bell hooks mentioned going through a time in her life where she was severely depressed and suicidal and how the only way she got through it was through changing her environment: She surrounded her home with buddhas of all colors, Audre Lordeās A Litany for Survival facing her as she wakes up, and filling the space she saw everyday with reinforcing objects and meaningful books. She asks herself each day, āWhat are you going to do today to resist domination?ā I also really liked it when she said that in order to move from pain to power, it is crucial to engage in āan active rewriting of our lives.ā
I have come to think of the suicidal impulse as the brain waving a flag to say three things:
something needs to change here
this is urgent
I donāt know how to do it
death is the ultimate metaphor for drastic change. itās a general specific. whatever your problems are, it is very likely that dead people donāt have to deal with them. a real solution to your problems may demand a very narrow range of action thatās likely to be out of reach at this moment, but death is sold on every street corner, so it feels like a more realistic fantasy than happiness.
you donāt really want to die per se but itās also not completely random chemicals swamping your brain for no reason. you want the pain to stop, you want to be somewhere else, you want to be someone else. itās urgent. you donāt know how to do it. the end is not the end but a means that feels within your reach right now.
this is the wisdom of bell hooks: daily rituals of meaning and resistance and solidarity are part of slowly building a future where you can make the change you really need. and only alive people can do that. every step you take towards change and power is another step away from death.
