Understanding adhd

Like, today I’ve got a dentist appointment at 2:15. To make sure I’m there on time, I have to leave the house half an hour before then. I have to shower before I go, and my hair needs at least an hour to dry. I need to make and eat something resembling a meal, and then thoroughly brush my teeth. I have to choose clothes to wear, then get changed. I need to make sure my headphones are charged, and should probably download some new music before I go. And I also need some extra time to try and unwind, because I’m extremely stressed about this dentist appointment, and if I don’t relax I’ll probably have a meltdown.

song: *ends as soon as it starts somehow*

me: wha- how? *restarts song*

song: *is over without me registering that it even played*

brain: dont do it then

The difference is in how openly they show they’re hurt and scared. Kids who learned adults will care about their well being will be able to cry, scream, escape, act vulnerable and hurt when they’re in pain. Kids who are taught to act tough, they wont show that you hurt them so easily, they’ve already learned that being openly hurt is humiliating, or even punishable, so they will pretend to suck it up. Does that mean kid isn’t equally damaged and hurt like the one who cried on the spot? No. You can’t count of kid’s reactions to reveal what kind of damage you did to them. When kids are hurt REALLY badly they can’t even feel it in the real time and will report you that they’re “just fine”, they’ll dissociate and forget about it and it will be all good until one day they can’t breathe anymore because of it.

Con: Fuck up all the time.