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Back in my shy days, I had sex only with the lights off. Now, I like to watch myself fucking. Looking at my muscles and butt contracting it’s being part of a virtuous circle of arousal and self-confidence building.

Hello Anon,

Thanks so much for the question! I’m going to be trying a newformat for the answers so let’s see if this is more organized.

Question: I think you touched on something reallyinteresting there and I would love it if you’d be able to expand on that.

Answer: All dominants do some level of bluster or showingoff for subs. Our ego can demand attention in that way. It is important to havea sense of your best features that you can use to excite a submissive.

Support: When I started dominating I had to figure out whatit was that was drawing in submissives. I’m somewhat tall, very chubby, averagedick, a sharp mind, and a bit of charisma. I learned that my mind was usuallywhat got subs most excited. I’m good at dirty talk and I can even do a trickwhere it makes it seem like I’m reading your mind. This makes subs feel veryexposed and is exciting for many men.

Question: You said something about focusing onthe source of your confidence: Charisma, Body, Cock, and Mind.

Answer: I actually picked these off the top of my head. Theremay be other places dominants feel they can draw power from, but for thepurposes of that answer these were the ones that sprang to mind. Please note,that these sources of dominance can be different from the motivations that adominant might feel to dominate others.

Support:

1.      Charisma – Charisma means a compellingattractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others. Think of JamesBond, The Rock, Vin Diesel, Robert Downey Jr. they can all be said to have adegree of personality magnetism that would be considered charisma. A dominantwho uses charisma as the source of his dominance causes subs to feel veryinstantly at ease. They naturally look to him as a leader and feel compelled todo as he asks even when he says it gently. Charisma can express itself as agentle force that is similar to say James Bond or Indiana Jones when he isbeing tender with a female lead. It can also express itself with the feeling ofbeing before a rumbling thunderstorm. A marine who has charisma and a sternattitude would be an excellent example. He gives orders and means business andyou KNOW you’re going to listen to him. Charisma as a source of dominancerequires the dominant to do all of the acting upon the sub in the form ofwords. You know he’s superior because of course he is. Your mind and body justfall into line with him.

2.      Body – A dominant drawing his power from thebody is going to be in the gym constantly. He’s going to look like a bodybuilder or a very cut model. His power comes from knowing he’s fucking hot andcarrying himself with that attitude. This dominant will be finding the verybest angles to show off why his body is superior to all others. Every Instagramthirst trap, every cut movie star (Chris Heimsworth), and every body builder beexamples of this. Body as a source of dominance requires the submissive to doalmost all of the acting. It is a more passive form because you as the dominantflex and give orders but it’s all so that subs can have access to serve thatbody. In fact, many such dominants limit access to touching them just so thatthey can make it a special reward for a sub rather than let them feel like theysimply have access to it. This dominant is superior because you didn’t knowthere were tiny ab triangles at the top of an 8 pack but you gotta believe itbecause you could grate cheese on those abs.

3.      Cock – This is, uh, ridiculously straight forward.Dude is hung. Like crazy hung. Like… it’s a baby arm or dildos are smaller thanhim, or if he slapped you across the face with it you’d wake up three dayslater and wonder what year it is. Like the body dom this source of dominancecomes from superior anatomy and drawing subs in using his presentation ratherthan drawing a sub in with a very dominant attitude. That said, they’re oftensuper cocky because there’s no gym machine for a bigger dick. They’re blessed,and treat you as blessed for being given access to their cock. This dominantlets his cock do all the work, and is superior because it’s big or thick orboth and will split you open.

4.      Mind – This is my wheel house. A dominant of themind is an expert at making submissives feel frankly whatever they want the subto feel. The mind as a source of power works a lot off of information and maybeknowing (inherently or through study) a bit of psychology. The “Power of Yes”is a trick I use a lot. The very short description is that when a sub says yesa lot it makes them feel good, and makes them want to say yes more and cancreate something of a feel good loop. A dominant of the mind is superiorbecause he puts you into subspace easily and deeply and the experience islittle effort for him. Makes you wonder what more he was capable if he evertried harder and it also makes you a bit afraid of how far you’d go if heasked. A dominant of the mind’s work load varies. New dominants of the mindwill probably do a lot of the work themselves after drawing information out ofthe sub. A more experienced dominant of the mind makes the submissive do muchmore of the work when they learn how to get a submissive spinning his wheels.

As a final note, I wrote a blogpost called “Faggot, Omega, Boy” which is about the motivations of differentsubmissives. The purpose was to get dominants to understand that not allsubmissives are the same and you need to understand who you’re dealing with notjust call everyone a faggot. Dominants have motivations too. I’m still workingon how to present that post as I’m less familiar with fellow dominants than I amwith subs. All of these sources of dominance are all about drawing thesubmissive in so the dominant can act on them from that point as they wish.

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Well, thank you! I’m glad you enjoy my blog. That always makes me happy to hear.

I would say discovering myself as a submissive has had a huge impact on on the rest of my life, and it’s all been beneficial.

Leaning into my submission has taught me the power of true vulnerability, the deep, abiding connections we can make when we put aside fear and open ourselves up completely to another person. I think this has made me a better friend. I know it’s made me a better husband.

Discovering the amount of pain I can take from my Sir in service has made me realize I’m tougher and stronger than I thought I was. That has given me a new level of confidence in myself, and shown me that I can push past barriers that seem insurmountable. I am not stopped by fear in ways that I previously would have been.

Realizing that one of the things that makes me the happiest is a thing that a LOT of people are not equipped to understand and might actively look down on me for has made me a more accepting, less judgemental person than I was before. It’s increased my capacity for empathy, and I think that’s a wonderful thing.

I honestly can’t think of a single way that my submission has made anything in my life harder or made a negative impact; it’s all been good for me.