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Scattered clouds became the canvas for another spectacular summer sunset of fiery crimson and amber melting into delicate coral and indigo.

Somewhere just beyond the window, baby birds on the verge of their first flight chirp expectantly as their mother returns to feed them.

Beyond that, young fawns, foxes, and bear cubs venture ever further from the den, testing their instincts and the limits of their freedom that will one day gift them their independence.

Joyful shouts trickle in from neighborhood children playing in the street, enjoying the special freedom that only summer provides.

Beyond the window, summer means freedom and the first tentative steps towards independence and adulthood.

Simon’s freshly rescued by Grace and Rocky and he already has so many confusing feelings towards them (Mistrust, gratitude, frustration, fear). Now, on top of that he’s having trouble with the simplest of things, it makes him feel so helpless.

Grace is the one who has to brooch the idea of needing diapers to Simon, something he’s almost dreading more than Simon. He’s trying to, very gently, suggest diapers to the other man in a way that feels non- judgmental and causal. Despite how awkward it all feels.

Of course, he fails hard and Simon gets pretty upset about the whole thing. I figure the C.O.I was big on humiliation for punishment, physical punishment leads to injury, which leads to death, they really can’t afford any more death, prisoner or not. So, that’s what Simon immediately assumes this is, a punishment.

Except, he can’t fathom what he’s being punished for. Sure, he’s made a couple of messes, but he always cleans up the best he can, and he’s been getting better! Grace had even promised he wasn’t mad about him having accidents, so now he feels like Grace is going back on his word.

Ryland has to explain that, no, it’s not a punishment, he’s not mad and he’s not trying to embarrass Simon. It’s just that the Hail Mary doesn’t have a washing machine, Ryland can usually sterilize clothes using his freezing method, but that just won’t work for pee covered pants. They really can’t afford to keep throwing away clothes and bed sheets.

Simon immediately feels bad for getting defensive and for ruining so much supplies. He, reluctantly, agrees because what else can he do? The cherry on top of this humiliation sundae is that Simon still isn’t accustomed to doing things with one hand. Trying to get changed is whole process if Simon tries to do it by himself, so Grace has to help.

Grace is trying so hard to not make things weird, he doesn’t like seeing Simon upset, but he’s also not great at comforting people. What if he tries to lighten the mood by tell some jokes and Simon thinks he being made fun of? Or what if Grace stays silent and Simon thinks he’s being judgmental? Or what if he tries to be reassure and Simon thinks he’s being coddled?

Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what Grace does, Simon is going to be embarrassed either way. He tends to act out when he’s really embarrassed, so he’s often fussy during diaper changes. Telling Grace to “fuck off and shut up!” More times than Grace can count. He feels bad about almost immediately after the change is done and apologizes, that won’t stop him from doing it again next time.

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

You will wear diapers full-time.

No "ifs," no "ands," no "buts." This isn’t a negotiation. This isn’t a phase. This is your reality now, and the sooner you accept it, the easier it will be for both of us. You don’t get to argue, to bargain, or to pretend this is temporary. It isn’t. You’re here because you need to be here. Because you’ve proven, time and time again, that you can’t be trusted to manage even the simplest parts of your own life.

So let’s start with the basics.

You no longer wear “grown-up” underwear. Those days are over. No more briefs, no more boxers, no more pretending you’re something you’re not. From now on, your bottom is wrapped in thick, crinkly diapers, diapers that will hold everything you can’t. And you will fill them. You’ll wet them when you’re nervous, when you’re excited, when you’re just sitting there, squirming in your seat because you’ve forgotten how to do anything else. You’ll mess them when you’re overwhelmed, when you’re tired, when you’ve had too much to eat and your body decides for you. And you won’t ask. You won’t dare to ask. Because good boys don’t ask. Good boys let their caregivers handle it.

And you? You’re not a good boy yet. But you will be.

You are not trusted to manage your bathroom needs. That’s why you’re in diapers. That’s why, when you shift in your seat, when you clench your thighs together, when you whimper because you feel it coming and you know you can’t stop it, no one will rush to help you. You’ll sit there, your face burning, your diaper swelling, and you’ll learn. You’ll learn that resistance is useless. That your body doesn’t belong to you anymore. It belongs to us. To the people who know what’s best for you.

You are not trusted to regulate your emotions, either. When you pout, when you cross your arms and try to look defiant, when you stomp your foot like a child throwing a tantrum, we’ll just laugh. Because that’s what you are. A child. A little boy who doesn’t know how to behave, who needs firm hands to guide him, to remind him of his place. And when you cry? Oh, you’ll cry. You’ll cry when you’re frustrated, when you’re embarrassed, when you realize just how small you’ve become. But no one will comfort you. Not the way you want. Instead, you’ll get a pacifier pressed between your lips, a bottle shoved into your hands, a firm voice telling you to settle down. And you will. Because you have no other choice.

You function best when someone else is fully in control. That’s the truth you’ve been running from. You like it when decisions are made for you. When you don’t have to think, to worry, to try. When you can just… let go. And that’s exactly what you’re going to do here. You’ll let go of your pride, your dignity, your silly little delusions of independence. You’ll let us dress you, feed you, clean you up when you’ve made a mess of yourself. You’ll let us decide when you eat, when you nap, when you’re allowed to speak. And you’ll be better for it. Happier. Because deep down, you’ve always known this is what you needed. Someone to take the reins. Someone to remind you, every single day, that you’re not in charge anymore.

You will be changed, fed, dressed, and quieted as needed. Not as requested. Not when you beg. Not when you think you’ve earned it. When we decide it’s time. When we say you’ve been good enough, or when we simply feel like it. You’ll lie on the changing table, your legs kicking uselessly as we wipe you clean, as we powder your skin, as we slide a fresh diaper beneath you and tape it snugly around your waist. And you’ll stay still. You’ll take it. Because that’s what good boys do.

And humiliation? Oh, sweet, naive thing. Humiliation isn’t a punishment here. It’s a reminder. A reminder of who you are. Of why you’re wrapped in plastic and tape, why you’re drinking from a sippy cup, why you’re sitting in a high chair while the world moves on without you. It’s a reminder that you don’t get to be ashamed. You don’t get to be anything but what we say you are. And what we say you are is this: a baby. A little boy who needs to be taken care of. Who wants to be taken care of, even if he won’t admit it yet.

So here’s your first lesson: Stop fighting it.

The diaper between your legs isn’t going anywhere. The bottle in your hands isn’t a suggestion. The way the other boys look at you, the way the caregivers smile when you squirm, the way your own body betrays you again and again, none of it is an accident. It’s design. And you? You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

It’s simpler

Managing and enforcing when your partner is or isn’t meant to be in diapers can be hard work. 24/7 keeps things simple with diapers always expected.

Constant control & presence

Your partner will always be reminded of their diapered status and your control over them. The diaper is a reassuring presence in their daily life and will act as a security blanket for them.

No more nasty public restrooms

24/7 diapers mean your partner doesn’t have to visit nasty and dirty restrooms when out of the house.

Prevents bing / purge, self-loathing & obsession

ABDL partners will often struggle with dangerous highs and lows of DD / Diaper interest. Moving them to 24/7 can massively help this by completely removing the gaps in wearing and giving them a more balanced life.

Normalises DD in your relationship 

With diapers now being their default underwear you help normalise DD as an accepted part of your relationship. This can be especially helpful if your partner suffers from self-acceptance issues around their DD / Diaper interest.

Prevents cheating

A partner in 24/7 diapers is extremely unlikely to cheat on you. If they’re ABDL they’ll likely also be extremely grateful for being kept in diapers. You definitely shouldn't do it for this reason alone though.

The shared secret is fun

Knowing your boyfriend/girlfriend is wearing a thick diaper under their clothes when out in public is a fun secret to hold. Enjoy the subtle teasing and hints you can drop when out and about.

Add a caregiver aspect to your relationship 

Although 24/7 DD shouldn’t completely change your previous “adult” relationship, it provides a way for you to add a strong aspect of caring for them into your relationship.

The bond formed by this during checks, changes and daily diapered life can significantly strengthen your relationship and the connection between you.

No more sharing a toilet

The toilet now becomes your domain, no need to wait to get into the bathroom or clear up after them. Especially with boyfriends in 24/7 diapers you’ll notice a much cleaner toilet and bathroom.

They’ll be less stressed and happier

Almost all partners report that 24/7 DD has helped improve their partners mental wellbeing. 24/7 to reduce stress from daily life is one of the most common reasons couple implement it. Often 24/7 for a few weeks or months is enough to reset your partner’s mental state.

Use it to introduce additional DD elements

Once your partner is in 24/7 diapers you can slowly add any additional elements you wish. Sissification, chastity and bondage are all common additions.

Enjoy their humiliation 

Get a kick out of the humiliation elements of making your partner spend every hour in diapers. Teasing them about being a baby, being smelly or that people might notice can be fun! Watching them fill their diaper or them asking for a change will make you feel more powerful in the relationship.

Not being woken up in the night

Your diaper wearing partner now has no reason to leave the bed and wake you up in the night to go to the toilet.

It’s cute

Dress your partner is cute baby style clothes and enjoy seeing them waddling around your house in a diaper.

I feel like by now there should be at least one brand of pull-up disposable absorbent pant - whatever you want to call it - targeted at the AB/DL/LG/LB/AP community.

There are now heaps of ADORABLE abdl diapers (which we LOVE!)

ABUniverse has given us Space diapers, Cushies, Lavender, Littlepaws and SuperDryKids.

Rearz have produced amazing Crinklez, Princess, Safari and Spoiled diapers.

Bambino gave us their Baby, Belissimo and Teddy diapers.

Fabine delivered their Exclusiv, Panda and Christmas diapers with continental flair.

MyDiaper started with their classic diaper, then they moved into a night diaper and now they have a cute, bright animal diaper.

AWWSoCute has teddy bear diapers in blue, pink, and soon purple.

Snuggies introduced itself with the faded animals on their waddler diapers, and then the even more stunning night diapers, before changing their name to Tykables.

And let’s not forget DC Amor with their adorable pink diaper. And this cute blue one called Kiddos.

So why no pullups? Something like drynites or goodnites or “pullups” but bigger. I’m talking absorbent enough to get through a day at the office, but cute enough to get through your favourite disney movie.

Us carers need some pretty but discreet and quick to change pullups for our boys and girls.

~ Put a nice thick diaper on them. And underneath the diaper, put a toy inside of them. Maybe one that's remote controlled so daddy/mommy can control it and control their little ones pleasure.

~ Put a onesie on them. One that's solid in color or with a simple pattern. It'll make them feel even more baby, but to the rest of the world, it looks like a normal shirt!

~ Put a paci in their mouth and put a mask over it! Nobody will know...

Diaper Changes

Diaper changes have many important roles in the ab/dl lifestyle and relationship. These are just a few of them that make diaper changes and diapers in this type of relationship so special.

1.) Trust - Diaper changes are one of the most ultimate ways to display trust between each other. Especially for the baby girl to allow her Daddy to take care of her in such a private way, which shows that she trusts her Daddy or Mommy completely to take care of her in the most private delicate area. While also helping her gain more trust for her Daddy or Mommy after each diaper change once she sees how respectful, and gentle he/she was. It also helps the Daddy or Mommy have more trust for their little one, by knowing that she is giving so much trust to him it lets him know that he can trust her too. After each diaper change it builds more and more trust between each other. 

2.) Regressing - Diaper changes are something that can make a little feel incredibly little and innocent. It can truly put a little one in a very deep little state of mind. By her her Daddy changing her, cleaning her, and keeping her skin healthy with powders and creams, it can also make her feel so dependent on her Daddy at that moment in time. Which will in turn then make her feel even more little. With the common rule that most ab/dl couples have for the little one not being able to change themselves, it represents the little one becomes solely dependent on their Daddy or Mommy to change their diaper. Dependency is powerful symbol of not only being little but of once again giving trust to sometimes become dependent on their Daddy or Mommy.

3.) Responsibility - For a Daddy or Mommy to be the only one that can change their little one’s diaper is a huge responsibility. They have to not only change their little one, but be responsible to remember to check their little one’s diaper on a regular basis, at least every 2-3 hours. To ensure their little one does not wet so much that their diaper leaks. Therefore also saving their little one from embarrassment of leaking. It is also the responsibility of a Daddy or Mommy to apply the proper creams, and powders when needed, so that it is their responsibility to keep their little one’s skin smooth and healthy. With a Daddy or Mommy taking on so much responsibility to take care of their little one in such a intimate private way, it shows how much they deeply care about their baby girl or baby boy.