Grandpa Vibes

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white lesbians who think they know everything because some lezsep zine makers in the 90s decided butch/femme should only belong to predominantly white lesbian bar culture and frequently erase bisexual women and woc from their own history and terms:

I get what you’re trying to say but you have to understand that there are kids who grow up on tobacco, there are kids who don’t know how else to cope, there are kids who think it’s a small way to rebel against someone who hasn’t treated them fairly. Most of these kids are in poverty or are seriously struggling. It’s not fair to label them as nothing but attention seeking morons.

you don’t want to spend time smoking while you could spend doing something else, even if it’s nothing.

you don’t want to smoke in designated areas or outside, especially if weather is raging with all its might and its the only place you can smoke (not to mention the inevitable littering).

you don’t want to smoke in your home, where it can take awhile to vent it (and if you don’t, guess what - second hand smoking is still toxic for your health).

you don’t want to debate with yourself whether you should spend money on food or on smoking.

if you smoked for awhile, you must build the nerves of steel to resist doing again, and dark days will be waiting for you to fail.

there are people allergic to smoke - they can’t be around you when you smoke (hell, imagine if you’re one of them and you’re smoking).

If you’re currently on HRT or planning to get surgery, smoking can be *especially* dangerous and may prevent you from receiving that care.

Smoking while taking feminizing hormones exponentially increases your risk of cancer. Why? Because your breast tissue (which is right above your lungs) is growing, which requires more oxygen & blood. If you’re smoking, that oxygen can contain carcinogens, which will now be stored in all that brand new tissue.

Smoking while on estrogen also increases the risk of blood clots & heart attack

Nicotine REDUCES the circulation of estrogen, so it can essentially nullify your hormones.

Being a smoker puts you at higher risk during surgery by minimizing circulation, which can lead to infection and even tissue death.

Tobacco companies *specifically* target the LGBT+ community (e.g. pride events, bars, etc) because they know we are 1. less likely to quit 2. face higher levels of stress 3. are less likely to have health insurance

Please know, I’m not sharing this information as scare tactic, but rather trans folks are often not given this information or have providers who aren’t aware of it.

no, only if you're choosing to make others suffer to make yourself feel good

The rabbi was delighted to do it, and introduced the man to some charities.  After a few weeks, the man came back to the rabbi.

“I have decided not to build the orphanage,” he said.  “I realised that I was only doing it because I wanted to be admired as a philanthropist, my motives were selfish.”

The Fable of Abraham Lincoln and the Pigs

Once Lincoln was traveling in a mud-wagon coach along a swampy, rural area. His fellow passenger was his good friend and US Senator Edward Dickinson Baker, who later lost his life in the Battle of Ball’s Bluff at the onset of the American Civil War.

While they were conversing in the mud-wagon coach, Lincoln remarked to Baker that in doing good and evil, all people are motivated by selfishness. Just as Baker challenged Lincoln’s assertion, their coach crossed a rickety bridge over a slough (a large swampy marsh.)

Abruptly, Lincoln and Baker glimpsed a mother pig making a terrible squeal because her piglets were stuck in the swamp, couldn’t get out, and were in danger of drowning.

As their coach started to head away, Lincoln yelled, “Driver, can’t you stop just a moment?” The driver replied, “If the other fellow don’t object.”

With Baker’s approval, Lincoln jumped out of the wagon, ran to the slough, lifted the piglets one by one out of the swamp, and carried them to the dry bank of the swamp.

When Lincoln returned to the coach, Baker remarked, “Now, Abe, where does selfishness come in this little episode?”

Lincoln replied, “Why, bless your soul, Ed, that was the very essence of selfishness. I would have had no peace of mind all day had I gone on and left that suffering old sow worrying over those pigs. I did it to get peace of mind, don’t you see?”