Internal Inspirations

10 things a man/husband needs to do for his wife/fiancé/girlfriend. NO EXCEPTIONS!

1 - Take a trip with just you and her every year. It doesn’t matter where. As long as it’s just the two of you

2 - Make a big deal about her birthday. Remember that’s the day she entered into the world. Without that, your love wouldn’t even exist.

3 - Give her a weekend away from it all. Trust me she will appreciate it.

4 - Get dressed up. Suit and tie status and take her in a romantic date. A REAL date. Put some thought into it.

5 - Never stop praying for her. No more explanation needed here.

6 - Give her a week off from “Mom” duties. She didn’t make those kids alone. Feel me?

7 - Take her to the place of your first date, first kiss, even the first time you said I love you.

8 - NEVER STOP CHASING HER

9 - Grab a pen and actually write her a love letter. Be vulnerable, your wife is the last person you should be afraid to share your truest feelings with.

10 - Give her a head-to-toe massage without expecting anything in return. Show her how much you sincerely value her.

A lot of us are GOING OUT for the same individuals who wouldn't SHOW UP for us. You're just being patient with a patient. They are sick of you because they still need to get from you. Because they DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOU, doesn't mean that they WANT TO LOVE YOU. The problem is that you're doing your all to please them, and they're doing just enough to keep you doing so. You can not keep counting on them to FINALLY, when all they intend on doing is FINISHING YOU OFF. They will lie and make you wrong, just to keep up the lie, knowing they're not right. Stop wasting your time trying to make up for what they did to you. Guilt is sometimes mistook for love, only because it causes you to lose yourself to gain them. And even when they aren't there with you, you stay in whatever that is with them. "Move on" is a mental battle cry with spiritual aid, yet no physical movement. Be better for you, you should be tired of being greater for them. Be your own strength and no longer the weakness in you they need. Where you are headed should not become warranted on where they are sitting. Remember: THEY'RE WINNING, and you're the ONLY ONE ON THE HIGHLIGHT REEL.

Don't get caught up in wanting to be some POWER COUPLE, focus on being a PRAYING ONE first. A lot of times that love is there for the material, and if that leaves, there's nothing spiritual in it to salvage things. But that woman who's willing to look pass what you have, will be the final ingredient to get all you want. Don't want me for what I BRING TO THE TABLE, unless you've already had a few years of FIXING YOUR OWN PLATE. Too many women want you to have it to get it, but very few will suffer in a struggle to bring it. Too many will not date you because of what their friends say, and family think. Do you have the right car? Do you have the perfect house? Are you in the latest designers? What about his past? They base how they love you, on how others view you. But that ONE WOMAN who'll see something in you, then pull it out you, will be your best ASSET and it won't matter how her ASS SETS. Men will RECORD HER FROM THE BACK, but so few will LEAD HER FROM UPFRONT. A lot of you get dogged out because she didn't have shit to offer you coming in. So the same thing you could give her, another man could offer her. But see when she offers you up in prayer, watch how God picks you up in promise. The woman that COVERS YOU will help you UNCOVER YOU. So before running around looking for any bed to jump in, wait for that woman who stands out. Y'all out here losing soul mates because you're running after stalemates. Find your last one and watch how everything you asked for, becomes all the things you no longer have to wait for. Most times you are suffering in life because you can't recognize who is a blessing in your life. Remember: A committed team will see dreams come true, and a praying couple will live in dreams that came through.

You know why a lot of RELATIONSHIPS... FRIENDSHIPS... and/or PARTNERSHIPS don't work out? Most times it's because a person inside of them have people in their lives that are scared to tell them the truth about themselves, or their actions. How can a person you're with tell you the issues you have, when the people you are close to agree with the bullshit you do? You can't see your wrong, because they don't tell you what's right. Worse even: When you know you are wrong, but go to the people who PACIFY & JUSTIFY, instead of CORRECTING & CHASTISING.

A lot of you sour ass friends are the cause of breakups and arguments, and y'all cause damaged friendships with others as well. Many of you let your friends be ignorant, because you can't take them becoming happy. So you see the behavior and laugh at them in private, then agree with them in conversation.

A man should love his woman from A to Z…

A - Accept her, all of her. Including her faults.

B - Believe in her and Belief in GOD

C - be her biggest Cheerleader and never stop Chasing her

D - Dare to love her with all that you are and your all.

E - Equally yoked with her on the same page as her

F - Faith in GOD, Faith in each other and bring out the Fun times in Life

G - Give unconditionally.

H - Help her not Hinder her, Hold her don’t bind her.

I - Invite her into your heart, completely

J - Just love her.

K - Kick ass friendship for a Kept fresh relationship.

L - Let her Lead when she has to.

M - Make love to her mind not just her body. And Make-up any missed time with her.

N - Never judge her.

O - Offer support, always.

P - Pick her first. Pick her up. Pray her forward.

Q - Quiet Quality time.

R - Refresh your relationship time and time again.

S - Situate her mind. See only her, not just with your eyes.

T - Take her out, date her always.

U - Understand her. Never Underestimate her.

V - Value her.

W - Walk beside her. Wake up next to her.

X - “X” out all others and accept only her

Y - Your love

Z - Zip her up when others try to tear her down.

You can't blame a hater for trying, but you can blame yourself for them succeeding. Don't let people draw you out, just because they can't get in. We let who means nothing to us, cause us to lose everything that means anything to us. Now when you try to get even it puts you at their level, evenly. Trying to prove you're not weak, is proof of their strength. Wanting to show them that you're not who they think you are, shows them that you are exactly what they thought you were. Do not feed into that which gives you no sustenance. When you are winning, you'll be sought out by losers. When it is your time, all things will come against you at the wrong time. Do not let your fall be from their push.

KEEP YOUR HEAD LOOKING FORWARD...

KEEP FOCUSED...

KEEP THEM GUESSING...

and more importantly,

KEEP YOUR BALANCE.

1 - When she calls you over and then says “That’s ok…” Go anyways to be sure she’s ok.

2 - When she says “It doesn’t matter…” Tell her that she does so it does.

3 - When she says “You don’t understand…” Ask her to help you so you can.

4 - When she places her head on your shoulder, lift it and kiss her on the lips.

5 - When she texts you to say “I love you…” Call her and say I love you back.

6 - When she calls to say she misses you, go over to tell her she doesn’t have to.

7 - When it seems like something is wrong, do what it takes to make it right.

8 - If she walks in front of the TV to get your attention, turn it off and give it undivided.

9 - If she tells you what her friends are missing, Listen because there is something she may need you to find for her.

10 - If she puts her head down, take your finger and lift her chin back up.

11 - When she says I love you, do whatever it takes to make her want to say it again.

One day you’ll have to give a person a chance to love you the way you’ve been loving everyone else 😢

And most times you've opened that door to individuals who will never open their hearts. Sad is when you get to that point of thinking that it'll never happen FOR YOU, knowing it'll always come FROM YOU, to those who can never give it back TO YOU. But who you are is love, and they play on that, and that love in you, allows them to get away with that.