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@babyphat05​ was one of the first blogs I found on Tumblr that really spoke to me. She’s anonymous but projects confidence from her every word. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way, based on her big Tumblr following and empire she’s building with her official blog, book club, and Patreon.

I’ve learned a lot from following her content online, and thought I’d share some of the things I’ve learned. This is by no means an extensive list, but I thought a super long list would be difficult to read on a micro blogging platform like Tumblr.

- Be private. Raise your hand if you were one of those girls posting all over social media and blabbing about your private life to people you barely know. Ugh! I’m embarrassed to admit it used to be me, but I know better now and will be keeping my private life… private 🥰

- Get off social media–or at least, change the way you use social media. Similar to the last point, but it merits its own paragraph. I can’t believe how much time I wasted following the lives of people I don’t even care about, or worrying about what other people thought of what I would post. I still use social media in an educational way (eg. my Tumblr) while also putting limits on my social media use because it can suck up a lot of time.

- Be confident. I’ve never caught her slipping on anythinggg. She’s always brimming with confidence about her looks, her intelligence, her ambition, her music taste, her humour, her ANYTHING. The easiest and hardest thing about confidence is that it comes from within–all it needs is you believing in yourself and your abilities.

- Surround yourself with positive role models. One example of this is being a woman of colour. Her blog has a lot of beautiful Black women who are living their best and bougiest lives. Similarly, I’m looking for Asian women so I can see examples of people who are living the life I want to live (nowhere in mainstream media are they giving us this).

- Your standards for the people around you need to be higher, whether it’s friends or men (but ESPECIALLY men!). To do this you can’t be afraid of being alone, and the only way that can happen is if you’re alone and you are okay with it. This could be a separate post in itself tbh. (Have y’all read her blog and seen the asks she gets about men… 💀)

I highly recommend everyone read @babyphat05‘s blog. She is a positive role model for everyone who is interested in being educated about various important topics from productivity to style to fitness to school to finances to ANYTHING. She’s been a big part of my glow up journey, and I know she’ll be a big part of yours too!

xoox,

ambitious girlies are really the best and there's so much that comes with it. you hold yourself to a different standard, you don't just hope for excellence but you expect it. and thats what makes us so great and that's what i wanted to talk about in this post...💬🎀

UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE ;

everything, and yes i mean everything, in life is a choice. how you choose to spend ur time, the relationship ur in, the job that you have, the friendships you entertain. everything. remember that you have free will, you don't HAVE to stay in something that drains you. you don't have to stay in something that keeps you small.

i decided to make a little handbook regarding my aesthetic for funs. hopefully this can help as a guide to whoever’s reading ! please enjoy ♡

my aesthetique ‧₊˚ 🍦

mapping out who i want to be

the first step i took when dealing with my aesthetic was figuring out who i wanted to be. what does she do in her daily life? what does she look like? what are her goals? i knew i wanted to continue to be perceived as a very sweet, kind and fun loving girl while staying on top of my academics, hobbies, and achieving my goals. Not only that but having full confidence in myself and my never ending potential.

including listing down who i wanted to be, i took note of things that i wanted to improve on. my dedication, being careful of the words that i say and put into my mind, procrastination, etc. doing this gives me more insight on the mood and vibe that im going for!

i also look at the characters from books, games, or movies that i loooooved. the common traits that they had were confidence, girlyness, determined, and of course bubbly!

my inspirations

my inspirations consist of: celebrities, characters, movies / tv shows, design(er)s, music, books, visuals, and even random objects like rings! i've seen some discourse over inspiration and that it's better to use yourself as inspiration, which i half agree with. i believe it's perfectly fine to find inspiration through people or things as long as you understand you're cultivating YOU, not becoming somebody else. some of my inspirations are:

rihanna

ida ljungqvist

zahia dehar

mackenzie hollister

bad girls club

the girls next door

ultimately, i think about where i spend the most of my time on, whether it's a specific picture or song that makes me sway and question myself how i can integrate this into my personal brand and lifestyle.

my color palette

i noticed late that i dont have to wear pink allllll the time just because its apart of my aesthetic. despite it hang a big part of who i am, i grew to start loving more colors like yellow and blue! its not a big part of my color palette but it does come out.

lately i’ve been loving black more. i already wear it a lot in my day to day life, but the issue is my wardrobe, which is why i’ve been replacing them piece by piece. and i don’t like wearing fully black outfits since i don’t want to give off a darker aesthetic.

so, the resolution i came up with was just using a lighter color to contrast with the black! it doesn’t have to be the clothes, but it can be the accessories or the bag.

princess couture

i fully believe that what someone wears is the biggest thing one can use to express their self. it's not just a form of expression but legitimate art that can be implemented into everyday life. whenever i have a super dolly outfit on, i feel good! i heavily favor:

form fitting tops (low neck, usually not cropped) if cropped, high up

outwear w/ fur hoods

ribbed textures, thin straps or long sleeves low rise bottoms all the time!.!!!

bootcut jeans + denim shorts in pink, light denims + dark grey fold over leggings + shorts w/ designs

frilly+pleated miniskirts

form fitting dresses. can be either frilly at the ends or straight

high socks in lace, patterns, or ribbed

long+short hand warmers, earmuffs, barrettes

of course, this is really only 3% of my personal style than the vast collection. fashion is a big part of my life and i will always have a huge love for it!

hair

i’m a hugeee voluminous hair luvr, very obvious from the pics hehe. i’ve been really loving my curly hair ever since i stopped wearing braids and have been taking much good care of it!! besides my curly hair, ive been loving side swept bangs + blunt bangs mixed with straight or voluminous hair.

i’ve also been working on growing out my curly hair. my curly hair is already long, but shrinkage annoys me to no end 🤕 so i decided to grow it even longer! i plan to cut layers into my hair soon as well. (edit: i cut layers!!)

makeup.

i'm OBSESSED with makeup!!! its one of my favvvorite hobbies that i enjoy doing. i love enhancing my features with the products i apply on my face since there's so much that could be done to express myself. im continuously learning more and more until i perfect my routine.

ive been awfully interested in colorful eyeshadow, more specifically blue eyeshadow. i think it brings a lovely pop mixed with a pink lippie and makes for a great decision if one wants to go more bold. my makeup always contains these:

tight line using black eyeliner

thin, filled brows w/ gentle arch

a bit heavy pink blush on the cheeks

gloss only!!! brown liner w/ a nude or pink gloss

i’m also (!) obsessed with heavy eyeliner looks. i’m not one to go big on eyeliner at the lid, but instead at the waterline. it creates a perfect pop in contrast with blush and lips!! with makeup, i pay attention to whatever two focal points: brows + eyes, eyes + blush, blush + lips, or eyes + lips.

i find that if i do too much on all of those areas, my makeup starts looking overwhelming! the usual way to go (for me) is blush and lips, but i’ve been liking eyes + blush better.

conclusion…

put yourself on the pedestal ❤︎

reminder: the only person that should matter or take your attention is you. your the creator of your reality and the most powerful, no one else. the only competition you have is yourself…💭💕

FIX UR SELF CONCEPT ;

when manifesting you don’t force outcomes, you just become the kind of person to naturally receive them. this becomes easier when you put yourself on the pedestal. you stop placing your desires, people, and opportunities above you and know that you’re above it. you’re the source, the muse, and the ultimate dictator. you call the shots and decide what’s what in your reality, you don’t sit and wait for things to take action.

shift your thoughts from:

“ i hope this works out”

“of course good things always come to me.”

when you view yourself as powerful, worthy, and valuable you can:

❤︎ ditch the desperation

❤︎ increase your luck and manifestations

STOP IDOLIZING OUTCOMES OR PEOPLE ;

change your internal script:

Instead of “I hope he likes me,” → “I wonder if he’s even a match for the girl I’m becoming.”

Instead of “I hope I get this opportunity,” → “If it’s aligned with me, it will come.”

❤︎ your the prize, not the pursuer

UR THE MAIN CHARACTER ;

prioritizing yourself

speaking gently to yourself

giving yourself compliments

celebrating small wins

romanticizing your routines

❤︎ don’t argue with people about your worth

❤︎ don’t negotiate bare-minimum behavior

How I Stay Organized And Girly ❤︎

Welcome Angels 🎀ᥫ᭡ i love to keep my life and tasks simple and doable!! you can be organized and stay true to your girly self. the trick is building systems that feel cute enough to enjoy and structured enough to actually help you

create a “command center” = one spot where everything lives ❤︎

think: a pink acrylic inbox tray, a whiteboard calendar, a cute pen cup. (basically a desk/vanity)

when you have an intentional space it’s easier to maintain.

what to keep there:

weekly to-do list

planner

school papers that need attention

sticky notes

use a planner you like to open ❤︎

additions that are a must:

• pastel highlighters

• stickers for important days

• color-coding (pink = self care, purple = school, red = deadlines)

weekly flow:

• sunday night → plan your week

• each morning → 2-minute check-in

• each evening → quick reset

tiny habits that keep you tidy ❤︎

• Make your bed as soon as you stand up

• Put away clothes before getting into bed

• Set up weekly and monthly resets

• Keep routines (night, morning, afternoon)

romanticize your routines ❤︎

If it feels good, you’ll keep doing it.

• Use pink everything (notebooks, planner, clothes, water bottle, etc)

• Light a candle while studying

• Play your favorite playlists while completing tasks

digital organization ❤︎

Make folders on your phone for school, wellness, photos, etc

Use notion to make pages dedicated to school, self care, hobbies, journaling, routines, etc

Use cute widgets for your weather, calendar, and reminders

Keep your home screen clean and organized (I do this by picking a cutesy theme and decorating my apps + widgets)

keep your girly hobbies in rotation ❤︎

schedule time for:

• Self-care

• Journaling

• Wellness

hiii dolls! omg it feels like I disappeared off of the earth for a sec 😭 school literally kidnapped me for the past two months (like…I swear my brain is irreversibly trapped in math). but I finally crawled out of my homework cave and I have soooo many new posts planned out for you guys!

but for now… I thought I’d drop this lil post as a starter ! it’s short, kindaaa rambly, but hopefully super helpful + fun ! enjoy ♡

1. WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE?

i believe that curating an aesthetic isn’t about the clothes— at least not the first step. its about the character you want to step into. think of it as writing your very own oc (but that oc is the future you!)

start by imagining and listing out the new version of yourself. what they do, how they act, and their dreams.

- What do they look like?

- How do people treat them?

- How do they carry themselves?

- What are their signatures?

- What does their normal day look like?

- What are their dreams? What are they focused on?

- What are her boundaries?

- What media does she intake?

- Who are her inspirations?

think about 3-5 core words that describe how you want to feel when you’re in your aesthetic. you’re allowed to evolve and experiment.

2. MOODBOARD YOUR ENERGY

start by collecting anything that makes you stop. save photos of that one movie scene(s), a pair of boots you were thinking about, even random textures! save lyrics from ur fav song, snippets of interior designs . . . anything and everything that screams YOU!

it doesn’t have to be “aesthetic” just yet. keep grabbing things that sparks your attention! after a bit, you’ll start seeing a pattern: maybe specific colors, hues, lace & swirls, or specific shoes + photoshoots. that pattern is the beginning of your aesthetic.

Ultimately, you have to think of what makes you feel good (your interests), explore different aesthetics, and look at sources such as movies, TV shows and art for inspiration to find you.

3. FIND YOUR SIGNATURE ELEMENTS

finding your signatures is like finding that one puzzle piece you’ve been looking for. your aesthetic/identity feels even stronger when you find something that reminds people of YOU! it could be:

— colors: baby pink, gold, white, neutrals, colors mixed together

— textures: lace trim, soft ribbed knits, silky dresses

— accessories: a specific necklace you always wear, bows in your hair, acrylic french tips, hoop earrings

— patterns: polka dots, thin stripes, plaid skirts

and your signature isn’t just centered around what you wear, but also your physical appearance. find the perfect makeup routine that suits you and STICK to it. find your favorite hairstyle and wear it for everyday outings. This even goes down to social media! my user is “the spoileddoll” because I’m a spoiled doll!

4. LOOK FOR YOUR INSPIRATIONS

as mentioned in section 1, who is your dream persons inspirations? it’s totally o—kay to look for inspirations as long as you aren’t copying. copying is the last thing we want to do. ive fell victim to this before. no matter how much you may admire someone, refrain from being a copy cat and stick to your own self!

the best inspirations comes from things that make you feel something, not just what’s popular. notice how quick you are to save a pin or tiktok when that video/pic gives you a spark. save anything that gives you that spark, even if it’s not fashion! watch your favorite movies or shows, pay attention to your fav characters’ style, and even the way their spaces are decorated! (like legally blonde, girls next door, life in the fab lane, mean girls, the simple life, bad girls club, etc.)

and of course, take deep dives through pinterest + tumblr! you’ll find the best stuff on these apps that’s perfect for your journey on curating your aesthetic. the process is long and takes patience, but good things come to those who wait 🎀

i wanted to girlblog more about how i've been romanticizing my life and curating a lifestyle that is very much pampered, princessy, utterly glamorous, very pink and very very happy...💬🎀

ROBES CASUALLY + CUTE LOUNGEWEAR ;

buying cute loungewear has been an absolute GAME changer, i feel so adorable lounging around while i read, or listen to my "dolling in my room" playlist on my speaker that i decorated myself. i wear my victoria's secret silk robe literally all the time, and if im too cold for that its okay because i have an adorable fluffy pink robe.

ambitious girlies are really the best and there's so much that comes with it. you hold yourself to a different standard, you don't just hope for excellence but you expect it. and thats what makes us so great and that's what i wanted to talk about in this post...💬🎀

UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE ;

everything, and yes i mean everything, in life is a choice. how you choose to spend ur time, the relationship ur in, the job that you have, the friendships you entertain. everything. remember that you have free will, you don't HAVE to stay in something that drains you. you don't have to stay in something that keeps you small.