B)

It's called SELFshipping! It's about YOU! Do what makes you happy, because your relationship is only meant for YOU (and a couple of friend n mutuals who go rabid when you post about you and your F/O).

"But canon-"

IS A SUGGESTION! Dead F/O? Ignore it! Sexuality doesn't align with your gender? It does NOW! Canon love interest? Sorry i ated them they're gone, go kiss your beloved!

I know it can be embarrassing, but that's how you know you're hitting the GOOD stuff. Indulge in that kink you're too shy to talk about with your F/O, draw them in something cute, draw them in an AU, genderbend them, headcanon them up the wazoo- go nuts!

I feel like I make a post like this every week but it's important to remember! Don't stop short of making yourself TRULY happy! Go for what you wanna go for, and if people can't handle that, then that's their problem.

You’re still a valid selfshipper if you don’t have merch of your f/o(s).

You’re also still a valid selfshipper if you don’t draw.

I’m sorry if the community makes you feel snubbed.

Not everybody has the money to blow on merch of their f/os -plus some people have f/os that don’t even have merch to begin with- and not everybody wants to draw or can draw their selfships.

So if you are in that boat, myself included, you are still a valid selfshipper and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

and then we started revisiting old media (wc, wof, pok/emon) and going “oh yeah i wanna be a feral and dig my maw into others yeah!”

Oops I coined a blankqueer . Happy pride, get queerer NOW

SHIMMERQUEER is a stance that, while not mutually exclusive with radqueerness, sets clearer bounds to prevent the perpetuation or promotion of harm. I felt like making it to describe better my thoughts on some matters :P

What does it stand for?

✦ PRO PARA

Paraphiles aren't inherently dangerous people, they deserve compassion and support as any other person, and a community to express themselves. They are not to be assumed as criminals just for having these thoughts. SFW paraphile spaces are possible.

✦ ANTI CONTACT

There are several paraphilias that would be unethical to act on in real life on a 1:1 scale, namely minophilia/map, zoophilia, necrophilia, and incest/consang attraction. This is due to concerns of safety, not mere 'ick'. But NOTE: there are ways of acting on these safely with consenting parties, i.e zoo4therian relationships, insys age differences with a matching maturity, kink, etc. These methods are okay, as there's no one being abused.

✦ TRANSID COMPLEX

Leaning pro, however individual shimmerqueers may have variating thoughts and degrees of comfort sorrounding them that should be respected. The main thing of note: the feelings of yearning, euphoria and dysphoria that may come with transids are real, deserve language to be described, and community.

For the more controversial transids, alternatives like altid or desirdae and dissomei may be encouraged, but not forced. Research of the subject is also highly advised. Shimmerqueer is strongly against transhateful identities. They cannot be separated from their ties with bigotry.

✦ PRO CONTRADICTORY IDENTITIES / GOOD FAITH

Queer experiences are complex, labels are meant to fit YOU comfortably and not just viceversa, and good faith IDs have been known to be around for a long while. Also have fun with your silly words whatever

ADDITIONAL BELOW

Transkit - a being that believes their rank should be kit. Separate from transkit as a transage id

Transapprentice - a being that believes their rank should be apprentice. Separate from transapprentice as a transage id

Transwarrior - a being that believes their rank should be warrior. Separate from transwarrior as a transage id

More ranks past break

Any of these flags can be used for the respective cis and tris versions of the identity.

If these terms have already been coined, consider these flags to be an alternative.

Requests open!

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