It's so strange to me how many of the key techno-fascist figures are purportedly sci-fi fans. People like Peter Thiel and Elon Musk want to colonize the stars ... but they want to do it with reactionary right-wing beliefs?
Like they really think there are going to be christian marriages on our generation ships? Our space stations will have gender segregation? People will mod every part of their body but then base their gender on their at-birth genitals?
Technological progress without social progress just seems so silly to me. Progressive societies in sci-fi just feel much more believable. Of course James Holden from The Expanse has an 8-person polycule for his parents and they all gave DNA to sire him. Of course gender and sex are completely malleable in Seek and heteronormativity is something for fringe subcultures. The societies in these books are by no means utopian but their progressiveness in gender and sexuality just feel natural in these settings.
I think Octavia Butler had a point when in her Parable duology she came up with Earthseed as a religion that could be a societal blueprint for a spacefaring humanity. The core tenet of Earthseed is that 'God is Change' and it's all about accepting the reality of change while recognizing your own agency in it. Not that we necessarily need a religion like that but I do think that nobody who fears change will make it to the stars.
