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Is it hard to come out as bisexual? Is there even a need to come out if you’re heterosexual?

    Coming out can in general be hard. Even though you are coming out as bisexual and the people around you may have more of a leniency towards it. However, it can still be challenging. To be honest you never know how someone might take the news of you being bisexual. There are many things that runs through a person’s mind before coming out. Although lesbians and gays come out as bisexuals then transition later does not deterred how it can be for actual bisexual men and women. In some instances that can be hard to come out. Coming out as someone who likes the same sex goes against the societal norm. This can be harder when the word bisexual is so overused. I am personally bisexual and I can assure you we have the same fears of coming out as anyone that is homosexual. When I came out to my family I had a lot of people telling me that i shouldn’t use this as a crutch that I needed to make a decision. As if I had to choose one gender not find attraction to both. I personally found that to be aggravating.

Is there even a need to come out if you are half heterosexual?

What is polyamory? Polyamory is the no possessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously.  Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time.  Polyamory is an umbrella term which integrates traditional muti-partner relationship terms with more evolved egalitarian terms.  Polyamory embraces sexual equality and all sexual orientations towards an expanded circle of spousal intimacy and love.  Polyamory is from the root words Poly meaning many and Amour meaning love hence "many loves" or Polyamory.  Of course, love itself is a rather ambiguous term, but most polys seem to define it as a serious, intimate, romantic, or less stable, affectionate bond which a person has with another person or group of persons. Other terms often used as synonyms for polyamory are responsible, ethical or intentional non-monogamy. Can and should polyamorous relationships exist? I believe that one should be entitled to any form of relationship, so long as it is consensual meaning that all partners agree. With that being said I do believe that polyamorous relationships should be allowed to exist that however is my personal opinion.  If you were to look at it this way many people are in monogamous relationships end up being married and cheating on their spouse, because they found interest in another person. Now this is just a theory, why don’t people talk to their spouse about the attraction to the other person and see where that leads them they may find interest as well. This in turns keeping their relationship intact and adding new elements that satisfies and pleases all parties involved in the relationship. I personally believe that monogamy is not for everyone but if people where to go out of the societal norm then they would and could possibly have a higher relationship success rate.

What is your opinion on polyamory? Do you think it should exist? Would you ever try being in a polyamorous relationship? If you are or have tried it how did it work out? I would love to know and read your comments!

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What is a stem?

Now we all know that there are many types of meanings for the word stem. However, I only wish to address one meaning for this word. A stem is a female how finds comfort dressing more masculine but also can find comfort in wearing more feminine clothing. Being 'Stem' tends to have a negative stigma behind it. When I asked a group of people what they thought a stem was and when I showed them a picture there responses were different. Half of the people thought that when a female dresses as a stem they just thought it was a for of style/clothing that they found comfortable. Others responses were a little different. They said that dressing in stem attire is a way to show that you are attracted to the same-sex. All of the people who said that are heterosexuals themselves. Where as the other group were both homosexuals and heterosexuals.

Why is there this negative stigma that females who dress more masculine are some degree of a homosexual? Since when did clothing determine someones sexuality? Clothing is suppose to express your inner personality. Its suppose to express who you are as a person. It does not express who you find attractive. Your clothing does not determine or depict your sexual orientation. It never has and never will. When a female wears clothes that are masculine it means a few things she finds the style or fit of the clothing more comfortable, her personality is more on the masculine side therefore she chooses to wear clothes that expresses that or she simply just finds that trend or style of dress cool. It is sad when I hear people talk about one another and the way that they dress in such a negative way. And humans we have the right to express our individuality however we please. Who are we to say that they shouldn't dress that way. Who are we to to label them as homosexual when in actuality the may very well be heterosexual? I myself find that my personality tatters on the edge of masculinity and femininity. I therefore love to express myself through my choice of clothing. I find I dress more androgynous/ unisex. I am completely comfortable dressing in more en’s attire as well a dressing more like a female. The fact of the matter clothing is what you feel comfortable in and what best represents who you are on the inside. Your choice of clothing does not depict your sexuality in the slightest. Just be you be proud and own it!