the Urban Dater

It doesn’t get delivered by carrier pigeon but some sign in some form appears, when you’re paying attention, that let’s you know when it’s time. It was time. Renee let me know it was time I want kids, dude. I like you, I like this but I can’t do this anymore. I want to find my guy. We both knew it was coming, expiration dates on FWB are known. I enjoyed my time with Renee, too. It was easy to be…

To make a pretty gal come on my face was a thing I said not long ago when a friend asked me what would make me happy. Obviously, that’s not the only thing that would make me happy, although it satisfies a baser desire. You know, I date here and there with the online dating apps. Bumble sometimes but that seems like a weird app for me, and I can’t tell you why. Hinge, however, seems to be the one…

The clouds wouldn’t let the sun through. It was a dull, cool grey that washed over LA. The temperature was chilly—it was summer and felt like anything but around town. In r/losangeles you’d see the comments and posts mounting is it always like this around here? or when does summer start anyway? Usually from vacationers looking to experience their perfect LA vacay. No. The weather had other…

Stepping Back in a Perfectly Imperfect Life

A year has come and gone (almost). Yet the sexual tension I experienced was still prominent. This time on my turf. The wisps of grey in his hair were the only difference. An indication that time passes all of us by. My body still craved his touch, his lips, his throbbing cock. My curiosity still piqued. Still, after a year, my vagina had a heartbeat… But it was natural. My body still knew how…

Hey! Alex here!! When I started the Urban Dater, it was on a whim. I wanted to learn how SEO worked, so I wrote about something I had thought about. Dating. Within months, the Urban Dater grew, and it grew. It became a popular blog in the dating and relationship niche. I appeared on the Huffington Post and was interviewed here and there based on this site’s popularity. the Urban Dater…

It’s been a couple of weeks since we had our Good Goodbye. I can’t say I miss her… yet. I’ve taken time to think about everything that’s happened this year. It’s been a calm year for the most part. My dating life has been active and positive. I’ve gone on a lot of dates, and I’ve dated more than I ever have previously. While the quantity of dating I’ve done has been nice, the quality of it has…

What to do Before She Comes Over

This article is for the guys who’ve successfully invited a woman over to their place to Netflix and thrill. Don’t go in blind; respect yourself and the women you invite to your humble abode. This checklist will ensure you don’t look like a disheveled gremlin who needs mommy to come over and clean up after them. You’ll look like an adult! Your Netflix and Chill Checklist In the bathroom Clean…

The sex was hot. I lapped my last lick and she was shaking and breathing heavily, I went in for one last lap, causing her whole body to jolt. Neither of us complained when she yanked me back up to cuddle. I asked her what do you want this to be? She wore a smile and said this is fun, right? It was, she is; we were having fun, and I was eyes-wide-open on the arrangement. I knew (we) weren’t…

Vulnerability is a Superpower

I was going through some really heavy shit at the time. I hadn’t reconnected with my son yet—his high school graduation was coming up and I was tearing myself apart inside. I was still dealing with past unresolved childhood traumas as well, and I had just gone through a breakup. My business was also struggling. Every facet of my life was, as my niece likes to say, struggle bussin’. I had just met…

Tips for Exploring a Foot Fetish Together

Fetishes and fantasies range from common and typical to more rare, obscure, and even taboo. However, research suggests that typical fantasies are shared by 84% of people and often surround power dynamics, control, and rough sex. These fantasy scenarios involve everything from handcuffs and blindfolds to hot wax and roleplay. Foot fetishes are also fairly common, with 1 in 7 people admitting to…

Our text exchange on Hinge was pretty amazing. She was witty, funny, engaging, and so excited to meet, just as much as I was. I couldn’t wait for our date. And the date was pretty darn good, honestly. She messaged me: Hey, I haven’t heard from you. I guess you’re not interested? Good luck to you then. I hadn’t reached out to her right away, that’s true. I wanted time to reflect on the date.…

I’ve been able to do some new things since I started working with a therapist and learning about attachment theory, understanding how I feel about myself, unraveling my relationship with my mother, etc. I’ll tell you, dear reader, what I’ve done (and it’s been a real twirly let me tell you). I was dating a gal, who I was genuinely interested in, and I was able to be vulnerable about my feelings…

You can’t make people do what they don’t want to do. At some point, you have to believe what people tell you through their non-verbal cues. I’ve been there. You like somebody, you build up hope, your conversation is good, you go on some dates, those dates turn into a few months of dating that same person. Cool! Eventually, though, you feel like things are settled, you don’t know where you stand,…

Why do couples use baby talk with one another?

Photo Credit: Baby talk is cute when used with babies. But when adults converse with each other? Not so much. Justin Case/Getty Images Imagine you’re strolling through a park and you overhear a middle-aged couple cooing over each other, doting over their “wittle sugar pwum” and “baby doll.” “Ewwww,” you might reflexively think. Baby talk is cute when grown-ups dote on babies. But when adults…

Dating a Graphic Designer with “Benefits”

Graphic designers are no less charming than any other guys. Dating them is all about the fun, imagination, and more beautiful pictures of yours on the Internet. So get ready and start your romance with a creative boo. 1. NO photoshop fail like Kylie Jenner Editing photos on your phone is as easy as eating pies. It fits your curves and even your walls. How perfect! Let’s face it, guys. Even supa…

Getting Back on the Bandwagon… Again

Dating, Online Dating specifically, can be pretty awful, and sometimes, it can be amazing and exciting. I contend OLD is as good as the attitude you take into it—short of the obviously bad, rude, date. If you take it too seriously, you’ll get annoyed and dejected real quick. Online Dating largely annoyed me and I took a shit attitude towards dating. Sure, I went on dates, but I was jaded, I often…

Don’t Settle For Less: The Importance of Having a Good Sex Life

Millions of people struggle to achieve a good, balanced, and enjoyable sex life. This is a huge issue due to a variety of reasons. Sex life tends to be a taboo subject, even though it is a common part of daily life for many. Schools tend to have poor sex education classes, which have led to generations of people being poorly educated on this subject. Having a good sex life is healthy, and those…