Fig Jam

Teach me how to gracefully let go of things not meant for me.

things I’ve learned to say to boys: -you’re not funny -don’t talk to me like I’m dumb -I probably know more about this than you do -don’t fucking talk about her like that -I’m not comfortable with this -I don’t owe you anything -you just repeated exactly what I said -no

the whole concept linking being open-minded, liberal, and free-spirited with being sexually available to men and having no sexual boundaries is an absolute tragedy. almost every woman i know has been traumatized or harmed by this ideology in some way, and it is being pushed on girls at increasingly younger ages 

i would also like to point out that the idea that it’s cooler to not be emotionally attached in sexual encounters, not have expectations, etc. and be casual about sex and love is also harmful to women and puts the onus on them to change themselves, to criticize themselves for being loving and feeling things deeply, rather than for men to stop being sex-obsessed and devoid of human emotion

this is one of the reasons the sex-positivity movement turned out to be a failure imo. instead of challenging the status quo it’s creating a new set of standards women have to meet when it comes to relationships and sex. it’s putting pressure on women to subjugate themselves even more to the sexual desires of the men in their lives. it’s just sexism wrapped in a new rhetoric and the way its being marketed as the new ideal the Liberated Woman™ should aspire to is so cynical and disgusting to me