Packing is when a person without a large biological penis wears something in their pants in order to mimic the appearance or function of having a penis or a larger penis.
Usually, trans-masculine people pack but anyone is allowed to and able to if they are interested in doing so (despite the language in the links which is geared towards trans guys). Some people just arenât interested in any of this; thatâs totally ok and vald.
To be quite honest, packing usually doesnât make or break passing, if passing is something you care about. You donât have to pack to pass as a guy in most circumstances! In general, if you arenât swimming in a speedo, peeing at a urinal, changing in front of others, or getting groped/felt up, people wonât notice if you donât have a penis. Packing doesnât help everyoneâs dysphoria either; some people find that it can make them feel worse, because theyâre more aware of the part that theyâre âmissingâ.Â
Soft packer: Used for packing to get a bit of a bulge and alleviate dysphoria, typically looks like a penis and is sometimes worn in a harness. Often needs to have cornstarch put on it so it isnât tacky
It canât be used to pee standing up with.
It canât be used to have sex with.Â
Link one:Â Packing: Creating a Realistic BulgeÂ
Link two:Â Packing and Packers 101
Stand to pee (STP) device: Used to stand to pee, may be more funnel shaped or âslideâ shaped than penis shaped.
It often canât be packed with; you need to carry it in your pocket or bag.
It canât be used to have sex with.
Link one:Â Bathroom Use & Stand-to-Pee (STP) Devices
Link two:Â A Guide to Stand to Pee (STP) Devices
Dildo: Used to penetrate another person when having sex; can be worn in a harness. People call packing with a dildo âpacking hardâ.
It canât be used to pack with unless you want to look like you have an erection.
It canât be used to pee standing up.
Link one:Â Packing Hard: Prosthetic Devices for Sex Play
Link two:Â Pros and Cons of Strap-On Sex for Trans guys
Blogs: @dangerouslilly and @ftmsextalk have relevant info
(Read the links! They go way more in depth than this post.)
Before rushing into a purchase, itâs important to consider what youâre looking for. You may be able to make a basic packer or STP yourself. That can save you money, and help you decide if you want to purchase a product.
Soft packing with a sock or necktie
Soft packer made from hair gel and condoms
Make an STP out of a flexible lid/plastic disc or a medicine spoon
Single-function items that are either just for packing, just for peeing, or just for sex are often less expensive than multiple function ones. If only one aspect bothers you, like if you only want to be able to pee standing up, then looking at only STP devices would be a good place to start, for example.Â
If youâre looking for something that can be used to pack and have sex with, or pack and pee with, or pack, pee, and have sex with, the price starts to rise (if you arenât making something yourself and youâre buying something).
Choosing the size of your packer
Iâm making this a whole section because I have very strong feelings on this issue. Letâs say youâve decided youâre going to buy a soft packer. Youâre looking at the different models online. Youâve chosen one, and now you need to pick a size.Â
If you are packing without the intention of having sex with your packer, you want it to look like a flaccid penis, not an erection. Thereâs a lot of pressure to have a big olâ dick, but I want you to know that it is not what most cis men with penises have in their pants. Yes, 3.5 inches is the average flaccid penis size- this means that about half of all men have a flaccid penis thatâs a bit bigger, and half have a flaccid penis thatâs a bit smaller. Everyoneâs got a different penis, and itâs okay if youâre bigger or smaller than average, but I think itâs extremely important to be aware of what the average is so you are making a conscientious choice to go bigger or smaller. Penises get larger when theyâre erect, so if youâre getting a dildo or a hard packer, you should consider if you want to go larger or not, but if youâre just soft packing, I want you to take a moment and think about it; I know your instinct is to go for a medium or large sized packer, but the labeling is deceiving. What packer companies label as âsmallâ is usually the average size flaccid penis; âmediumâ is usually bigger than average. Itâs harder to pack with a larger packer than it is with a smaller packer, larger packers are often more expensive than smaller ones, and large packers are often not realistically flaccid lengths and look like hard-ons.Â
Iâm not saying that no cis men have large flaccid penises; that isnât true. I am saying that the media makes it seem like men on average have larger penises than they do. Men in porn usually have larger than average size penises, and theyâre usually erect, which means theyâre sometimes double the length of the flaccid penis. Because society makes having a larger penis seem enviable, men sometimes overstate the size of their penis if you ask them because theyâre worried that their penis is small. Small penis jokes made to emasculate men continue to perpetrate the myth of the Ubiquitous Large Dick because nobody wants to admit that their penis is small. Letâs have some radical body acceptance up in here and say that itâs okay to have whatever size penis or packer you have, and it doesnât make you unmanly to have a small one, or extra-masculine to have a large one.Â
I want you to look at a ruler. Stop reading this post, get up, get a ruler, and come back. Okay? Now measure out the length of the average flaccid penis. Three and a half inches. Look at it. Now look at the length of the packer you were considering buying. How different is it? This is an activity to make you more mindful of what size is average. Pay attention to the the junk of the guys you see in the street and who you interact with on the daily. Chances are you can hardly notice a dick print, especially if youâre at work or at school. Even the Nude standing men gallery on Wikipedia is somewhere to start.Â
Below is a paragraph from Hudsonâs FTM guide saying the same thing:
In order to see what male anatomy tends to look like in underwear, in swim trunks, or jeans or slacks, it can be helpful to look at menâs clothing catalogs or internet retailers of menswear or menâs underwearâ this way, you can stare as much as you want at guysâ crotches without having to worry about offending or upsetting anyone. The web site www.erectionphotos.com has a âsoft/hardâ section, showing penises in both flaccid and erect states. It shows variation in the size and shape of menâs penises, and shows men of varying body types and ages. Searching the web for âflaccid penis photosâ will yield other results as well. Just keep in mind while you are looking that the average length for a flaccid penis tends to be just over 3 inches, and that the men you see in most porn sites and movies will tend to be very well-endowed, and will usually be shown while erect.
Iâm trying to save you from falling into the trap of buying a big dick for the hell of buying a big dick without considering it. Packer companies will try to lure you into buying a bigger packer because they make more money that way. Itâs just a body part, yâall, letâs not get too caught up in the hype. Donât buy into toxic masculinity! Thereâs nothing wrong with having a small penis. Thereâs nothing wrong with having an average penis.Â
The below graph shows the frequency of certain size penises in centimeters. (X)
One study showed the mean flaccid penis length to be 3.5 inches (8.9 cm)
A review of several studies found the average flaccid length to be 3.5â3.9 inches (9â10 cm)
Alright, I think you get the point. Flaccid penises arenât as big as you might think they are. Now, Iâm going to admit something: I currently have 5 packers, and they range in size from 3âł to 7.5âł. I am not telling you that you canât buy a big packer if you want a big packer; I have a large packer myself, and bigger can sometimes be better if youâre prioritizing using it for sex instead of daily packing. Yes, getting a smaller packer is usually better to start out with if youâre new to packing. But if youâre experienced with packing, if you just really want a big dick, or you plan on using it for sex, go ahead and get a big one! And even though 3.5âł is the average flaccid penis size, there are people with larger penises! Penis size doesnât correlate to your height, race, foot size, as some myths suggest. A smaller person could have a larger penis and a tall person could have a smaller one, the two variables arenât dependant!Â
The point of this paragraph is just to make sure that youâre making a conscious decision if you choose to get a packer thatâs larger than usual knowing that it may be a bit unwieldy, not to police your packer buying. Some people have larger packers and they can pack easily with them and love them, and thatâs a-okay.Â
Spend time researching packers!
Look through different websites to see the packers available for purchase. Read reviews of the packers on forums and on Tumblr. Watch YouTube reviews of packers. Contact people about their packers and ask them questions if theyâre open to it! This post is just a very cursory and topical overview of packers, itâs not all there is to know. Now you are aware of what packing is, but not fully informed on the pros and cons of individual different packers. There is so much out there on different blogs! Trawl the net, ask Dark Google what the best dick is (thatâs a joke because different packers are good for different people depending on what theyâre looking for so there is no one best packer but yeah, google ftm packers and stp packers and pack and play packers or whatever you want!) Make sure you know how much money youâre willing to spend buying a packer. Start to save up money if youâre broke.
Sidenote: Genitals can be a shade or two darker than the rest of your skin, so you might want to choose a packer one tone darker than your thigh. However, I urge you to be cautious with this- you donât want a packer thatâs way too dark for you! If youâre white, you shouldnât be getting a black penis, thatâs Too Far.
Make sure you read multiple reviews before you buy a packer, because some companies are scams or just shitty. Four companies to avoid are below:
Donât shop at packer locker (Itâs a scam and I personally lost $15 dollars from them that I never got back and others have lost more)
Donât shop at The Ultimate Prosthetic (This is also a scam and people have lost hundreds of dollars and never recieved products)
Donât shop at FtmConnect (the owner is racist and the packers arenât even that great anyway)
Donât shop at STP Ninja (itâs the same guy from FTM connect using a different name)
Some of the packers you could buy:
This is an incomplete list, and there are more options for packers/STPs/etc out there!! If the link doesnât work, just google the product name because most of these are sold in multiple stores/websites (and send me an ask so I can fix the link).Â
Mr. Limpy Hand Painted Packer $9-$12
Packer Gear Packers $13-$15
Packer Gear Hand Painted Packer $15-$17
Masho Packer $21 (Out of stock?)
Bella Packy $28â$65 (Unavailable?)
Reelmagik Packers $29-$59
Gecko & Mini Gecko $29.95
Python Packer $39.95 (Out of stock?)
Pack Man $52 (Unavailable?)
Juan Silicone Soft Packer $59
Buck Angelâs Fun Boy $69.50
Sebastian Soft Packer $119
Super Soft GenderMender Packers $228
Emisil Flaccid Penis Prosthesis $298-$569
Camouflage Prosthetics Flaccid
Prince: STP or Packer $35.95
Basic Silicone STP $42.95-$47.95
Basic Bro STP- 2 in 1 $49.95
Number One STP: Powder Finish $50
Moccasin UnCircumcised STP $59
Emisil S.T.P Penis Prosthesis $98-$361
Bly 2&1 STP basic Prosthetic $105
Zac 2&1 STP Uncircumsized $105
Che 2&1 STP Prosthetic $157
Rio 2&1 STP Uncircumsized $157
Flip-N-Tuck Cut STP with Waistband Harness $160
Pack nâ plays and dildos
X5âŚ7 inch PacknPlay $15.95
Blush Super-Flexible Realistic Dildo 4 Inch $18.95
Damien flexible PacknPlay $19.95
CyberSkin Dual Density Dildo $29.95
Bendy Buddy $39 Â (Unavailable?)
Copperhead PacknPlay $39.95
The Love Bump $39.95 (to add on to dildos w/o balls)
Moccasin UnCircumcised 2 in 1 $49
BJ-Designed to Suck- 3 in 1 $72
Buck Angel Fun Boy $75.50
Tantus Pack and Play #2 $79
FreeToM Pack n Plays $139-$269
Gendercat Packer $138-$178
Mason Pack and Play $154.99
Carter Pack and Play $164.99
Full Pleasure $310.25-$522.54
The One Full $348.36-$572.30
Emisil Erect Penis Prosthesis $361-$569
Reelmagik Pack n Play $379-$529
Hard or Semi-Hard GenderMender Prosthetics for Play $395
t2 Phase4 prosthesis $1516.06
Camouflage Prosthetics Dual Use
Erotic Creations Prosthetics $78.97-$189.91
Max STP 3&1, 7" Prosthetic $140
Freetom 4 in 1s $143-$283
Enzo 3&1 6.5" Prosthetic $189
Thor 3&1, 7" Prosthetic $208
Pymander Pleasure 3in1 $311.04-$522.54
The One XL 3in1 $348.36-$572.30
Are cyberskin packers safe?
Packing as a wheelchair user
Heads up about Reelmagik prosthetics
How to pack without a packer
Packing during your period
Recoloring a cyberskin packer
Recoloring a silicone packer
Pack ân plays and hard packers:
How to Choose Your First Dildo
Companies/products to avoid when looking for sex toys
Should you really cover your sex toy with a condom?
The pros and cons of strap ons (sex tw)
How to pick your prosthetic
Standing to pee w/o a device
How Do I Actually Buy One?
Method one: You have a credit/debit card.
Buy the packer. Clear your internet history if youâre at home and not using a library computer. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.
Either have it shipped to your house or to a friendâs house if your parents will be suspicious.
Pick the packer you want online, add it to the websiteâs shopping cart and start to check out until you find how much it costs with shipping and tax.
Save up enough money to buy the packer. Make sure you have a few dollars extra, to buy the card itself and just incase.
Go into a store and buy a prepaid VISA card. They have them at lots of stores, even CVS. (You can also ask a friend to do this if you canât get to a store on your own)
Prepaid credit cards require you to be 18 to open an account, but you can purchase prepaid gift cards at a grocery or other store at any age and use them wherever Visa, MasterCard or AMEX are accepted.
These gift cards, which arenât reloadable, usually carry an activation fee along the lines of $4.95 for every $50 increment. You usually find them in denominations of $25, $50 or $100.
Buy the packer online. If you donât have access to a computer at home, use one at the library.
Clear your internet history if youâre at home. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.
Ship it to a consenting friendâs house or an accepting relative, if you have one.
Hide it when you get it and keep it hidden when you arenât wearing it.
(Or ask a friend with a debit/credit/gift card to buy you a binder if you give them the cash.)
Method 3: You have supportive parents
Asking parents for a packerÂ
Method 4: You have friends with a debit card and you have cash
If you have a friend or supportive relative with a debit card or a credit card, ask them to buy the packer of your choice and ship it to their house
Pay the person back in cash
Please feel free to reblog with more information on packing, or more helpful links if you know any!Â
If you have a packer and are willing to help others with their choice, reblog this post and write what kind of packer you have so people with questions about that packer can contact you!
This post will be occasionally updated if new info is needed, so contact me if a link is broken. Last updated: 3/25/18