Asexual people who feel pressured into having sex when they don’t want to and queer people that are afraid or ashamed of having sex even though they want to are actually being repressed by the same societal forces but nobody seems to want to talk about that
Society at large wants you to experience sex in a very predictable way. It might feel like the “other side” of this problem is actually more societally accepted but this isn’t true. Society not only demands that you have sex but it demands you have a specific type of sex in a specific type of body with a specific type of person with another different specific type of body.
Having sex with a body outside the norm or with a person outside the norm in a way outside the norm is seen as rediculous. So is opting out of sex altogether. In reality both are seen as unacceptable.
The desires of those who don’t want sex and those who want sex that’s seen as abnormal by society may be different but the thing that’s stopping us from living how we want is the same.
I would go so far to say that even the desire is essentially the same: the desire for sexual autonomy and freedom from societal pressure to conform to an expected way of performing sexuality.
Any modification to cisheteronormative ideas about sex is seen as wrong, including the modification "No sex".
