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Diaper Changes

Diaper changes have many important roles in the ab/dl lifestyle and relationship. These are just a few of them that make diaper changes and diapers in this type of relationship so special.

1.) Trust - Diaper changes are one of the most ultimate ways to display trust between each other. Especially for the baby girl to allow her Daddy to take care of her in such a private way, which shows that she trusts her Daddy or Mommy completely to take care of her in the most private delicate area. While also helping her gain more trust for her Daddy or Mommy after each diaper change once she sees how respectful, and gentle he/she was. It also helps the Daddy or Mommy have more trust for their little one, by knowing that she is giving so much trust to him it lets him know that he can trust her too. After each diaper change it builds more and more trust between each other. 

2.) Regressing - Diaper changes are something that can make a little feel incredibly little and innocent. It can truly put a little one in a very deep little state of mind. By her her Daddy changing her, cleaning her, and keeping her skin healthy with powders and creams, it can also make her feel so dependent on her Daddy at that moment in time. Which will in turn then make her feel even more little. With the common rule that most ab/dl couples have for the little one not being able to change themselves, it represents the little one becomes solely dependent on their Daddy or Mommy to change their diaper. Dependency is powerful symbol of not only being little but of once again giving trust to sometimes become dependent on their Daddy or Mommy.

3.) Responsibility - For a Daddy or Mommy to be the only one that can change their little one’s diaper is a huge responsibility. They have to not only change their little one, but be responsible to remember to check their little one’s diaper on a regular basis, at least every 2-3 hours. To ensure their little one does not wet so much that their diaper leaks. Therefore also saving their little one from embarrassment of leaking. It is also the responsibility of a Daddy or Mommy to apply the proper creams, and powders when needed, so that it is their responsibility to keep their little one’s skin smooth and healthy. With a Daddy or Mommy taking on so much responsibility to take care of their little one in such a intimate private way, it shows how much they deeply care about their baby girl or baby boy. 

Life has been busy and I’ve been scarce on Tumblr. Sorry to all of you whose messages I’ve been slow to return! Part of my absence has been a [longer-than-usual] streak of shame about this kink. I know we all deal with it.

ABDL is in direct conflict with so many of our inherent—and inherited—toxic personality traits. Perfectionism. Puritanism. “Masculinity” (and all of the bullshit carried by the label). I’m a progressive person, spared by an upbringing without dogmatic religion, who aspires to mindfulness, and a neutral but equitable conception of gender and gender roles—but my self-consciousness is not always immune.

It is wonderful to be someone’s “good boy” in diapers… but then comes the dissonance against my pride, career, social standing, and command of articulate speech. It is wonderful to be the “Daddy” to a diapered little… but the word itself triggers deep shame of misogyny, and my own daddy issues about the man who held that title—the archetype of 1950s toxic masculinity—in my early childhood.

So, this is my self-reminder to live and let live. Be big, be little. Wear diapers with reckless abandon. Life is uncertain; and the fascists want to deprive us of what little joy we have in the first place—not to mention the strain on our collective mental health as Nazi thugs ravage our communities, and billionaire pedophiles rule our country.

Lil' boy and I have this sweet Friday routine that instantly melts away any stressors from the week. He comes home and I lead him to the bedroom. He'll take his pants off (he leaves his undies on bcos it's mommy's job to take those off :)) and I'll go and get a nice thick diaper and a onesie. He'll lay on the bed and wait patiently, with his hands sitting politely on his chest just like they are in the photo above.

Since he's always such a good boy, I'll get his undies off and usually playtime comes after but I just get him worked up :) "Mommy's missed your lil' thingy!" I'll say, "I'm just saying hi and then we'll get you in your diapy n' jammies." Usually he'll whine but he always follows it with an "okay mommy".

Sometimes if he's had a rough week I'll give him some special medicine - it helps make him feel calm n' fuzzy n' extra clingy....which is my most favorite part!

We'll order sushi n' snuggle up on the couch where we'll stay until bedtime. It allows us to put ourselves in this sweet lil' bubble that's just ours. It's safe and it's strong and it's intentional. Routines are important for babies, obv duh, but they're just as important for mommies (and daddies/cgs/etc) too!

Happy Friyay pals!

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

As if being forced to lay on a padded changing table and having a nappy put on him in front of his sister wasn’t enough, Jonathon was then further humiliated by being put into a pair of see through plastic pants…

What's the difference between a permanent and a temporary ABDL baby?

Mommy would explain it like this:

A temporary ABDL baby is someone who likes to be in "baby mode" only sometimes. They might enjoy feeling little for a few hours, a weekend, or during special moments with their caregiver, and then return to their everyday adult responsibilities afterward.

A permanent ABDL baby is someone who feels a much stronger connection to the baby role. They may want to stay in that mindset most of the time, make it a major part of their lifestyle, and have their caregiver treat them as a baby much more consistently. Even then, they still remain an adult in real life and must handle necessary adult responsibilities.

So, sweetie, the biggest difference is how often and how deeply the person wants to live in their baby role:

Temporary baby = baby mode sometimes.

Permanent baby = baby mode as an ongoing lifestyle.