Train ride through Western Bosnia & Hercegovina May 2014

1. a post by @niqabisinparis that reads “is there anything more bitter than letting go of friends that you thought were your ride or die? coming to terms with the fact that you’re walking down different paths and you’ll be dismembered if you don’t let go of their hand. being true to yourself and your self-worth is something we’re never warned about. no one ever tells you that you’ll spend weeks pondering where it went wrong, what you did wrong, until you come to the somber realization that your time together on this earth might just be over.”

2. a gif from the movie ‘p.s. i still love you’ (2020) showing a close-up of laura jean’s hands holding tight to what seems to be a friendship bracelet. over it is the quote “Gen and I have jung. Part of us will always be tied to one another.”

3. a quote from the book p.s. i still love you by jenny han, which reads “There’s a Korean word my grandma taught me. It’s called jung. It’s a connection between two people that can’t be severed, even when love turns to hate. You still have those old feelings for them; you can’t ever completely shake them loose of you; you will always have tenderness in your heart for them. I think this must be some part of what I feel for Genevieve. Jung is why i can’t hate her. We’re tied.”

4. a gif from the movie ‘the social network’ (2010) showing eduardo slamming mark’s computer onto the table

5. an excerpt from the script of 'the social network’ (2010) that reads “(beat) I was an Harvard business major. (then to Mark) I was your only friend. You had one friend. (beat)”

6. a post by @friarlucas which reads “one thing i hate about media is how there’s no sort of representation for how badly friendship break ups fuck you up. like there are a million and one films about romantic break ups but i have yet to see a film or a television show that accurately depicts how difficult friendships falling apart can be and how that stuff can really leave you with wounds and behaviors that take ages to heal”

7. a gif from the movie 'emma’ (2020) showing harriet and emma on the verge of tears

8. a comment from anya taylor-joy about the movie, it reads “There are lots of different little love stories going on, and Autumn and I sat down and really went through all of them, and actually, the breakup with Harriet was so hard to do beacuse Mia and I have been incredibly close friends for a couple of years and then we got to make this film together and so us breaking up as characters really did feel like what a break up between the two of us would look like.”

9. a post by @inkskinned that reads “but you see her on instagram and it was never really said that you guys aren’t friends but one day she stopped answering and you stopped texting and it’s not like the wound is a cavern but it is a diagram of what if in red letters. you want to tell her nice lipstick that’s a good color but the last time you spoke it was stilted and awkward 

how do you say goodbye, you know? it’s not an unfriend and block kind of situation. but you watch the people you once loved go on and have a life and you’re outside of it. and it’s bittersweet because of course it’s okay that you’re both thriving. but she used to be who you’d call if you needed to cry. she used to be who’d you’d be binge watching the new series with. you used to be hers, in a way, even if that way wasn’t permanent. and now she’s someone else and so are you and your friendship is clicking heart shapes next to pictures where she smiles next to people you’ve never met. you know where her birthmark is. she knows where you’ve buried your dead.

the poets and the singers and the authors write about romantic love when it ends. but nobody tells you how to get over a friend.”