Aceing my life

I mainly write long texts related to fat activism. Sometimes other stuff as well. I try my best not to write too much but sometimes my fingers just slip and write full on short essays…

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Anyway,

They understand those concepts purely through examples. Like we’re taught that black people are oppressed and discriminated against, queer people, etc.

People don’t actually learn what discrimination and oppression mean outside of the examples that we’re given on how oppression affects certain groups of people like how racism often looks.

People have trouble understanding the concepts on their own without any examples

That’s why people are scrambling to come up with arbitrary clauses on why fat people can’t be oppressed. The biggest one being ”fat people aren’t oppressed because they can become thin”.

That is literally just coming up with an arbitrary clause to oppression because they’re COMPARING fatphobia to other forms of oppressions in their minds. They have this preconcived notion that fat people can’t be oppressed because fatphobia doesn’t belong in the group of examples we’re taught are oppression, so they’re scrambling to make up differences between fatphobia and the other examples we’re taught are oppression.

Being a fat activist is about trying to end the stigma towards people who are fat

People like to twist the meaning of the fat acceptance movement to be about trying to get as much people to become fat or about encouraging ”unhealthiness”

All I ask of people is to not be a dick towards fat people and understand that people aren’t fat because of personal failures, but due to an interplay of genetics, environment, and possibly medications, trauma, etc.

I spiral sometimes regarding my weight and I understand why people lose weight because us fat people do get treated differently in this society and sometimes being fat can be a health risk if you are over a certain size and being fat causes you joint pain, etc.

I told someone how conditions like ADHD affect people’s executive functioning and motivation levels and they responded to me saying that ADHD people can lose weight just the same.

Like dude I can not even do the stuff I like doing, regularly. It’s not about just pulling yourself up the bootstraps and deciding to do something. I’ve been trying to learn Chinese for like 6 years now and I’m really interested in the language but my Chinese level is that of a beginner right now even though I really want to learn the language.

”Hey guys, we found out that obesity isn’t a singular thing but that there are 11 endotypes of obesity!”

Like yeah?

This is what I mean when I say that the research on fat bodies is lacking. We talk a lot about dieting but it takes this long for the research community to start figuring out that we’re not all the same

Let’s talk about why that’s your preference. Or maybe you already know and just don’t care.

There were also people in the comment section that said they don’t draw fat people because they don’t know how and they don’t want to offend us. Honey, you’re doing great if you even try. I’d be excited to see you develop your skills in drawing fat people, I’m not going to be offended if you don’t get it right. Most fat people I know would be happy to give you pointers if you do get it wrong.

There were also people saying that it’s the same thing as fat people only drawing fat people. That’s plain wrong. Most fat artists who draw art of fat people had to learn how to draw fat people. We don’t just instinctively draw people like ourselves because we look the same, we grow up in the same society that teaches us to only draw thin people. All my childhood drawings of people were of thin people even though I was fat. the reason fat artists start drawing fat people is not because we just grew up drawing people like ourselves, but because we realized that there is too little art of ourselves and we want to build community with other fat people through the art. You can’t compare the two when the fat artists had to unlearn their own biases and started to draw fat people to build community with other fat people, meanwhile thin people draw thin people because they think it’s the prettiest.

what I call privilege is seeing a minority not getting represented in art and going ”meh, that’s just not my preference to draw that minority”. Not all artists need to draw fat people but the problem is that I literally never see fat people represented in art. Thin people might not realize just how little art there is of fat people because they already feel represented by all the art there is, but art depicting fat people is rare. I can’t say how rare exactly, but the times I’ve seen art of fat people that didn’t depict fat people negatively during my whole LIFE, would most likely fall into about 100 art pieces, because it’s that rare.

If you look at the famous fat activist authors, like half of them are Black, a lot of them are disabled, most of them are queer, a lot of us are neurodivergent, etc.

If all you hear from fat activism is from people who aren’t fat activists, it’s kind of easy to think that oh yes, fat activists seem crazy and they’re just privileged people and yada yada.

But if you actually interact with us, you’ll see that the majority of us are queer, neurodivergent, disabled, and BIPOC.

The amount of people who come to me saying that ”fat people aren’t oppressed, you should listen to queer, disabled and Black people” is crazy. You guys come to our fat activist spaces, and tell me, a queer person, to listen to queer people on oppression?

The whole idea that fat activists are privileged white women who know nothing about oppression is so wrong and also you guys are literally using this narrative to silence us who are a part of minorities. Just look at the amount of fat activist authors who are Black. Just look at the amount of the white women who you think are privileged, who are actually very much disabled— Because a lot of us are disabled (fat activism and disability justice are quite close to each other so I think a lot of disability justice fighters also become fat activists for that reason).

”Well this person clearly has low self-esteem”

Do you guys understand the problem here? Fat people say we’re ugly, we have low self-esteem, but apparently we also have low self-esteem when we say fat people are actually pretty or any other positive thing.

Thin people weaponize self-esteem against fat people. Confident fat people (usually women) talking positively about fatness and fat people are labeled as having low self-esteem because then thin people can ignore our message easier: ”Oh that person’s just looking for validation, we shouldn’t listen to them guys”.

Also bad self-esteem and bad confidence aren’t things you should weaponize in general. You know how many studies show that fat people on avarage have lower self-esteem than thin people? You can’t use self-esteem as an argument against people who are statistically more likely to develop bad self-esteem due to life-long systematic oppression. That’s just you using your privilege to talk shit about people who always had a higher statistical chance than you to develop bad self-esteem.

a random person: Okay but I’m tired of adding more things to my activism

Me: 😳😬🥱

And then that person who usually talks about classism and poverty and what have you goes on a long tangent about fat people and how we should prevent people from becoming fat.