GRAY!

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Not caring about other people and what they think

No fearing consequences

When I face the consequences i will emotionally Die TM

Immediately followed by step 1

Not caring about other people and what they think

do you really think everyone with NPD/ASPD is abusive, or are you so afraid of stigma that you're willing to put other members of your cluster down because you want to look good in the eyes of ableists?

it makes me sad because that mentality is rooted in believing you will only be valid if you suck up to ableism.

it's literally "look at me, please don't demonise me, i'm not like THOSE evil cluster b narcopaths!"

stigmatised disorders will always be included in mental health discussions and if you won’t support them as well you’re not an ally.

this includes:

• calling people with bpd manipulative

• calling people with hpd attention seekers

• using the term ‘narc abuse’

• calling people with aspd psychopaths

• calling people with did evil

• calling people with schizophrenia dangerous

like we all hurt ourselves, get numb, rage, lash out, it goes on. and yet because our brains went in a slightly different direction during that trauma, we get shoved to the side, tossed out of recovery spaces and made to feel like the perpetrators of our own abuse.

and kids who have aspd/npd traits especially get dragged through the mud. no one sees a desperately hurt child in them, they just see some bad entity to be dealt with.

I might get cancelled or whatever for this, but can we banish the idea that narcissists are always abusive? Like yeah, I know someone irl who is diagnosed NPD and yeah she's pretty abusive, but I also know someone else diagnosed NPD who is quite pleasant to be around.

These sorts of stigmas exist for many disorders, it seems like. People with BPD are known to be emotionally manipulative. Some people with BPD are super toxic. But a lot of them aren't.

It's almost as if everyone in the world follows this model. Some people are abusive and some people aren't. Neurotypicals can be just as toxic and abusive as someone who isn't. Especially if the person they are abusing happens to be neurodivergent.

Stigmas exist for many disorders.

NPD ≠ Abusive

BPD ≠ Manipulative

DID ≠ Murderer

ASPD ≠ Sociopath

Etc etc etc. The really sad part is that oftentimes it's people with these disorders that stigmatize each other. People with DID and BPD will talk about narcissistic abuse. They'll completely demonize people with ASPD. Someone with NPD might call someone who is schizophrenic "crazy." Everyone with DID has likely been asked if they have an "evil alter." I feel like we really all need to work together to end stigma. Because your abuser being neurodivergent does not mean ALL people with that disorder are like that. Not to mention not all abusive people have a disorder. Some people are just bad people and to use an already demonized disorder to try to describe them is just shitty as hell. Stop demonizing already stigmatized disorders. It's abusive and ableist.

Your abuser wasn’t a “narcissist”, and you didn’t experience “narcissistic abuse”. Your abuser was an abuser and you experienced emotional abuse.