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NGL I'm kinda burnt out due to IRL stuff, so this blog is going on hiatus for an indefinite amount of time. Feel free to keep reblogging my stuff but I feel like there's other archival blogs that keep up with stuff better than I can.
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Whenever someone points out JKR's transphobia, just remember it started out as transandrophobia and then spread to everyone else. Specifically because of this book:
This shit is what sent that mold huffer down the path she's known for today. Hatred for and infantilisation of trans men specifically. Born of this book. Do not let anyone, especially if they don't believe in transandrophobia, forget where her ideology comes from. She went after us, she spread transandrophobia first, she read and praised and promoted this book long before she went off on trans women. She targeted us first.
If your criticism of the term transandrophobia or anything that includes masculine terms and bigotry brings up cis men you lose btw. Instantly. Every one of you that gets so pissed at the idea of men being oppressed in any capacity are chronically addicted to bringing up cis men when no one is talking about them. It's the most bad faith argument and it doesn't matter how nicely you put it, you're being a loser and showing your entire ass about how you can't care about trans men without puking in your mouth. Just shut up if you don't have anything insightful to say, I promise, "i dont like the word because it implies cis men are oppressed" isn't an original thought and your voice is not needed.
i think a lot of radfems, trans or otherwise, like saying that transandrophobia isn't real because if they say that it's real, then they're agreeing that men do face oppression under the patriarchy, and then they'd have to admit that the patriarchy isn't "men are bad" but actually a system, and that them harassing men isn't "fighting the patriarchy", it's just horrible human beings, and thus they're not actually feminist- they just want an excuse to shit on people
(and sometimes there is this idea in transradfems that because they chose to accept that they're women, they don't have to unlearn any other misogynistic behaviors that everyone has to unlearn due to living under the patriarchy) (I am one of those people, so people in the comments don't even try to call me transmisogynistic)
This leads to transandrophobia.
"Male and female socialization" are bullshit concepts, but every single person who grows up under the patriarchy has bullshit to unlearn, and it's up to the individual person to do that.
My hot take? Telling someone about all the systemic privilege they have isn't going to heal the wounds that they suffered or make them feel better about the discrimination they do face.
While yes, it's important for people to be aware of privileges they do have, telling someone, "At least you're not more marginalized! Other people have it worse!" during a conversation about the discrimination theyve experienced is pointless and invalidating.
No effort that can go into making things better for everyone should be put into deciding who has it worse than anyone.
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Yes i think trans men should talk about their issues. However I have a huge problem with the space that's been created.
Some of you have been so obsessed with discourse that you actually bought into the transmasc vs transfem war that was made up. & I think that's kind of bullshit? Like yea i get it you were discourse baited, but some of y'all genuinely need to sit back & listen to your community. your WHOLE community.
Like I know most of us on here do shit to care about everyone, but i think we have reached a point in the popularity of these terms where people who couldn't care less about other types of trans people are now discourse posting & it pisses me off.
No, not every trans woman is a scary evil transphobe. No, transmisogyny doesn't just mean "misogyny+transphobia", please do research before speaking. No, you should care about intersex & nonbinary people.
like how hard is it just to. listen to others. care about others.
This is a false equivalency.
The term for somebody who is transfem and who is oppressed for being transfem—is transfem. Intersex people are intersex. Transfem people are transfem. Perisex people are not intersex. Non-transfem people are not transfem.
TMA/TME is more closely equivalent to if I said IA/IE (intersexism applicable/intersexism exempt).
The reason TMA/TME is problematic is because it fails to acknowledge that non-transfem people can be impacted my transmisogyny—the same way perisex transfems can be impacted by intersexism. And also because it completely ignores the existence of the oppression transmascs experience, categorising them in with their oppressors. The TMA/TME binary is problematic because it collapses complex interplays of oppression into one binary system.
If you want a word for somebody who is transfem and impacted by transfem oppression in the way somebody who is transfem would be? The term is transfem.
“Transfems really are the only people who can’t have terms for their own oppression” I have a question. How do you feel about the term “transandrophobia?” How would you feel about the terms “TAA” and “TAE” (transandrophobia applicable and transandrophobia exempt)? If you’re okay with those terms, I’ll eat my words (somehwhat, it’s still weird, but at least you’re okay with it across the board). If you’re not—why? Do you think trans men don’t experience specific oppression? Is your issue just with who coined it? How do you feel about the term transemasculinisation? Anti-transmasculinity? Please consider why you think it’s okay to restrict the language transmascs use to describe their oppression.
Further, why not make it TMNA/TMNE (transmisogynoir applicable and transmisogynoir exempt)? Black trans women absolutely face the highest rates of assault (assuming black trans men aren’t being erased in the statistics, which is a big assumption). If you’re talking about systems of oppression… why not consider the most impactful axes? Why only consider the axis of man/woman? Consider what this says about the proximity of your theory to radical feminism.
Alright, I'm sick of seeing TERFisms on my dash, so here's a handy list of TERF dogwhistles and talking points to think about before you reblog a post.
I've seen a few of these before, but it doesn't hurt to make more. Especially when we're seeing a lot of radfem rhetoric popping up in LGBT spaces from people who might not know better.
SCREENNAMES: these are terms that commonly appear in radfem usernames across the web
rad or radical
fem or femme
vulva, clit, uterus, womb, ovary, vagina, etc.
febfem
anything along the lines of "angry woman"
xx or chromosomes
wombyn, wimmin, womyn, etc.
LGB
feminist
BIOS: things that show up in radfem bios
♀ or ⚢
febfem
female separatist
female, human female, adult human female
xx
something along the lines of "the scary feminist you were warned about"; being an angry woman, being sick of being silenced, being an evil woman, being an angry lesbian
detrans (NOTE: detrans people are absolutely not always transphobic)
dysphoric female
males/men do not interact
LGB✂️
misandrist
feminist (NOTE: again, very few feminists are actually terfs, but this is commonly in terf bios alongside some of these other terms)
TERMS: terms that radfems use in their circles
TIM - trans-identified male, a way of saying transfems, trans women, and other trans people
TIF - trans-identified female, same as above but the other way around, less commonly seen
DSD - disorder of sexual development, a way to avoid saying intersex and to categorize intersex people as "still male or female" (you might see "males with DSD" or "females with DSD" for example)
females or males instead of women and men
alternatively, women and males to dehumanize men
"peaking" or "peaked" - referring to becoming radicalized as a radfem or TERF
womyn, wombyn, wimmin, wo**n, and any other spelling that takes "man" out of the term woman
mentally ill men/women
sex-based oppression
gender critical
"TIRF" - trans-inclusive radical feminist (don't be fooled by the name, they're very much not)
TRA - trans rights activist, derogatory
sex-based rights
female separatism/"women's land"
WBW - womyn-born womyn
autistic girls/children
troon - (ridiculous) slur for trans people
RHETORIC: general ideological themes in radfem rhetoric
men are inherently more violent than women
women don't or rarely rape men
(woman on woman rape is ignored by almost all radfems)
being nonbinary is a way to "stop being" your assigned sex while still acting as your birth sex
lesbians are not attracted to men/penises and can never have sex with men/penises (otherwise, you're bisexual)
men can and will never be lesbians
there is no such thing as a bi lesbian, only lesbians and bisexuals. labels are rigid and sex-based
all of the world's suffering is driven by men
women would be better off separate
an all-female society is utopia
sex is binary, and intersex people are "glitches" or "still male or female but DisorderedTM"
men should expect to be feared by women
female/female relationships are safer and more pure than straight or gay male relationships
men and women are more different than similar
intersex people should not be allowed in sports
intersex people and trans men are never in men's sports
terrible world events wouldn't have happened if women were in charge
men are stupid and aggressive
being a man is not a positive thing
men's problems are lesser than women's
penises are disgusting and vaginas and vulvas are beautiful
trans women are performing at being girls
trans men see themselves as above lesbians
attraction is sex-based
porn is rape
porn is inherently violent
watching porn makes you predisposed to inflicting abuse
BDSM is inherently violent and misogynistic
transitioning children (whether socially or medically) are being abused
"bitch" and "cunt" are slurs against women
only gay men can say faggot and only lesbian women can say dyke
When you see a few or more of these together, RUN! It's a terf.
feels important
The only way forward is to stop treating masculinity as synonymous with harmful, monstrous, or dangerous.
There is a fundamental difference between "men are dangerous" (wrong, bioessentialist) and "the patriarchy allows dangerous men to exist unchecked" (true).
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Can I just say I hate the expectation that being a man means you HAVE to be strong and aggressive so that you can defend people around you. I've been in situations in my early life that cause me to see mere STERNNESS as scary and potentially dangerous probably because I"m autistic and people LOVE to use covert social bullshit as weapons against us so even words can ruin our lives sometimes also I have literal boomer parents lmao my mom voted for Regan. I'm also only 5', fat, like generally NOT a fighter. I freeze up and avoid danger and people think I should be required to fight for them. And what do I get if I say "I don't want to fight for someone else because the only thing that will do is put us both in danger and also I'm not going to let myself get killed by some angry cis man"? I get more hatred and they shame me. Motherfucker I thought we were supposed to be fucking trauma aware. I thought we were supposed to acknowledge that some men are not strong. This sounds just like recycled sexist bullshit.
Literally this! So many times throughout my life, I've genuinely been arrested against and looked at with contempt for simply suggesting that it is not my from-birth job to be an object of force/harm. Just being born male of a guy shouldn't mean it's my job to die in a war or die for anyone, for that matter. Neither is it my job to throw myself in harms way for someone who would not do the same for me as a gay man and add to the Iong list of people like me who are violently hurt for being us. Benevolent sexism is sickening.
IF NOBODY GOT ME I KNOW CHIITAN GOT ME
"Actually I think we need to hate men 😊" "It's time we admit that men aren't hated enough" "Proud misandrist✨️"
I feel Unsafe around you. You settle into hostility too casually.
oh my god you are all so stupid. you feel unsafe around women ok sure feel however u want but like give me one single case where a so-called misandrist has ever harmed a man on the basis of his sex. oh wait you can’t. cus the only danger ur sheltered ass knows is the danger of people being mean on the internet
It's not very "based" and "love pilled" to deny someone's experiences on the basis that you've never had them.
Find room in your oh-so-open heart to think about the fact the universe doesn't revolve around you.
Also that take is completely disregarding the fact that words can be and often ARE danger. Some of us have been through, you know, VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE FOR BEING TRANS. Which doesn't require any real threat to life or injury to the body at all!
"trans men should stop talking about women's issues! they're MEN!" no, YOU stop calling them women's issues. how can it be a women's only issue if trans MEN experience it too and also often worse and more frequently than you? just say you don't like trans people, you don't have to come up with roundabout ways of trying to trick people into transphobia with wording illusions.
Idk what trans man needs to hear this but you're NOT evil or disgusting for being a man. You do NOT have to suffer for the sins of the patriarchy committed by cis dudes. Being a man doesn't invalidate the misogyny you experienced growing up or experience now. Being a man doesn't mean you deserve to be isolated. Being a man doesn't mean you're inherently predatory or scary. You didn't "choose" this, and finding your true self is NOT "betraying the community" because you happen to be a man and/or masculine rather than a woman and/or feminine. You ARE allowed to be upset when people "affirm" your gender by malgendering you.
You DO deserve a community that uplifts you. You DO deserve to experience trans joy. You DO deserve to have your voices heard and your struggles recognized. Wanting the bare minimum of solidarity is NOT "making everything about trans men".
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my feelings on the whole "Transandrophobia" debate. I felt I could only communicate my thoughts in the form of allegorical dialog, so here we are.
It is not misogynist(Trans or otherwise) to use the term transandrophobia. It is a term used to speak about the specific challenges TRANS MEN face. That's it. You're reading in an implication that does not exist if you say it means cis men are oppressed. And if you disagree, I have a hard time believing you actually care about trans men.
Really fucking tired of hearing the whole “masculinity isn’t punished in women, look at how they treat tomboys!”
Yeah, let’s actually look at it.
A girl says “I don’t want to wear girl clothes I want to wear boy clothes,” or “I don’t want to play with girl toys I want to play with boy toys,” or even “I don’t want to be a girl I want to be a boy.”
That gets labeled as her being a tomboy.
That’s not a name of honour like so many people treat it as. Like some lovely word bestowed upon you to take away the bullying you might receive from it.
Absolutely not.
It’s an infantilization and delegitimization tool. It’s a way to label a silly phase that a girl is required to grow out of.
Often, it becomes a thing to be beaten out of these children because it doesn’t become of them anymore now that they’re whatever arbitrary age. Or sexually abused out of them.
The hegemonic structures giving a label to something doesn’t mean that it’s seen as acceptable or that it’s something celebrated or treasured, or even just not seen as a problem.
