Putting a suit jacket over your nerd shirt is not “dressing up”
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And it’s dumb shit like this that makes me not care.
if it’s a casual date then that’s kinda her own problem if she decided to over dress for it. This kind of thing should be mutually agreed upon, if she wants them to dress up then she needs to let him know, otherwise there’s no reason he can’t dress in the way that makes him the most comfortable and feels more like himself. That’s the point of dates, not to look good, but to get to be comfortable with one another and get to know each other and bond as people, not fashion accessories.
If they both agreed that yes, this is a fancy date where they need to dress at least nice? Then he should put in more effort, absolutely, but otherwise? He don’t owe anyone shit and it’s shitty to judge people based simply on their wardrobe because you don’t know what clothes they can own or afford and it’s godamn petty if you’re going to get mad at someone because they didn’t dress up to your standards without you giving those standards in the first place.
Can you imagine if someone told a woman this? That she is obligated to dress nice for a man? Yeah no, doesn’t fly these days. Neither should it the other way around.
see what I mean
see how utterly nasty and shallow that comes off?
yeah
Sorry but I wouldn’t want to date a girl who thinks like that, it’s a big red flag for someone who’s going to have control issues and could easily become abusive. No thanks. All I’d need is someone who thinks I look cute no matter what, not someone who’s going to dictate what I should wear for them so I don’t ‘embarrass’ them or whatever else they think someone dressing semi-casual is so offensive for.
The acrobatics these people are doing to twist this very straight forward comic into some strawman bullshit they can moan about is D E L I C I O U S
this is pretty straightforward: You want someone to dress nice, ask them to, and inform them what you consider nice. It’s not hard. It’s called communication, it is healthy for relationships, a lot healthier than unspoken expectations. If the person actively refuses, then yes, there’s reason to frown on them. But if they are genuinely trying to look what they feel is nice and no requests were made other than that, it’s really rude to assume they’re being disrespectful or sloppy or didn’t make an effort or whatever else. You might not think this is a big deal but I don’t really care, I’m saying this to my followers in hopes that they’ll learn healthier dating habits.
Your ‘lolololol’ attitude is just kinda… childish? Like, it’s equivalent to “neener neener poo poo I don’t really like you” and tosses away all signs of any mature comprehension :/
Look, art sometimes sparks deeper conversations, whether you like it or not. Get over yourself. You made a comic that was bound to cause a little controversy, so like, either you did it on purpose or I don’t know why you’d be surprised.
I did partially agree earlier that it can be disrespectful for a guy to do that but it really depends on the situation, and believe it or not, some abusive partners like to control what their spouse wears and it’s a red flag
I run a blog for abuse and abuse victims, so fucking excuse me if I like to take opportunities to point common abuse habits out.
No, it’s not always the case when someone wants someone else to dress nice, of course not, but it can be and some people aren’t aware of how damaging it can be to a person’s self image and esteem.
Go about your merry way, don’t care, I just rather people be safe than sorry. -SHRUG-
Ah, I love you Jitters, so much cause like me, your not scared or worried about what you say, for me, the lady/guy, can dress how ever they want, mostly cause i wear whatever i like and i dont care if it’s a date or not.
