Hey Ale, I just wanted to say that I loved 'My Girl' so much, it's literally my favorite fic of all time and I'm always re reading it lol. This may be a lil tmi and excuse me if it's pathetic - you defintely don't have to reply to this it's a bit of a vent. I genuinely have zero sexual experience - it's just frustrating, I felt like I could relate to everything in the fic, like being in a kiddy pool of experience, and it made me realize a lot about me if I'm being honest. In comparison to all the people around me, I feel like I've been left behind and now I don't know how to catch up at an age that everyone is expected to know how to do things and it's very demoralizing. And obviously in the fic she has Lando, and it's making me worried that I'm never going to have that sort of person that is for me, if that makes sense, someone that is perfectly and conveniently there and makes something good out of something embarrassing. I'm not going to have that perfect fan fiction ending like she did, because obviously my inexperience is not some trope in a story, it's a very real thing. So I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm never going to find my Lando because of this (obviously not actual Lando), I just feel like I'm too far behind. And I'm sorry to ask for advice, I just don't know how to navigate this.
Sorry for the sob story btw, just wanted to let you know that your fic gave me a sort of comfort and hope. ♥️
first of all please dont apologise, i promise you its not pathetic at all. i think theres this culture that exists now where everyone feels pressured because we've ascribed certain things as 'desirable' and turned experience into something measurable and competitive through these ideas like body counts. for starters, virginity is a complete social construct that doesn't say a single thing about who you are as a person. i know thats easier said than believed, especially when it feels like everyone around you is further ahead, but people are on such different timelines when it comes to relationships, sex, and intimacy.
and i promise experience doesn't matter when you find the right person. i know it probably doesn't feel like it right now, but you are not doomed to be alone because youre inexperienced. the right person isn't going to see that part of you and think less of you for it. if youre with someone who judges you for it, makes you feel ashamed of it, or makes you uncomfortable because of it, then theyre definitely not the right person for you in the first place.
and if it helps at all, every time i think about my own first time i literally want to die haha, inexperience is a completely normal thing—no one starts off with pornstar abilities and theres nothing shameful about it, even if it feels embarrassing sometimes.
thank you for sending this message, genuinely. im really glad my girl could give you some comfort, i hope youre a little kinder to yourself after reading this, and you are always welcome to dm me. i hope you find your lando 🤍