Thiq and Spooky Cryptid

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

masochist dom bossing around a cute service top sub who is eager to bite and hit harder for praise

brat sub with a gentle dom who can get them overwhelmed and pliable with the softest things

rigger sub tying their rope bunny dom as an act of body worship

sub who’s sometimes just soooo good at what they do, their dom is the one who ends up overwhelmed and whimpering

As someone who likes to be a hypnotist and who likes to be hypnotised, I can tell you that knowing how hypnosis works is not just interesting for hypnotists. Knowledge of hypnosis can also make you a better hypnotic subject.

If you think hypnosis is something you passively undergo, you're wrong. It's your subconscious, your mind doing all of the work. The hypnotist tells you what to feel or imagine, but that doesn't mean you have no say in it. Your mind may refuse to cooperate if you don't understand what to do, or if you really don't want it, because it's still you, no matter how deeply hypnotised. And if you get to know how this process works, you can teach your mind to refine the suggestions and only comply when you think it's appropriate.

When you're hypnotised, it's difficult to think clearly about whether what the hypnotist is telling is actually a good idea, and the hypnotist is using techniques that are designed to get you to just follow along. It may seem impossible to resist, but really it isn't. It's your imagination, you doing all the work. The hypnotist is just sitting there, talking. That kinda breaks the hot illusion that this hypnotist is bending you to their will, I know, and I was disappointed about that too at first.

There is this strange doublethink quality to being hypnotised, it's difficult to describe. When a hypnotist says "Your hands are stuck now, you can not move them at all" some people feel like they really are stuck, while others feel like it's not working and they can still move, when in reality it's both. It's a weird feeling, but it's very useful to become aware of it.

There is a moment, just after a hypnotic trigger, that's magical. Your brain is still processing: "Was that my trigger? Did they really say that? What am I supposed to do again?" It's the same as when the hypnotist asks you to wake up from hypnosis. This is why some people don't wake up when the hypnotist tells them to, because they expect it to happen automatically, when in reality it's up to them to open their eyes. Pay attention to that magical moment, because that's when you can just say: "Nah, not now."

If you can say "Not now", does that mean you'll never be hypnotised again? On the contrary. Responding to the suggestions of the hypnotist, vividly imagining what they tell you to imagine, is an active skill. Practising this skill means becoming better at recognising suggestions and responding to them quickly and intensely. Practise makes perfect and a hypnotist can teach you to become better at responding to suggestion. Or you can practise by yourself, by listening to a file and waking yourself up, or refusing the suggestions, for example.

So, is hypnosis dangerous at all, if you can just refuse? I think the danger of hypnosis lies in ignorance only. An unskilled hypnotist can place a command that doesn't work as intended because they didn't think all the wording through, or a command that gets triggered unintentionally. So this danger can be avoided if you know how to refuse a suggestion. And with experience, you can learn how to adjust suggestions yourself, either to make them work better, or not at all.

If you know how to recognise suggestions and how hypnosis feels, you can never be caught off-guard by an evil hypnotist trying sneaky covert techniques on you. You know how to wake up and how to refuse. Again, danger averted.

The only real danger lies in the moments when you can't make it stop, like if you're new to hypnosis, or if you've been hypnotised so many times that you just can't think straight anymore. In those moments, it's the responsibility of the hypnotist to take care of you, just like it's the responsibility of a Dominant to take care of their partner when they're in subspace. It's wise to negotiate with your partner about these situations before letting it come this far.

There is a grey area called amnesia; hypnosis can be used to forget things. It can be lots of fun to forget certain things for a while, but if you can't remember that you consented to what's happening, things can get iffy. And nonconsensual amnesia can be really unpleasant and difficult to fix. So I recommend you really think about that and negotiate with your partner before trying amnesia.

learn self-hypnosis Trance is trance, wether you're being hypnotized by someone else, by a video or audio-file or just by yourself, it's still teaching you what it's like to follow suggestions, to go deeper or to wake up. Practicing these skills will make you better at going into trance in the future, which many hypnotists appreciate. Not everyone likes a tough nut to crack.

You can even give yourself suggestions that will improve your confidence and safety as a subject, for example, suggestions that remind you of your safeword, that help you to speak up if you need something (like going to the bathroom), even when hypnotised, or that help you recognise and refuse unwelcome suggestions. I sometimes do some self-trancing when I want to make sure there are no lingering effects after I've used a hypnosis file online.

learn more about inductions and suggestions Once you know something about the technique, you can more easily recognize suggestions, and therefore decide whether you want to accept them or not, and why. When you know something about inductions, you can figure out which ones will work for you and which ones will not, and which ones you just don't like. Once you know something about what hypno play could entail, you can make an informed decision about what you want from that, and you can more effectively communicate with your partner about your wishes and your limits.

ask your hypnotist to tell you about their experience and where they learned to do hypnosis Get to know them. Not just whether they have any experience at all, but you also want to know whether they are just a hypnotherapist who wants to have some fun in their free time, or a mind-control dom who wants to teach you new things, or a spiritual person who wants to help you grow. Make sure you want the same things. Get to know each other. And don't hesitate to conclude that this is not the hypnotist for you. I know, it's hard to find a kinky hypnotist. But really, you're better off not having play, than having things go awry.

ask the hypnotist to include safety mechanism in their suggestions The hypnotist can remind you of your safeword and your ability to say it anytime, no matter how deeply hypnotised, or reassure you that hey never want you to feel pressured to do anything. They can also include limits to their suggestions: only when I ask you, only when you feel safe, until the end of this session. Such limits could prevent unwanted or lingering effects.

If someone tries to hypnotise you before you've done the getting to know each other part, or before they've negotiated with you about what they should and shouldn't do with you, don't go into trance. Bite your tingue, squeeze your hand, whatever you need to stop yourself from going into trance. This is a really unpleasant situation, and a totally dick move. Walk away. Don't answer their message. Or get angry, that's totally justified.

Here's some more advice pulled from my class for people who like to be hypnotised that I teach at Charmed:

Hypno is a skill you can practice and get better at like playing the piano. It's unhelpful to get frustrated because you can't do it perfectly from the get go. Here's some things you can practice as a beginner:

Just going in trance and noticing what that feels like for you

Using your safeword/waking yourself up

Resisting/adjusting suggestions

My advice is to take time with a practice partner to work on these things first without getting into hot hypno fantasies. Much like starting out with rope, practice the basics first.

Here are some ways you can practice active cooperation during a hypno scene to help you get better at following suggestions and feeling hypnotised:

When the hypnotist says "you're feeling soo… <example>" try it. Imagine what that feels like. Use your internal dialogue to help hypnotise you. Just repeat some of the hypnotist's words in your head or out loud "Soo deep…" Maybe your inner dialogue can make it into a mantra. Some people find this really hot and that can be a motivator to do it more, and to feel the effects more.

Practice responding and adjusting a trigger. Triggers are inside your head, they are yours to give to other people to use (or not). You decide what the trigger makes you do or feel and who gets to use it.

Play along. It’s ok to fake it till you make it, because that’ll build neural pathways to help suggestions work better in the future.

Practice saying no. Sometimes you don't want to a do a thing right now. A trusted play partner is a very good person to practice this important skill with. It's also good practice for them to say "ok, thank you for stopping when you need to. Let's do something else." Maybe it's helpful to take turns practicing this.

Figure out, through practice, which modalities work for you. Do you react strongly to sexy hypnotist voices? You might have a preference for auditory stuff. Do you dream vivid images when in trance? You might be a visually oriented person. Or do you have trouble with visuals? That's valid. It's helpful to know these things about yourself so you can tell hypnotists about it.

Install safeties and contingencies in your head. If you're not yet comfortable doing this through self-hypnosis, you can enlist the help of a hypnotist friend. "I will only go into trance when I feel safe and comfortable doing so" or "Whenever I'm uncomfortable or in need of assistance, I will easily and automatically use my safeword" or "whenever a suggestion would make me uncomfortable or move me to a headspace I don't want to go, I'll find it easy to just ignore the suggestion".

If you're a person who spontaneously forgets what happened in trance, you can learn to remember it through practice. If you're a person who has never experienced hypnotic amnesia and it's something you'd like to try, there are ways to practice and figure out how to make it work for you.

The Unconscious Mind is just a metaphor, a way to help us understand how the human mind works. It's not a separate entity in your brain, your unconscious decisions/actions are your decisions/actions. Understanding your subconscious reactions helps you understand yourself, and you can work together with the unconscious part of you to keep you safe and improve yourself.

Because hypnosis is happening inside your mind, you are the one most able to protect and advocate for yourself. Sometimes you are the only person who knows that something is off, so you need to tell your partner about it, or they simply do not know. So practice communicating your needs during a kink scene, constant communication is really helpful. A sigh of "this feels so good…" can be just as useful to your partner as "wait, hold on, I need something".

Fuck, I’ve been thinking about my history professor taking me home one night because he doesn’t want me driving during a massive storm, so he offers to drive me home. He’s feeling me up as he’s driving, teasing me on the way back home. Except... my house is on the other side of the city. He’s driving us back to his apartment, and he’s telling me everything he wants to do to me.

He’s got me so wet by his words alone that it takes me a minute to realise we’re parked and that he’s opening my door so we can go inside. He closes the door behind us and presses me against him, telling me that he’s going to make me his little fucktoy, that he wants to make sure the only cock I can cum on is his. He’s leading me to his bedroom, where he strips me down and bends me over the bed, tying my wrists together with his tie before he’s playing with my pussy. I’m soaking wet as he teases my clit and my folds, and all I can do is squirm on his bed with my tits against the sheets. He has me begging for him, for his cock, for his seed before he pushes in right up to my cervix and immediately starts fucking me hard. He’s made sure I’m pinned under him, going nowhere anytime soon.

He doesn’t have a condom on, and I can hear him growling that he’s going to breed me, that he’s going to fill my pussy with so much cum that it’s going to leak out of me, that there’s going to be no way I’m not going to be pregnant with his child after tonight. He smacks my ass and I moan, and a part of me realises that I want this. I want to be his fucktoy, his slut, his whore. I want him to fuck me so hard that it will hurt to walk later. I want to feel his cum leaking out of my pussy and dripping down my legs.

My thoughts get pulled away from me as my pussy tightens and I cum on his cock, my gushing wetness tipping him over the edge and he puts his load deep in me. He has ahold of my hips and I’m pretty sure they’re bruised with how hard he’s gripping them. He pulls his cock out of my pussy and inspects it, commenting that I have a good little pussy and that he doesn’t see any of his seed leaking out of me. He clicks his tongue and says that it’s a shame the storm hasn’t ended so that I could go home. I wiggle my hips back at him, asking if he was going to fill me again. I think I just became his favourite student.

😮‍💨

You can absolutely safeword during a punishment.