I spent like way too long going through your blog and holy god on high.
My suspicion is pretty simple and probs not like all that different then others but
I don’t think they are together anymore, i say that because, if she was really pushing boundaries and trying to cling to him and what he has or could give her, even manipulated and blinded by what she may tell him, at a point you just sort of snap? If that makes sense that even as nice and forgiving and almost too kind to people Damien can be, even he gets to a point where he remembers what he learns in therapy, if that makes sense. I do think he’s still friendly with her on a ‘I need to keep the peace as much as I can to keep myself and others safe’ in a way. But also tbh they could just have a FWB type thing as like the final string of attachment.
I say this because as much as Damien is a very kind and forgiving to a fault person, you can only shove those boundaries so many times before you just say no. And if his other VA friends and friends outside the smosh world are deeply uncomfortable by her, I do think they would talk to him about it and with the 6 weeks of cons he just did, having so much time to listen to said friends. I’m just saying I think he’s no longer her partner, but is still friendly enough for her to make it seem like they might be together.
I do think the relationships damaged in his time with Chel aren’t going to be repaired for a while. But eventually maybe.
Lastly, I think that to Chel, if they are no longer together ya know as like a couple and she both made the relationship change to gain attention and say as one final like push to clear boundary breaking she has been doing against Damien.
I think soon enough Damien is gonna realize the signs are and always were there it just took losing a lot of good friends and isolation to really see it. Which sucks, and no one should have to go through being manipulated like that.
I will say I think as much as she made people uncomfortable, no matter how ‘in love’ Damien might be, you can only cut friends off and plug your ears so much before the feelings in the pit of your stomach can’t be ignored. And you have to deal with it. I think he finally is able to deal with it and in that hasn’t like cut her out fully, and is maybe doing a like ‘dating but not as serious as before’ type jam.
Idk this all probs doesn’t make sense and I apologize I am pretty shit at explaining my thoughts. But tldr: they aren’t together in a couple type way, and Chel is using that as a way to keep the attention on her, and grab at other people now that Damien isn’t doing what she thought she could make him do.
Your thoughts are coming in loud and clear, Anon. Also welcome! 💜
I dragged the boyfriend into this mess last week and he feels very vindicated by your speculation. Even with the whiteboard covered in evidence behind me, he believes this was a hookup gone off the rails. Fun when it was long-distance, but now Damien's buried under sad story after sad story and the prospect of someone being real chatty if you cross them.
Just a theory, y'all. Take with many grains of salt.
I think you made an excellent point when you said, "the feelings in the pit of your stomach can't be ignored." The friends who have come forward have had no motive to do so beyond concern, and that's gotta be difficult for him to dismiss. Even Austen, who I feel has the most reason to be angry with Damien, refuses to call him out by name, referring to him as, "someone I cared about". Nobody is out to get him. And that's gotta resonate somewhere, even when Chel is likely pitting the two of them against the big, mean world.
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