Tips For Cgl Caregivers

😴 Pouting/whining

😴 Crying over little things

😴 Excessive sassiness

😴 “But I’m not even sleepy daddy/mommy!”

😴 Feet stomps and crossed arms

😴 Drifting off mid sentence

😴 Laying down in strange places (the ground, a table, ect.)

The best solution to these issues is to put your little down for a nap. But do so at your own risk! Risks include but are not limited to:

Tantrums

Being called a butthead

Stuffie attacks

Cute attacks/puppy eyes

Negotiations and/or begging

Being stuck in bed too till your little falls asleep

Full on war

Is it the lifestyle or your choices?

Are you properly vetting potential daddy’s?

Do you ask them the right questions?

Do you wait the appropriate amount of time before deciding on them? And then take the time for the consideration phase? Do you value yourself enough to have a limits list and a list of needs and goals and wants and expectations before you enter into something?

Do you know where you want your potential relationship to be in six months or a year or two before you get into it?

Do you know what he does on Thursday mornings at 11am? Or how he copes with stress? Or what he likes to read? Or a time when he dealt with conflict and how it was resolved… before you give him your precious gift?

Do you even understand that your submission is a gift?

First of all, I want to say that I am by no means a professional, and you shouldn’t take my word so. I’m just sharing my experiences with mine. The bottom line is, only do what they are comfortable with. Most of the time, with my little at least, they want to be left alone. But you can try the things I do to see if it helps you in any way.

I do my ‘thing’ to comfort my little.

Back rubs, cuddles, head pats etc. Any things that you do that show you are there for them and will comfort them. Personally, we enjoy cuddles and back and belly rubs.

I get out some activities.

Colouring books, watch their favourite show on Netflix with them, do some of their hobbies together, hobbies are important to keep minds on a topic, my little has many hobbies that I /try/ to get him to do.

Write a to do list.

My little enjoys having a to do list to keep him productive, so I help him write out chores he has to do that can range from writing up his rules to hanging out the washing, or even having a shower.

I get my little to be productive.

 A productive little is a happy little. Get them up and showered, help them out of the bath, get them something to eat and drink, get them out of their room. Sit in the lounge, different surroundings may produce a different mood. My little is normally tucked up in bed and watches movies all day. It’s not good to not do anything.

I make sure that my little is hydrated. 

This is VERY important. Remember, the body needs at least 6 to 8 glasses of fluid every day.

I never let my little sleep all day. 

Sleep is good for the body, but too much sleep is bad; too much sleep can actually make you feel worse.

COMMUNICATION 

Last and by no means least, communication is incredibly important. Asking what my little wants and needs is very important. It’s all well and good following all this to end up not helping at all because my little didn’t want to do it. 

An important thing to remember is to do things your little wants, it’s much more difficult to do the normal things that a caregiver may do, so I suggest pre-agreeing with your little when punishments are needed and if they are acceptable and when they are not.

Finally, your little needs support, depression is not nice to go through and may be depending on you to help them. It’s a big burden, but who said that being a caregiver was easy?

Once again, this is purely personal to me and my experiences and I hope that this may help in some way. My inbox is always open if anyone wants to chat, or to ask for some bad advice

If a little asks you to be their caregiver, take that as the greatest compliment you’ll ever receive. The relationship between a caregiver and a little means a lot more trust than you’d find in any average relationship.

Your little is trusting that you’ll know what they need, that you’ll know what the right decision is, that you’ll always take care of them, that you’ll always do your best. Your little is trusting you not to abuse that power. They’re making themselves vulnerable to you, showing you a side of their personality that’s sensitive and very important to them. They’re trusting you to take care of them when they’re helpless.

🌸 engage with me and give me your attention.

🌸 ask me what im doing & be genuinely curious with a blatant desire to be involved.

🌸 have me count things around me like how many pictures i’ve colored so far or tell you the colors of the crayons i have sprawled out.

🌸 talk in a caring & warm voice that holds amusement, interest, and love.

🌸 treat me like you’d treat any child. be sweet with me, be gentle with me.

🌸 tell me you love me. remind me you’re my cg & that you’re here to care for me.

🌸 call me endearing names. ones you always call me when im little, or ones you don’t use as often. little one/girl/boy, princess/prince babygirl/boy, angel, honey, sweetness, love.

🌸 be close to me. be near me. ask if you can join me in whatever im doing, be it coloring, singing, dancing, having a tea party with stuffies, playing with toys, watching tv, playing a game, doing a puzzle. show me you want to interact with me and support me while i am in this headspace.

🌸 hold my hand because you want me to stay where you can see me, buckle me into the car to keep me safe because im precious, order for me because im too little to do it, offer to take me out places where you know i love to go or take me as a surprise.

🌸 pet my hair. give me kisses on the cheek, nose, forehead. smile at me. tell me im good, that you’re proud of me, that im allowed to be soft and vulnerable, that it’s okay to be little.

🌸 tell me how cute i am when im little. compliment my outfit or my hair or my makeup or literally anything.

🌸 baby talk, talk in third person, use the same tone you’d use with a small child.

🌸 ask me to go fetch my favorite paci, or my sippy cup so you can fill it with juice, or a stuffed animal you know im fond of. know all their names for good measure.

best method for getting rid of monsters i’ve seen bro

get a spray bottle and put some water and a little bit of rose water/your favorite essential oil/maybe some baby oil in it and like, maybe a little glitter (something fine enough to go through the sprayer of course). shake it up real nice.

boom. monster repellent. 

monsters hate that stuff, dude. legit. spray that on your bed, closet, scary corners, etc and the monsters will skedaddle so quick AND your bed will smell pretty and be sparkly. c:

I didn’t get enough sleep

I don’t feel good

I didn’t have a snack

I can’t find my paci

I can’t find my stuffie

My stuffie has a stain on it

I can’t find a certain piece of clothing

The certain piece of clothing has a stain

I can’t bring my stuffie to a certain place

I don’t want to do the thing

I can’t find something to watch

I’m too tired to do something I want

I messed up my drawing

I messed up my coloring

I messed up talking

I can’t find something I want to eat

I can’t eat the thing I want to eat

I can’t seem to get enough attention

I can’t hold/pet the animals I would like to

I got yelled at by somebody

I don’t want to go to bed

I’m too tired to brush my teeth

The texture of something bothers me

I’m afraid to do something

I want to do something but can’t

I don’t have enough options

I have too many options

Rules aren’t being enforced

Rules are being enforced

I can’t be little somewhere

I haven’t been little for a while

I don’t feel like somebody is listening

I am too big/small for something

Something I liked broke

I have obligations/responsiblities

I have no schedule

Walls: - Glow in the dark stars - Fairy Lights - Wall stickers/decals - Shelves for your stuffies/colouring books/dips etc

Floor: - Foam interlocking playmats - Rug of your favourite colour - Ikea expedit for dips/changing products/colouring stuffs/pacis etc - Pillow fort/Blankey fort

Bed: - Canopy - Fairy lights (if you have a frame that allows you to wrap the lights around, like the ikea LEIRVICK for example (I have this bed frame and it’s so princessy) - Favourite blankeys and bed sheets - Favourite stuffies

Shower caddies can be found in ay store or on  Amazon, there are lots of styles to choose from and you can find them fairly cheap. 

You can also use over the door shoe holders like this (X)

You can even use these stackable storage bins (X)

Littles and pets can form their own kind of language with small sounds. Littles often use whines and baby talk, while pets use animal like sounds such as huffy barking. There are ways to decipher these things for new doms who are unfamiliar with their partner’s intent. (Not all littles or pets are the same. This is just a generalization based on the majority)

You are great at coloring!

You look exceptionally cute today!

Remember, look both ways, then cross the street!

How about you pick a toy we can play with!

I want to watch a Disney movie, you pick!

I’m hungry, should we make cookies together?!

Oh! Look! A princess/prince!

You are my good girl/boy!

Can I play dress up with you?!

I don’t want to be an adult. I need to go to my safe place. 

Take off my adult clothes for me. Take them off slowly, help me get into the mindset. Put my favorite pajamas on me. Talk to me as you’re doing it. 

You’re so precious in your jammies baby.

Put on my favorite little time movie and cover me up with my blankie. Put my drink in a sippy cup.

You’re too little for a big kid cup. You need a baby cup.

Get out my paci and make me ask for it.

Ask nicely for it baby. Use your big words.