I've recently come to terms with being transintersex, I've had this deep feeling since I learned what being intersex is that I was intersex. It's hard to explain it's just this feeling that I can't ignore anymore, but I feel deep guilt because I've been told it's intersexist. Sure, I could use alt terms but I've tried and they just don't fit right. How do I get over this guilt? How do I deal with my dysphoria around my identity as intersex now? Is this just a delusion that I need to correct? Any advice would be appreciated.
hi anon. i also identified as transintersex for a long while before realizing im actually cisintersex. it is so, so much more common than most people think. but as someone who did id as transintersex, i do understand where you're coming from. i wanted to be intersex before i even really knew about the transID community. and, like you, i felt terrible about it for the same reasons.
i appear as a mostly-typical mulleripathian with one physical variation and, to my knowledge, mosaic turner's syndrome (i can't afford to test, but the symptoms line up almost perfectly, and i Don't trust the medical system for. Obvious Reasons).
despite appearing as a typical mulleripathian, i am intersex.
there is no "wrong" way to be intersex. there is nothing any fakeclaimers can do or say to ""prove"" you aren't intersex, because you are. you are not delusional. your identity is real, and it is valid.
the link i posted above - which includes the definition of mulleripathian - is also a huge list of intersex traits, including many that people don't often realize or know are intersex. it's actually how i found out that i am cisintersex. fair warning, the blog is not sympathetic to transintersex beings, but i found it very helpful. who knows, maybe you'll find out like me that you're also cisintersex? you're still intersex either way, anon.
i apologize that i cannot offer many tips for dysphoria in this case. i would recommend finding others in the community who do support transintersex beings.
you are valid, you are real, and you are intersex.
if you would like, you can reach out privately, though if you're uncomfortable with that i completely understand.