Transgender Asks

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with it, you can identify social media users and pages that are trans-friendly and the ones that are transphobic!

This isn’t a safe binder:

It uses clasps and not compression.

This is a c2b binder; made by trans people for trans people:

These binders have no clasps but uses spandex to compress you safety. 

Measure your chest before ordering to make sure you don’t get one too small or too large.

UPDATE (06/12)

I wanted to add more information on where you can buy binders and info in general about binders

You can buy binders from these sites

@gc2b-apparel​ (OPs #1 Recommendation)

@shapeshiftersinc​

http://www.f2mbinders.com/ (AKA underworks)

http://www.t-kingdom.com/

http://www.lesloveboat.com/shop/index.php?language=en

http://www.danae.info/en/?___from_store=nl

http://showcase.designveronique.com/designveronique/shop/postsurgical/men-1.html

http://en.nabeshirt.com/shop/

Used Binders

If you can’t afford a binder, don’t despair! Used binders are often passed on by post-op trans men or those whose binders may no longer fit. There are a few programs available that help distribute donated second-hand binders:

In A Bind – Started in 2012, to date In a Bind has provided safe compression garments to over 1500 youth in need. Trans* masculine and genderqueer youth living anywhere in the USA can apply to receive a free binder. In a Bind depends on donations. Recently had top surgery? Go up or down a size? Find a style that works better for you? Donate those binders you’re no longer using!

Black Trans Advocacy FTM Binder Grant

MORF Binder Exchange – Since February 2011, MORF has been providing free binders to trans* masculine people in the UK and around the world. The free scheme (all you pay is the postage) has so far redistributed hundreds of binders. In 2014 alone, over 280 binders were sent out.

FTME Free Youth Binder Program – Age 24 and under only; USA only.

Replace the Ace – USA only

Big Brothers Used Binder Program – Donation required

Mazzoni Center’s Binder Recycling Program – Only for youth enrolled in P.A.C.T.S., Philadelphia.

Point 5cc Tshirt Company – Free binder with purchase of t-shirt

Come As You Are’s Binder Bucks Recycling Program – Canada only

Qmunity Binder Exchange – BC, Canada only.

Trans Fellas

Northern Ireland Binder Scheme –  Age 25 and under, N. Ireland only.

You can also try asking around for an inexpensive hand-me-down binder on one of themailing lists for trans guys or check out LiveJournal’s FTM Garage Sale and the FtM Sales, Swap, and Support group on Facebook.

How to Choose a Chest Binder

If you still remember your old bra size, you can find out your binder size by using theBra to Chest Size Converter Tool. If you don’t know your old bra size, you can measure yourself the old-fashioned way:

Take a snug measurement of the fullest part of your chest using a tape measure (best if measured while clothed) and write that number down onto a sheet of paper.

Measure underneath your chest where the crease is and write that number down as well.

Add those numbers together and divide the sum by 2. This number will differentiate your size not only from brand to brand but from binder to binder as well.

Selecting a binder brand and style can be difficult: there are so many options that it can be overwhelming! Plus, there aren’t very many reviews of binders other than those about Underworks’ and T-Kingdom’s more popular models. After buying your binder, help make the experience easier for guys in the future by contributing your review to one of the review sites listed below.

Essentially, there are two types of binders: short ones and long ones. The short ones end right at your waist. The down side of these is that if you carry some extra weight, short binders tend to roll up and act more like a bra. The long ones can be pulled down past your waist by several inches, however it’s inevitable that it will still roll up. To reduce the chances of this, wear a belt. Choosing between a short and long binder has more to do with your body type, specifically your abdomen, and not your chest size.

Lastly, consider the location of the company you’re buying from. Buying from a company that’s closer to you can save you a significant amount of money on shipping costs.

How to Put On a Chest Binder

It might seem silly, but you’re probably going to need some help figuring out how to put on your new binder, particularly if you purchased one of the longer styles.

Put your binder inside out and upside down.

Step into your binder and pull the bottom of it up, ideally to your belt line. The binder should still be inside out and upside down.

Use the sleeves as handles to pull the top of the binder (the end closer to your feet) up to your shoulders.

Put your arms through the sleeve holes and adjust your chest to your needs. You may need to pull the bottom of the binder out from underneath itself if you don’t want it folded under. For others, leaving it folded under may help stop the binder from rolling up.

Don’t be disappointed if you look in the mirror and it looks like you have one big boob in the middle of your chest. You just need to adjust your chest. Reach in from the neck hole and push your chesticles down and out. You’re basically pushing your nipple toward your armpit to achieve the flattest looking chest possible.

FTM Chest Binding Tips

Very important: When binding, you should not by any means feel as though you can’t breathe or like you’re going to pass out from a lack of oxygen.

Binders aren’t the most comfortable things in the world. To make binding more comfortable, and to reduce the possibility of the binder moving around a bit, some guys wear a light shirt underneath.

Depending on the size of your chest, you may need to layer clothing on top of the binder to get optimal chest flattening. You’ll find that some of the shirts in your closet require you to layer more than shirts in your wardrobe.

You can swim in your binder. Just wear a sleeveless or sleeved T-shirt over it. Don’t worry if your binder seems less effective after a swim, this isn’t permanent. Simply wash it and it will go back to normal.

Your chest will look bigger than it really is when you look down at it. Check in the mirror for a more accurate side view.

Not all binders breathe well, and the reality is that you’re probably going to get hot. If you’ve already started testosterone, you’re definitely going to sweat. The build up of sweat can irritate your skin causing rashes and sores. Wearing a thin cotton shirt that breathes well underneath your binder may help prevent this. If you find this uncomfortable, try applying corn starch to your body before putting on your binder to help keep it from holding in moisture. If you’ve already experienced skin irritation of some sort, take care of it the same way you would an open wound. Washing the irritated area with anti-bacterial soap will keep it clean and help it heal faster.

Conclusion

Chest binding, as cumbersome as it may seem, can be very freeing for transgender men. There’s a plethora of quality FTM chest binding products available for body types of all shapes and sizes. Regardless of what you use for binding, please remember to put your health first. Now that you’re armed with all the information you need to find the right binder for you, go forth and feel more comfortable in your skin!

FTM Chest Binder Reviews

Chest Binder Reviews Site: Written reviews of various chest binding products. Binders are rated for effectiveness, comfort, and discreetness.

Binder Reviews’ YouTube Collab Channel: This is a collab channel dedicated to providing reviews of a wide variety of chest binders on different sizes and shapes of people.

(Note: These sites are no longer updated.)

More FTM Chest Binding Resources

Binding Safely for Your Body: Tips for All Body Types and Sizes

The 6 Best Tips for Binding in the Summer

Hudson’s Guide to FTM Binding: Includes a complete list of other products you can use for chest binding, such as compression garments and sports bras.

FYI Binding Tips: The Butchelor has some useful tips on how to put on a binder, how to keep it from rolling up, and how to wash a binder.

Do you have any tips about binding? Want to share your experience with a particular binder brand or model? Do you know of other binder manufacturers, particularly those outside of Asia and the US? Please leave your comments below.

Not too long ago, my friend Bella came out as aromantic to me, and now I’ve got some things to say.

I was the one who told her what aromantic means, because I was explaining different sexual orientations to her. I remember saying, “Asexualiy is when you have romantic attraction, but no sexual attraction.”

Bella immedently, without missing a beat, asked, “Is there an opposite to that?”

I asked what she meant, and she asked if there was a term for sexual attraction but no romantic attraction. I told her about aromantics. She got weirdly quiet, then excused herself.

Not two weeks later I was heading to my boat. I was supposed to meet Bella and another one of our muteral friends there for a day of fishing.

As soon as I was in earshot, I saw Bella storming off the boat, and our other friend standing there like an idiot. Boi had no idea what was happening.

Anyway, Bella isn’t looking where she’s going and walks smack dab into me. That’s when I realized she was crying. Puffy red eyes, wet cheeks, the whole nine yards… And if you know anything about Bells, she does not cry. Ever.

She’s been through some serious crap in her life, and she does not cry. She’s tough as nails. Bella has a steel core. She does not not cry. I’ve seen her fall off a roof and break her arm before, not a single tear. I can’t stress this enough, Bella. Doesn’t. Cry.

So seeing her in tears shook me. I took her by the shoulders and escorted her somewhere more private where we could talk. We ended up in the women’s restroom, which was weird as fuck for me, because haven’t been in a woman’s rest room for years. Luckily it was empty, and I’m realistic, I know I don’t pass so well, so I don’t think anyone would have said anything anyway.

Before I can even ask her what’s wrong she hugs me around my middle and burys her face in my hoodie. Then, in a voice I can only describe as traumatized, she says, “I think I’m broken.”

I’ve never seen her in so much pain, and Bella and I are CLOSE. She’s one of my dearest friends. She’s like my little sister, but if she’s like my sister, our other muteral friend is like her twin. He and Bella have know each other WAY longer, they’re practically inseparable. They come as a pair. They’re a duo. They’re a package deal.

Appearently, said muteral friend asked Bella out and forcefully kissed her. She shoved him off, and told him she’s aromantic, which she only recently figured out. She wasn’t ready to be out, but this muteral friend left her no choice. She tried telling him no, and he didn’t listen. Bella saw no other option.

Quote on quote, this is what he said to Bella. “That’s okay. You just haven’t dated me yet. We’ve been like, unofficially together for years. You’re probably just freaked out that it’s finally going somewhere.”

After that I’m not 100% clear on what happened, but apparently Bella kept saying no Nd trying to explain herself, but he kept insisting he could ‘fix her.’

Eventudally she started crying and stormed away. That’s when I found her.

Keep in mind, this was her first experience coming out, and her best, closest friend insisted he could fix her and forcefully kissed her. I found out later he also implied corrective rape would ‘solve the problem.’

Bella was traumatized. She’s still traumatized. I tried to make her feel better by buying her an aro pride shirt, and taking her go a local LGBTQ+ hang out. I wanted her to be around like minded people, so she could see she wasn’t broken, and her identity deserved to be respected.

Instead of a warm, welcoming environment… The first thing someone said to her was, “This place is for REAL lgbt people. You don’t belong here.” He also implied she wasn’t human.

Just think about that for a minute. Her first experiences with being an out aromantic have been limited to;

A person she trusted more than anyone forcing himself upon her, claiming she was ill, and needed to be fixed. (Raped.)

Sobbing in my arms in the women’s restroom because she thought she was broken and defective.

Being told she wasn’t welcomed in LGBTQ+ spaces and called inhuman.

This isn’t what I want for her. Bella deserves better than this. She needs a support system, not all this crap. I’ve spent the past week trying to undo all the damage exclusionists, arophobes, and people she trusted did.

I didn’t put up with it as a teenager really into sci-fi, I didn’t put up with it from the dude bros in game and comic shops, and I certainly won’t stand for it in my LGBT+ community.

You matter and always will be loved, never forget this. 

For height-dysphoric trans men - list of shorter male celebrities.

6′0 Aisha Tyler

6′0 Allison Janney

6′0 Brooke Shields

6′0 Elle Macpherson

6′0 Famke Janssen

6′0 Geena Davis

6′0 Jane Lynch

6′0 Jeanene Fox

6′0 Jennie Finch

6′0  Kristen Johnston

6′0 Margaux Hemingway

6′0 Natasha Stefanenko

6′0 Saffron Burrows

6′0 Uma Thurman

6′1 Adriana Karembeu

6′1 Ana Hickmann

6′1 Brigitte Nielsen

6′1 Faith Minton

6′1 Janet McTeer

6′1 Julie Strain

6′1 Michelle Wie

6′1 Monika Schnarre

6′1 Pam Stone

6′1 Penny Lancaster

6′1 Tara Moss

6′1 Venus Williams

6′2 Dorothy Ford

6′2  Elizabeth Debicki

6′2 Ireland Baldwin

6′2 Jodie Kidd

6′2 Karlie Kloss

6′2 Lindsay Davenport

6′2  Maria Sharapova

6′2 Natalia Bush

6′2 Suzie Plakson

6′3 Dot-Marie Jones

6′3 Gabrielle Reece

6′3 Gwendoline Christie

6′3 Judy Gold

6′3 Kerri Walsh Jennings

6′4 Candace Parker

6′4   L'Wren Scott

6′4 Rebecca Lobo

J'ai fait des petits stickers fleuris pour le Pride Month et j'avais complètement oublié de les poster, alors voilà ! :D

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Packing is when a person without a large biological penis wears something in their pants in order to mimic the appearance or function of having a penis or a larger penis.

Usually, trans-masculine people pack but anyone is allowed to and able to if they are interested in doing so (despite the language in the links which is geared towards trans guys). Some people just aren’t interested in any of this; that’s totally ok and vald.

To be quite honest, packing usually doesn’t make or break passing, if passing is something you care about. You don’t have to pack to pass as a guy in most circumstances! In general, if you aren’t swimming in a speedo, peeing at a urinal, changing in front of others, or getting groped/felt up, people won’t notice if you don’t have a penis. Packing doesn’t help everyone’s dysphoria either; some people find that it can make them feel worse, because they’re more aware of the part that they’re “missing”. 

What do I want? 

Soft packer: Used for packing to get a bit of a bulge and alleviate dysphoria, typically looks like a penis and is sometimes worn in a harness. Often needs to have cornstarch put on it so it isn’t tacky

It can’t be used to pee standing up with.

It can’t be used to have sex with. 

Link one: Packing: Creating a Realistic Bulge 

Link two: Packing and Packers 101

Stand to pee (STP) device: Used to stand to pee, may be more funnel shaped or “slide” shaped than penis shaped.

It often can’t be packed with; you need to carry it in your pocket or bag.

It can’t be used to have sex with.

Link one: Bathroom Use & Stand-to-Pee (STP) Devices

Link two: A Guide to Stand to Pee (STP) Devices

Dildo: Used to penetrate another person when having sex; can be worn in a harness. People call packing with a dildo “packing hard”.

It can’t be used to pack with unless you want to look like you have an erection.

It can’t be used to pee standing up.

Link one: Packing Hard: Prosthetic Devices for Sex Play

Link two: Pros and Cons of Strap-On Sex for Trans guys

Blogs: @dangerouslilly and @ftmsextalk have relevant info

(Read the links! They go way more in depth than this post.)

Before rushing into a purchase, it’s important to consider what you’re looking for. You may be able to make a basic packer or STP yourself. That can save you money, and help you decide if you want to purchase a product.

Soft packing with a sock or necktie

Soft packer made from hair gel and condoms

Make an STP out of a flexible lid/plastic disc or a medicine spoon

Single-function items that are either just for packing, just for peeing, or just for sex are often less expensive than multiple function ones. If only one aspect bothers you, like if you only want to be able to pee standing up, then looking at only STP devices would be a good place to start, for example. 

If you’re looking for something that can be used to pack and have sex with, or pack and pee with, or pack, pee, and have sex with, the price starts to rise (if you aren’t making something yourself and you’re buying something).

Choosing the size of your packer

I’m making this a whole section because I have very strong feelings on this issue. Let’s say you’ve decided you’re going to buy a soft packer. You’re looking at the different models online. You’ve chosen one, and now you need to pick a size. 

If you are packing without the intention of having sex with your packer, you want it to look like a flaccid penis, not an erection. There’s a lot of pressure to have a big ol’ dick, but I want you to know that it is not what most cis men with penises have in their pants. Yes, 3.5 inches is the average flaccid penis size- this means that about half of all men have a flaccid penis that’s a bit bigger, and half have a flaccid penis that’s a bit smaller. Everyone’s got a different penis, and it’s okay if you’re bigger or smaller than average, but I think it’s extremely important to be aware of what the average is so you are making a conscientious choice to go bigger or smaller. Penises get larger when they’re erect, so if you’re getting a dildo or a hard packer, you should consider if you want to go larger or not, but if you’re just soft packing, I want you to take a moment and think about it; I know your instinct is to go for a medium or large sized packer, but the labeling is deceiving. What packer companies label as “small” is usually the average size flaccid penis; “medium” is usually bigger than average. It’s harder to pack with a larger packer than it is with a smaller packer, larger packers are often more expensive than smaller ones, and large packers are often not realistically flaccid lengths and look like hard-ons. 

I’m not saying that no cis men have large flaccid penises; that isn’t true. I am saying that the media makes it seem like men on average have larger penises than they do. Men in porn usually have larger than average size penises, and they’re usually erect, which means they’re sometimes double the length of the flaccid penis. Because society makes having a larger penis seem enviable, men sometimes overstate the size of their penis if you ask them because they’re worried that their penis is small. Small penis jokes made to emasculate men continue to perpetrate the myth of the Ubiquitous Large Dick because nobody wants to admit that their penis is small. Let’s have some radical body acceptance up in here and say that it’s okay to have whatever size penis or packer you have, and it doesn’t make you unmanly to have a small one, or extra-masculine to have a large one. 

I want you to look at a ruler. Stop reading this post, get up, get a ruler, and come back. Okay? Now measure out the length of the average flaccid penis. Three and a half inches. Look at it. Now look at the length of the packer you were considering buying. How different is it? This is an activity to make you more mindful of what size is average. Pay attention to the the junk of the guys you see in the street and who you interact with on the daily. Chances are you can hardly notice a dick print, especially if you’re at work or at school. Even the Nude standing men gallery on Wikipedia is somewhere to start. 

Below is a paragraph from Hudson’s FTM guide saying the same thing:

In order to see what male anatomy tends to look like in underwear, in swim trunks, or jeans or slacks, it can be helpful to look at men’s clothing catalogs or internet retailers of menswear or men’s underwear– this way, you can stare as much as you want at guys’ crotches without having to worry about offending or upsetting anyone. The web site www.erectionphotos.com has a “soft/hard” section, showing penises in both flaccid and erect states. It shows variation in the size and shape of men’s penises, and shows men of varying body types and ages. Searching the web for “flaccid penis photos” will yield other results as well. Just keep in mind while you are looking that the average length for a flaccid penis tends to be just over 3 inches, and that the men you see in most porn sites and movies will tend to be very well-endowed, and will usually be shown while erect.

I’m trying to save you from falling into the trap of buying a big dick for the hell of buying a big dick without considering it. Packer companies will try to lure you into buying a bigger packer because they make more money that way. It’s just a body part, y’all, let’s not get too caught up in the hype. Don’t buy into toxic masculinity! There’s nothing wrong with having a small penis. There’s nothing wrong with having an average penis. 

The below graph shows the frequency of certain size penises in centimeters. (X)

One study showed the mean flaccid penis length to be 3.5 inches (8.9 cm)

A review of several studies found the average flaccid length to be 3.5–3.9 inches (9–10 cm)

Alright, I think you get the point. Flaccid penises aren’t as big as you might think they are. Now, I’m going to admit something: I currently have 5 packers, and they range in size from 3″ to 7.5″. I am not telling you that you can’t buy a big packer if you want a big packer; I have a large packer myself, and bigger can sometimes be better if you’re prioritizing using it for sex instead of daily packing. Yes, getting a smaller packer is usually better to start out with if you’re new to packing. But if you’re experienced with packing, if you just really want a big dick, or you plan on using it for sex, go ahead and get a big one! And even though 3.5″ is the average flaccid penis size, there are people with larger penises! Penis size doesn’t correlate to your height, race, foot size, as some myths suggest. A smaller person could have a larger penis and a tall person could have a smaller one, the two variables aren’t dependant! 

The point of this paragraph is just to make sure that you’re making a conscious decision if you choose to get a packer that’s larger than usual knowing that it may be a bit unwieldy, not to police your packer buying. Some people have larger packers and they can pack easily with them and love them, and that’s a-okay. 

Spend time researching packers!

Look through different websites to see the packers available for purchase. Read reviews of the packers on forums and on Tumblr. Watch YouTube reviews of packers. Contact people about their packers and ask them questions if they’re open to it! This post is just a very cursory and topical overview of packers, it’s not all there is to know. Now you are aware of what packing is, but not fully informed on the pros and cons of individual different packers. There is so much out there on different blogs! Trawl the net, ask Dark Google what the best dick is (that’s a joke because different packers are good for different people depending on what they’re looking for so there is no one best packer but yeah, google ftm packers and stp packers and pack and play packers or whatever you want!) Make sure you know how much money you’re willing to spend buying a packer. Start to save up money if you’re broke.

Sidenote: Genitals can be a shade or two darker than the rest of your skin, so you might want to choose a packer one tone darker than your thigh. However, I urge you to be cautious with this- you don’t want a packer that’s way too dark for you! If you’re white, you shouldn’t be getting a black penis, that’s Too Far.

Make sure you read multiple reviews before you buy a packer, because some companies are scams or just shitty. Four companies to avoid are below:

Don’t shop at packer locker (It’s a scam and I personally lost $15 dollars from them that I never got back and others have lost more)

Don’t shop at The Ultimate Prosthetic (This is also a scam and people have lost hundreds of dollars and never recieved products)

Don’t shop at FtmConnect (the owner is racist and the packers aren’t even that great anyway)

Don’t shop at STP Ninja (it’s the same guy from FTM connect using a different name)

Some of the packers you could buy:

This is an incomplete list, and there are more options for packers/STPs/etc out there!! If the link doesn’t work, just google the product name because most of these are sold in multiple stores/websites (and send me an ask so I can fix the link). 

Packers

Free crochet packer

Cloth Packers $5

Mr. Limpy $9.50

EZ Bulge $10.95

Mr. Limpy Hand Painted Packer $9-$12

Packer Gear Packers $13-$15

Packer Gear Hand Painted Packer $15-$17

Pack It Packers $18-$20

SiliPack $21

Crocheted Packer $20

Total Package $20-35

Masho Packer $21 (Out of stock?)

Sailor Soft Pack $24-$28

PinoyBoy Products $25

Bella Packy $28–$65 (Unavailable?)

Copperhead $29.95

Reelmagik Packers $29-$59

Gecko & Mini Gecko $29.95

Huck Packer $35.95

Custom Heart On $35.99

FreeToM Packers $39-$67

Python Packer $39.95 (Out of stock?)

Archer $45-$55

Pierre Packer $45-$55

Mr. Right $49

Pack Man $52 (Unavailable?)

Juan Silicone Soft Packer $59

Buck Angel’s Fun Boy $69.50

Sebastian Soft Packer $119

Meta extensor $169.57

The Rod $185

Super Soft GenderMender Packers $228

Emisil Flaccid Penis Prosthesis $298-$569

Like Real $299-$499

Camouflage Prosthetics Flaccid

STPs

P-Ez Travel Urinal $3.99

Freelax $8

Whiz $8-$11

pStyle $12

She Pee $12.11

Lady J $12.94

Go Girl $13-18

Pee-Zee $16

Snee-Kee $16

Fenis $16

Pibella Travel $19

Freshette $24

Mr Fenis $25

STP Packers

Mr. Limpy STP $25-$30

Prince: STP or Packer $35.95

STP Fitz $38

Manciata $39

Basic Silicone STP $42.95-$47.95

Basic Bro STP- 2 in 1 $49.95

Number One STP: Powder Finish $50

Model E StP $55

Economy STP $55.61

Prince: STP $57.95

Moccasin UnCircumcised STP $59

Python STP 2 in 1 $59

Mango STP $69.95

Sport StP $70

Sam the STP $75

Model D STP $78

Freetom STP $79-$163

Model A StP $80

Emisil S.T.P Penis Prosthesis $98-$361

Bly 2&1 STP basic Prosthetic $105

Zac 2&1 STP Uncircumsized $105

Pymander David $155.32

Che 2&1 STP Prosthetic $157

Rio 2&1 STP Uncircumsized $157

Flip-N-Tuck Cut STP with Waistband Harness $160

Meta extensor $169.57

Jimmy STP $181.35

The Rod $185

The EZP $195

The EZP Junior $195

Reelmagik STP $519

Pack n’ plays and dildos

PacknPLay X5 bro $14.95

X5…7 inch PacknPlay $15.95

Carlito $18

Blush Super-Flexible Realistic Dildo 4 Inch $18.95

Damien flexible PacknPlay $19.95

PacknPlay FlexBo $19.99

Otto Dildo $20

Suave Dildo $22

Admiral $29.95

CyberSkin Dual Density Dildo $29.95

Bendy Buddy $39  (Unavailable?)

Copperhead PacknPlay $39.95

Huck PacknPlay $39.95

The Love Bump $39.95 (to add on to dildos w/o balls)

Ridgeline Packnplay $45

Anaconda $45.95

Moccasin UnCircumcised 2 in 1 $49

Zullo $50

Maven $59

Silky $65

Captain $69

GenderExtender $69

Johnny $70

BJ-Designed to Suck- 3 in 1 $72

Yummy cum rod $72.20

Buck Angel Fun Boy $75.50

Tantus Pack and Play #2 $79

Vixen Spur $80

Realdoe $87-$123

Lonestar Vixen $95

Bandit $96

Luke O2 $97.06

Mark O2 $107.10

The Tru Ride $107.50

FreeToM Pack n Plays $139-$269

Outlaw $115

Goodfella $126

Vixen Royale $127

Gendercat Packer $138-$178

Pop dildo $139

Shilo $145.95

Mason Pack and Play $154.99

Carter Pack and Play $164.99

Phallo extender $204.56

The Bono $295

Full Pleasure $310.25-$522.54

The One Full $348.36-$572.30

Emisil Erect Penis Prosthesis $361-$569

Reelmagik Pack n Play $379-$529

Hard or Semi-Hard GenderMender Prosthetics for Play $395

RealDoll 2 $499

t2 Phase4 prosthesis $1516.06

Camouflage Prosthetics Dual Use

Sheath for phallo

Pack, play, and STP

Erotic Creations Prosthetics $78.97-$189.91

Hugo 3-in-1 $127

Max STP 3&1, 7" Prosthetic $140

Freetom 4 in 1s $143-$283

Sinthetics $149

Peecock $169-$239

Tomas 3-in-1 $185

Enzo 3&1 6.5" Prosthetic $189

Thor 3&1, 7" Prosthetic $208

Pymander Pleasure 3in1 $311.04-$522.54

The One XL 3in1 $348.36-$572.30

Important Links:

Buying a packer:

Packing harness

Buying used packers

Finding reviews

Are cyberskin packers safe?

Smaller packers

Colorful packers

Packing as a wheelchair user

Heads up about Reelmagik prosthetics

Making a packer:

How to pack without a packer

Once you have a packer:

Packing during your period

How to position a packer

Recoloring a cyberskin packer

Recoloring a silicone packer

Pack ‘n plays and hard packers:

How to Choose Your First Dildo

Companies/products to avoid when looking for sex toys

Toxic Sex Toy Awareness

Should you really cover your sex toy with a condom?

General packing info:

Packing and Packers 101

The pros and cons of strap ons (sex tw)

How to pick your prosthetic

A guide to packers

Packing basics

r/ftm packing info

Standing to pee:

Guide to STPs

How to Stand to Pee

Making an STP

Standing to pee w/o a device

Tips for using an STP

How Do I Actually Buy One?

Method one: You have a credit/debit card.

Pick a packer online.

Buy the packer. Clear your internet history if you’re at home and not using a library computer. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.

Either have it shipped to your house or to a friend’s house if your parents will be suspicious.

Method 2: You have cash

Pick the packer you want online, add it to the website’s shopping cart and start to check out until you find how much it costs with shipping and tax.

Save up enough money to buy the packer. Make sure you have a few dollars extra, to buy the card itself and just incase.

Go into a store and buy a prepaid VISA card. They have them at lots of stores, even CVS. (You can also ask a friend to do this if you can’t get to a store on your own)

Prepaid credit cards require you to be 18 to open an account, but you can purchase prepaid gift cards at a grocery or other store at any age and use them wherever Visa, MasterCard or AMEX are accepted.

These gift cards, which aren’t reloadable, usually carry an activation fee along the lines of $4.95 for every $50 increment. You usually find them in denominations of $25, $50 or $100.

Buy the packer online. If you don’t have access to a computer at home, use one at the library.

Clear your internet history if you’re at home. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.

Ship it to a consenting friend’s house or an accepting relative, if you have one.

Hide it when you get it and keep it hidden when you aren’t wearing it.

(Or ask a friend with a debit/credit/gift card to buy you a binder if you give them the cash.)

Method 3: You have supportive parents

Asking parents for a packer 

Method 4: You have friends with a debit card and you have cash

If you have a friend or supportive relative with a debit card or a credit card, ask them to buy the packer of your choice and ship it to their house

Pay the person back in cash

Please feel free to reblog with more information on packing, or more helpful links if you know any! 

If you have a packer and are willing to help others with their choice, reblog this post and write what kind of packer you have so people with questions about that packer can contact you!

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