FLAPPY VIRGE

i know i can’t go into everyone’s asks so i’ll just put it here: you’re amazing writers/artists/creators and I’m so proud of all your progress big or small

love how whenever poc say something along the lines of "i'm so tired of white people" some white person always has to go "you mean cishet white males right? 🥺" like....no

white people stop reblogging this post jesus christ

white lgbt ppl dont know how much trouble theyve caused for us -_-

white lgbt ppl will constantly have to be informed about racism and nonwhite issues bc they're only ever friends w other white people, speak over lgbt ppl of color when it comes to representation and problems in media, not acknowledge when white supremacy feeds into intracommunity bigotry. and then say things like "the lgbt community shouldn't be at odds with each other! 😤" i don't know if you guys know how big a split there is between you and us at the best of times

white gays can reblog this if u can keep ur mouth shut

these are called I Statements arnd are super healthy to focus on for general communication! Any time you feel the urge to call out others, say “you xyz”, try to think of a way to make it an I sttement instead. You cant control the actions and feelings of others; focus on properly communicating how YOU feel in a constructive manner and you’ll get a much more accurate read on reality, which will help support and ground you towards better decision making and engagements with others.

You can’t deserve a person’s love. You’ll drive yourself crazy thinking like that. They either love you, or they don’t. That doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough for them to love you, because love isn’t something you earn by being good enough. It isn’t something that can be quantified or doled out. Don’t blame yourself for not being loved how you need to, just teach yourself how to look for love where love lives.

This isn’t just about romantic love, or even skewed towards romantic love, although it does apply there too. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to accept is that my mother simply wasn’t someone who was capable of loving me, and there is no version of me that I could have ever been that would have earned that love. But with acceptance came healing. I was able to love myself more instead of resenting myself for not being more than any one person could be.

Are you listening? Even love for yourself isn’t earned. It is a kindness you give yourself.

Also instead of “problem behaviour” call it “distressed behaviour” for a more accurate picture of what the person is actually facing

I can’t reblog this enough, I will do it every damn time I see it from now to death.

When someone frames your mental health issues as attention seeking behavior, problem behavior, or any other negatively-coded context, it creates an environment that makes you feel guilty, wrong, and selfish for struggling with things outside of your control. As a result, serious issues are allowed to arise in the absence of support.

so was anyone going to tell me ranboo is/was a fander or

WAIT WHAT???? HOLY SHIT HOLY HECK HE'S???? A FAN???? HE'S A FAN HE'S A FAN HE'S A FAN