Hi I’m gender-fluid/non-binary, I started coming out to people close to me recently and weirdly it’s made the social dysphoria I experience worse. Like knowing that I can be misgendered on purpose now instead of just by default. I also get anxious thinking about how even years in the future I’ll still need to come out to people to be perceived the way I want. My fears of being perceived really get in the way of being my authentic self. Does any of this ever get easier?
hi there! i have a very similarly aligned identity, and id say yes and no. in my experience, it still stings.. but it's also easier with time to believe in yourself. for me, i look in the mirror, i draw myself, birth sex parts and all.. and i just can't see the gender people think i am. part of it is definitely who you're around, too.. not everyone will respect you, but the people who do, listen to them. it'll help you loads to believe what the compliments are. for example.. you're so fucking cool, keep going!!
i believe in you. i still get anxious about coming out but.. i think the experience helps a lot. give it time, my gender fluid friend. with time will come a lot of things.. but your experience will become more you. and you'll feel it! all in all, push through all this. the reward is worth it!
