free speech is a disease and i am the cure

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So. I am quite literally, for the next few months anyway, a teenage lesbian. I doubt I have my feet to the ground much more firmly than you do. But I’ve been thinking about femme a lot recently, too, and I might be able to throw you a line. I think you might have to reframe your thinking. Femme isn’t a degree of lesbian femininity, validated by an inborn mode of gender performance (rather than “compulsory femininity”). It’s a location in our culture, a set of values towards other women, a way of relating to lesbianism and lesbians, especially butches and other femmes. And it’s a sense of self that you have to find in your core. I wrote to my girlfriend recently that being her femme feels all at once like something new and exciting and ancient, timeless and inevitable. I managed it in a less corny way, but it’s true! Femme, like butch, is rooted in lesbian history. It’s deeply informed by our culture, our political moments, our traditions of eroticism. There’s really no way to know if you’re femme without reading our words- and the words of butches about us- because you can’t recognize something you haven’t seen and touched and tasted. When I last reread Stone Butch Blues, I choked up when Theresa met Jess after she’s released from jail and touches the blood on her shirt- a moment, incidentally, that Minnie Bruce Pratt also writes resonated with her- not just because of the scene itself, but because I was overwhelmed to know very suddenly and surely that I was Theresa, or would have been. That I was touching the shirt and cupping her face. It’s a gut feeling, yes, but you have to read and think and work to tease it out. Look, I could get very woo woo granola earth child about femme frankly and so could most other femmes I know, but you don’t have to. What you should do is read our work and think “Are these women like me?” That’s most of what there is to the figuring out of it!

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but it also seems like its more than that (im learning myself bc i think i might be soft butch but so far i havent rly heard anything v definitive)

and i leave a trail of pink sparkles and tiny hearts behind me as i tiptoe daintily toward my girlfriend- or woman partner- or wife- or girl im casually hooking up with- really

have some cute gay musical happiness for your day

basically most of the lesbians i know would say (including me) that if you dont want a relationship w a man or see yourself in one, you can be a lesbian. its up to you

and for everyone who didnt get that or sth of equal celebration that you would have preferred over anything i mentioned: im sorry. you deserve better. and also i think your gayness or biness or transness is so so beautiful and good and im so happy you realized and i wish you so much happiness in those things. im happy you found that part of yourself. im proud of you for recognizing that and being that. its so wonderful and i hope you find people who will celebrate it with you

girls please interact

the moon is lesbian. the sun is lesbian. the eclipse was the biggest lesbian event of 2017

me, in tears: you’ve done nothing wrong, ever, in your life

if u know any lesbians u should tell them this. sometimes lesbians have a hard time believing they are good, specifically that they are good bc they are lesbians. so tell them they are good. lesbianism is good. lesbianism is beautiful. remind the lesbians in your life of this.