, and planning.

During dinner, we…

hold on tight, it’s gonna be bumpy

I always feel nostalgic when #NYFW happens.

I was never one to say: fashion is my passion.

In my career, I have interviewed assistants and interns and when I hear those words, I cringe every single time because it’s so cliche. For me, I appreciate fashion for the artistic expression, and saw the industry as a way for me to break into my writing career. 

When I started this blog in 2012, I was a…

Summer has been rough for me to say the least, and all of which has been truly a humbling experience.

Being unemployed sucks. What is worse is when it starts to impact you, mentally.

Something I learned about myself earlier in therapy is how I commit myself to my work; I put in the time and I invest. I often toy with the idea – the whole what you do is not who you are,but at the end of the day,…

I realized that when things go really, really bad, that is when I begin to call for my faith.

So before I give you the whole story, let me share some context. I grew up Buddhist by default. My dad is a very spiritualman and my mom is just a sassy ass do-gooder, both are equally superstitious with strong religious practices. My parents are heavily involved in the Cambodian community; they even…

Are you really MIA if you tell people you’re going MIA? 

Just a thought. And can we just say, how sometimes timing is by our side? I booked this trip to DC back in May when tickets were super cheap via Amtrak. And given the transition I am currently in, it was kind of a blessing. I was able to get out my head for a bit and enjoy our nation’s capital.

Praise be.  (I just finished the season finale…

My mom taught me tenacity by simply living her life.

She always said: thaw soo (Khmer). It means “keep going” if you will.

We have a routine. I’d call my mom during my walks off work, when the weather is nice and I have no where to be instantly while my mom is cooking or cleaning the house. This phone call was a slightly different than our usual “how are you eating?” chats.

We talked about my…

It’s been four months since I started my first therapy session.

I have no regrets and have been encouraging those around me – with issues or not, to talk it out with a professional. I know there is still a stigma surrounding the idea of therapy, but with recent events, the influx of injustice in the World, and on a personal level, man we all could use some therapy to be our best selves. 

To be…

It was a cliche question to ask on a date, “What was your worst date?”

Let me tell you.

We left the comedy show together, and we were talking about the set – if it was good and which comedian did well. As we approach the L-Train Jefferson stop, I went in for a hug and he said, “I am getting mixed signals from you.”

To which I responded with, “What do you mean?”

Well, we had a lot to drink, and…

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I have always clung onto this quote because personally, it has always been true. Living on the other side of the country, has only strengthened my bond with my folks and siblings. I will admit, seeing my mom this past weekend made me miss being present in the everyday life.

But the distance also makes it easier (and an excuse) to say,“I love you.” Because, you…

I never told you what happened at my old start up job right? Well y’all know the short version of it on Twitter where my former told me: I honestly have no respect for you.

She said this to me after she opened up the dialogue of parting ways after I finished a big project. I told her I am still game and will deliver because I am a woman of my word, but asked her to be patient with me as I was…

*this is a continuation of “enough”* It goes without saying that I am pretty hard on myself. As I flipped through the pages of this blog and public spaces where I’ve shared my Voice, I am preaching this whole self-love and care to y’all, but on a personal level: I forget this practice. I do this negative-talk with the intention that it will motivate me do better, but I realized that this was…

He talked about his ex-girlfriend on date night. The way he talked about her sounded like he missed her and as if, she was the one that got away. I don’t know how the topic came about, but I think I asked about it because I was curious. I should have prepared myself for the answers though –  they say don’t ask questions to what you’re not ready for. Anyway, I will not forget how it made me feel…