The Strippers Hate You

An incomplete list of jobs I also wouldn’t teach 10 year olds how to do

- Performing abortions.  “here’s a difficult decision a woman had to make that cost her at least a month’s income and was highly politicised to ruin everyone’s good mood! Who wants to hear about the non consensual transvaginal ultrasound her state legislature said I had to perform?” makes for great career day talk, right?

- Owning a brewery Alcohol is literally none of their fucking business. They’re children. Plus beer is gross.

- Teaching statistics I wouldn’t teach anyone how to do this job. Statistics is boring. 

- Joining the military You’re a psychopath if you think brainwashing children to go get murdered for politicians’ money making schemes is a good thing to do. Fuck you.

- Gunsmithing Weapons aren’t for kids.

- Working in a factory.  Any factory. At all. If you stand in front of a conveyor belt and do the same motion for 8 hours then children do not care. They do not fucking care.

- Working for Amazon, Walmart, Facebook, or any company they own. Children should not be taught that the the way these employees get treated is something to aspire to

- Any elected official at all.  I don’t care what party. Anything they say would be campaigning. Keep it away from kids’ career day. 

I could go on…

- Gynecologist? No.

- Urologist? No.

- Sexologist? No.

- Rape counselor? No.

- Halfway house worker? No.

- Prison psychiatrist or psychologist? No

- Sex shop worker? No.

- Planned Parenthood worker? No.

Why do things like this get whittled down to such whiney baby bitch terms? It becomes so black and white when the whole thing is so fucking nuanced. And I’m sure there are radfems who’d argue with me about it being an all or nothing, destroy men kind of thing, but idk I feel that’s missing the point. Like hearing “defund the police” and thinking that means having no police force, not decreasing the funds for police and rerouting the funds to education and mental health services to stop crime before it happens.

B. NO other industry has all of it’s workers punished for the actions of human traffickers. None. Silver mines are full of child labour, slave labour, and abuse. I know several jewelers and yet none of them have been told that them using silver is unethical since they source their silver ethically. It’s understood that the traffickers are at fault. Not the consenting workers. Domestic labour trafficking is a problem equal in scale to sex trafficking. Yet I know several women who were proud to start their own house cleaning businesses and who were celebrated for doing so. They weren’t told they were contributing to human trafficking by cleaning their houses even though there’s women and children all over the world forced to clean houses against their will without pay. Someone seeing someone else getting their house cleaned and knowing they can pay for that service too increases demand. But if I quit doing sex work and started a house cleaning business, you wouldn’t tell me I was normalising domestic labour trafficking or increasing demand for that. You’d congratulate me on starting my own business. You only object when it’s sex because you have a double standard and think you are entitled to decide how people of all genders should be allowed to use their own sexuality. 

News flash? We don’t need you to approve our consent. You aren’t that important. 

Why do things like this get whittled down to such whiney baby bitch terms? It becomes so black and white when the whole thing is so fucking nuanced. And I’m sure there are radfems who’d argue with me about it being an all or nothing, destroy men kind of thing, but idk I feel that’s missing the point. Like hearing “defund the police” and thinking that means having no police force, not decreasing the funds for police and rerouting the funds to education and mental health services to stop crime before it happens.

B. NO other industry has all of it’s workers punished for the actions of human traffickers. None. Silver mines are full of child labour, slave labour, and abuse. I know several jewelers and yet none of them have been told that them using silver is unethical since they source their silver ethically. It’s understood that the traffickers are at fault. Not the consenting workers. Domestic labour trafficking is a problem equal in scale to sex trafficking. Yet I know several women who were proud to start their own house cleaning businesses and who were celebrated for doing so. They weren’t told they were contributing to human trafficking by cleaning their houses even though there’s women and children all over the world forced to clean houses against their will without pay. Someone seeing someone else getting their house cleaned and knowing they can pay for that service too increases demand. But if I quit doing sex work and started a house cleaning business, you wouldn’t tell me I was normalising domestic labour trafficking or increasing demand for that. You’d congratulate me on starting my own business. You only object when it’s sex because you have a double standard and think you are entitled to decide how people of all genders should be allowed to use their own sexuality. 

News flash? We don’t need you to approve our consent. You aren’t that important. 

What ACTUALLY happens when sex work is illegal:

Alaska

“One of [the police officers] put his hand up my skirt and ripped my underwear off. He slammed me down on the car, he injured me. Um, left me with some broken fingertips, broken toes, fractured cheekbone… I was bleeding, I had my skirt ripped… people were just mortified because they’d seen a teenage girl get assaulted by a police officer..”.— study respondent

Baltimore

“Prior to the DOJ investigation, an internal investigation by the BCPD found an officer receiving sex from a sex worker in exchange for money and immunity from arrest. The case was closed without any attempt to gather more evidence, interview the police officer, or prosecute the officer. Cases were opened for the same officer a second and third time for the same offense. The witness for the third case died before she could be interviewed, and only then did the BCPD review the officer’s phone records and discover that he had sent sexually explicit messages to a number of female sex workers. The officer was allowed to retire. The DOJ found similar cases involving other officers.”

Chicago

“I was solicited by a police officer who said that if I had sex with him he wouldn’t arrest me. So I did. Then afterwards he cuffed me and pressed charges anyway.“

“I was going to meet a new john, it turned out to be a sting set up by the cops. He got violent with me, handcuffed me and then raped me. He cleaned me up for the police station and I got sentenced to four months in jail for prostitution.”

“I keep being arrested in Rogers Park just for standing still. They keep taking me in for prostitution even though I’m not doing anything at all. It’s the same white cop doing it too.”

“When being held in protective custody [because they said I was a victim of human trafficking] they started withholding my sheets, then towels, then pillows, then food because they said I wasn’t telling them everything I could—when in fact I was.”

(Claiming non trafficking victims are actually trafficking victims as justification for abusing them - Hey, radfems, the police are stealing your tactics!)

“Twenty four percent of street-based sex workers had been raped by a police officer. Twenty percent had experienced other sexual assault from police officers. Women doing survival sex and women in drug houses experienced a lot of violence from police. Thirty percent of exotic dancers who had been raped were raped by police, and twenty percent of the sexual violence they experienced was committed by police. Twenty five percent of escorts had been robbed by a police officer. Eighteen percent of escorts had been forced to masturbate a police officer.”

Las Vegas

“One respondent was given the choice between arrest and doing something “disgusting”. She wouldn’t tell the researcher what she was asked to do, but she told the other police officers at the station about it and they laughed at her.

A respondent was asked by an officer to show her breasts in order to avoid arrest. Another respondent had charges dropped because of police misconduct; the officer who arrested her had her perform oral sex on him.”

Miami

“One respondent was arrested because she refused to have sex with the officers who arrested her. Another was asked by an officer for sex, but she was afraid it was a set up and said no.”

New Orleans

“Survey respondents said that police profiled transgender people as sex workers and subjected them to verbal abuse and sexual misconduct, including demands for sex in exchange for leniency. Police were arresting people for solicitation if they carried condoms. Even trans sex workers who weren’t arrested for carrying condoms saw it happen to others and where afraid to carry condoms. Some police officers used possession of condoms to coerce trans sex workers into providing free sexual services.

People who tested positive for HIV while in jail were visited by an HIV task force that scheduled appointments at a clinic. However, many people were rearrested before their scheduled appointment. One woman was arrested ten times in three years, preventing her from going to any scheduled appointments to receive care for her HIV infection during that period. Jail interrupts taking medication on a regular basis.”

(I know radfems don’t care about trans people though. Y’all are definitely celebrating the New Orleans situation as a success.)

New York City

“Examples of police language: bitch ho slut you’re not dead yet? we gotta go clean up the trash why should we help you?”

(Again, I know radfems approve of this. This is how they talk to me.)

Police raped me a couple of times in Queens. The last time that happened was a couple of months ago. But you don’t tell anybody. You just deal wit it.— nineteen year old female

“Police officers propositioned underage youth and made lewd comments. Most female youth in the study reported trading sex to avoid arrest. Pimps were not arrested or received less jail time than the youth that worked with them, even when one of the youths was identified as fourteen years old.”

Thirty percent of the respondents reported threats of violence from the police, and twenty seven percent reported experiencing violence. One respondent said “I’ve seen cops get out of a car and beat a girl, and then get back in the car and leave.” Another said that her greatest fear during arrest was “not coming home at all.” The white woman from the Bronx said “… they throw you on the floor and they step on you…”

Another respondent reported seeing officers injure a women in the pelvic area to prevent her from working. “… it was like he was squeezing a handball or something, but really really hard… it was two guys in a car and they drove up on the sidewalk. He pushed her against the wall and then he pushed her against the wall after he finished that and then he said “now get off the street”…-respondent

“One likes to beat me now and then, or he wants me to suck his dick. I mean, it’s crazy. He hits me with his gun and gives me these marks on my legs and my back. I don’t know what to do…I can’t call the other cops. I did that once and they asked this guy to stop beating me. But he got so mad that he came around and beat me up even worse. So I really have to get out of here. Now he wants me to give him 25% of what I make…I had to go to the hospital because I got beat so bad. — respondent

San Francisco 

“4% of respondents described being threatened with arrest unless they had sex with a police officer. 8% said they were arrested after having sex with a police officer. 5% said they were arrested after refusing to have sex with a police officer. 40% of interactions with police officers during the previous three months were bad or very bad.”

Washington DC

38.5% of survey respondents reported being humiliated or verbally abused by police during relatively minor interactions such as checking ID. One respondent said the officer called her a whore, prostitute, and trick. During 8.6% of these interactions, officers confiscated or destroyed safe sex supplies, including condoms. 17.3% of respondents said that police-initiated interactions involved the officer asking for sexual services, or demanding sexual services to avoid arrest. 9.1% of respondents reported being assaulted by police officers. 3 respondents reported strip searches.

Seventy eight respondents were profiled as sex workers and ordered to “move along.” The most common result of this was that they ended up in an area where they felt less safe.

75% of trans people and 82.4% of Latinos said they were treated worse than others when they were in lock up.

When the survey respondents initiated contact with the police, usually to report a crime, in a number of cases the police tried to have sex with them. This seemed to be particularly true of trans Latinas.

Studies not limited to certain areas

“Police abuse of sex workers includes verbal insults, coerced sex, brutal beatings, and rape. When police know that a woman is a sex worker, they may harass her when she is not working.The most common abuses are verbal abuse and threats to arrest sex workers if the police don’t receive sexual services. Police often assume that sex workers don’t care who they will have sex with and will do anything to avoid arrest. But experienced street-based sex workers often refuse to provide free services. They are resigned to frequent arrests, including arrests for questionable charges. What they want to avoid are fear and indignity forced on them by bad officers.“

“During arrest or taking someone into custody, police often degrade or humiliate sex workers, including removing wigs or clothing, confiscating or destroying property, making homophobic, anti-transgender, and racists slurs, and engaging on sexual harassment. Organizations working with sex workers have documented a pattern of police practice that includes assault, sexual harassment, public strip searches for the purpose of viewing genitalia, and rape. This pattern of practice is supported by the difficulty or impossibility of obtaining justice in these cases.”

“When sex workers try to report crimes against them, officers don’t take their complaints seriously, refuse to file a report, and may arrest them, physically assault them, or pressure them for sex. When a sex worker tried to bring charges against a security guard who handcuffed and raped her, the police referred to the guard as “a big teddy bear”, and added exculpatory statements to her report that she didn’t make. This refusal to deal with crimes against sex workers leads serial killers to target sex workers and people profiled as sex workers.”

“Six of the twelve women who had been trafficking victims left their trafficking situation without help from law enforcement, through the help of a coworker or an attorney they met through a coworker or friend. Nationwide, it appears that the majority of trafficking victims escape without the involvement of law enforcement. One supervisor in a national organization said that 90% of their cases were not produced by raids or identified by law enforcement.”

Of the six trafficking victims picked up in law enforcement raids, one would have left her situation in a few days if she had not been picked up in a raid and arrested. As a result of the raid, she was pistol-whipped by a police officer and incarcerated. 

https://thestrippershateyou.tumblr.com/post/188423709794/radfems-i-support-the-nordic-model-because-i

I also know *why* you like the Nordic model - Because, on the surface, it looks like a great idea for sex workers to have the space to do the jobs we want to do. But underneath that surface, it’s just another weapon used to violently oppress sex workers, deny us rights, deny us humane treatment, and make us fear or four safety and lives. All while you get to blame the sex workers for choosing to do the work instead of the system that was specifically designed to cause such problems and which you yourself supported. 

You’ll have to try your little song and dance on someone who hasn’t seen the true colours of so many radfems. 

Yeah, not exactly sure sir gym rat here identifies as a radical feminist.

Also, every child - and person - deserves to be and feel safe going to the bathroom. No child “deserves” to be in any particular bathroom. Going to the girls room isnt a privilege that you’re either “allowed” or “denied.” Women’s restrooms are just places for female people to relieve themselves, they aren’t the ultimate battleground of rights.

If it doesn’t matter to you, then stop acting like you need to get a description of people’s genitals as a cover charge to a public bathroom. 

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This.

Yeah, not exactly sure sir gym rat here identifies as a radical feminist.

Also, every child - and person - deserves to be and feel safe going to the bathroom. No child “deserves” to be in any particular bathroom. Going to the girls room isnt a privilege that you’re either “allowed” or “denied.” Women’s restrooms are just places for female people to relieve themselves, they aren’t the ultimate battleground of rights.

Sixty percent of men who turn their penises inside out are AGPs. And, while men who get the chop can’t rape anyone with their penises, doing so doesn’t suddenly make them harmless, and it doesn’t make them “real”, whatever that means.

Also you: “At least men who chop their penises off can’t rape women with them anymore but even that can’t make a man harmless!”

Either stereotyping entire genders is bad or everyone with a penis is a rapist. Pick one. They’re both hilariously disgusting beliefs but you can’t have both of them because they conflict. 

It’s because it’s illegal for anyone to help a sex worker in any way under the Nordic Model. It’s illegal for anyone to do most non sexual business with a sex worker under the Nordic Model.

It’s illegal to rent an apartment to a sex worker so they aren’t homeless, accept sex workers as passengers in cabs so they don’t have to walk around the city alone, allow sex workers to drink at bars and have social lives outside of work, give sex workers any kind of harm reduction materials that could save their lives, give sex workers birth control, provide security to a sex worker so that they won’t get hurt, offer shelter to a sex worker if they’re homeless or trying to get away from an abuser, offer any kind of assistance AT ALL to sex workers including something like food money, or even be in a romantic relationship with a sex worker.

The Nordic Model made it illegal for sex workers to get almost everything one needs to have a safe, secure life. Then the Nordic Model claimed it was sex work that caused sex workers to be homeless, hungry, poor, and mistreated. Nordic Model supporters point to rape statistics in Nordic Model countries. They just forget to mention that the Nordic Model one ups the western model by not just arresting sex workers and charging them with prostitution for trying to report being raped by a client, but responding to rape reports by conducting surveillance on sex workers, taking that surveillance to their landlords, and telling the landlord to either evict the sex worker or get arrested for facilitating prostitution by unknowingly renting to a sex worker.

The Nordic Model caused the problem itself. And then the government decided to start making these limited social programs available to sex workers on government terms so that they could tell the public that the government and the government alone was willing to help these poor, miserable sex workers who clearly had nothing because sex work caused them to be like that so that meant sex work was bad.

They refuse to see us as anything other that one of two different one dimensional caricatures that they invented: helpless victims in need of a radfem white knight to rescue us or sexual deviants who are either too privileged to count as sex workers (if we are still doing sex work and don’t hate it) or only in it to traffic little girls (if we retired from sex work but didn’t hate it). If we are #1 then they use us as their token sob story to go “I talked to this one prostituted woman who told me [insert personal story that’s not theirs to share around]”. If it’s #2 then they smear us everywhere they can and go “This sex trafficker claims that sex work is perfect for absolutely EVERYONE because she’s really a pimp and wants to lure you into making money for her!”.

Why are you okay with men buying us?

Why is the solution “yeah let women get raped all night if it makes more money than working at a grocery store” instead of “let’s support working class women so they don’t have to be raped to pay their bills”?

I’ve been a stripper, I probably will be again, honestly for the same reason as the woman above, because it fits my schedule while I’m in college, and it pays far more than any other job I could do in similar hours. But the difference is that I recognize that it’s fucked up that that’s the only job that’s feasible for me! I would love for there to be a different job with the same flexible schedule and good pay that’s not illegal, and THATS what I’m fighting for.

But I worked as a stripper in a well regulated club with no lap dances and a strict no touching policy. A man once got kicked out just for reaching for my ass (as a joke, which wasn’t funny, but the point is he didn’t even actually touch me and still got kicked out). I have NO IDEA what it’s like to be a prostitute or ‘full service’ sex worker. I have no idea what it’s like to have to be touched by men like that.

And I see so many popular ‘sex work advocates’ who are strippers or Camgirls, and while that’s definitely a viewpoint that should be listened to, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a prostitute or ‘full service sex worker’ advocate for full legalization, saying they love the industry, etc. and those perspectives are incredibly different. When radfems talk about how an insanely high amount of prostitutes don’t like their job, it’s always ‘no contact’ sex workers who say that that’s fake because THEY enjoy their jobs.

There was a difference between being paid for sex and I knew that difference immediately.

Sex work should be completely legal the same as any other job and the other people I worked with thought the same. It’s hard to take a consensus though because, again, if people find out you’re an active sex worker you risk being arrested.

I’ll listen to you for ten (10) minutes while tell me all about how I’m a tragic, prostituted woman and how you can save me while I gradually work up some fake tears and don’t make eye contact with you on camera because I appear too anxious and ashamed to do so. After your 10 minutes are up, I’ll spent another 10 minutes telling you how you’re really smart and really kind and I hadn’t realised it was possible to just not live this life but that I didn’t have the money to get out until you came along. I’ll gush about how $300 is more money than anyone has ever been kind enough to give sad, sorry little me in all my life and that I didn’t know I could ever be worth that kind of money. At that point, I’ll dab at the eyeliner running down my face and tell you I’m opening a note on my computer to save these links you’ve sent me to rescue orgs and radfem theory because theory was honestly EXACTLY what I needed to pay my rent so I didn’t have to fuck my terrible, no good, awful, very bad landlord again. 

I’ll thank you so much for this information and say that, after talking to you, I’ve really just come to understand that I was nothing more than a fuckhole for men, a subhuman cum dumpster, a stupid little handmaid, a piece of meat for men to put their cock in, just a bought and sold object who wasn’t even that pretty anyway, etc (fake self degradation costs $15/per insult after the first 5. There’s no upper limit but if you buy 10, I’ll throw in another “I’m just a prostituted woman” for free) and now I understand that I can actually just stop being the scum of the earth and being personally responsible for the actions of all rapists ever by simply quitting my job.

At that point, I’ll tell you I’m deleting my social medias that talk about sex work because I just need a whole new start away from that toxic nightmare. I’ll block you from all of them so it looks like the accounts no longer exist and I’ll add you on a fake instagram I started just for this. On it, I’ll post about how I dream of raising puppies with my lesbian (not bi!) girlfriend in our cottagecore inspired place in the woods where we are legally permitted to castrate any man who even breathes within a 50 foot radius of our property line because we assumed having a penis meant he was a rapist. 

You can stay on the account for one (1) week and then you get removed. 

Radfems in my notes *today*:

I know y’all pretend not to know that radfem women abuse sex workers because then you’d have to admit you’re okay with that. But it seems like y’all *really* don’t know that men are completely comfortable using radfem theory to advance their own causes and they’ve been doing it for a very long time. 

Generalising the world by his location? Check

Only acknowledging full service sex work as being sex work? Check

Only seeming to have any knowledge of local trafficking conditions while revealing a glaring lack of knowledge about consensual sex work? Check

Only willing to refer to sexual labour as work with quotation marks around it to convey his belief that sexual labour could never be considered real work? Check

Offers either no statistics or suspiciously specific statistics with no sources? Check

Implying that I am a liar? Check

Attempting to subtlety invoke a trauma bond in me by abusing and degrading me (”cumdumpster”, “cam slut”, presenting imagery of me as a toy) and then rapidly switching to acting confused by me being angry about the verbal abuse (”What?”), claiming to care about SW welfare (”I come from the workers movement”), and his message acting as if he was never abuse and only ever wished me the best (the last two sentences)? FUCKIN’ CHECK

This is literally a textbook radfem interaction. I get at least a couple like this from female radfems every time I check my notes. Y’all either don’t realise you’re mirroring the cycle of abuse, think that sex workers are too stupid to realise that’s what you’re doing, or don’t care if we realise that you’re doing it because you know us publicizing radical feminism normalises abusing sex workers is one of the few ways for radical feminism to get mainstream public approval since the public loves abusing us too. And, of course, radfems using right wing language and abuse tactics against us is a way to get y’alls foot in the door to working with right wingers on anti sex worker and anti trans policies which is why we have things like SESTA/FOSTA getting bipartisan approval. 

It’s because it’s illegal for anyone to help a sex worker in any way under the Nordic Model. It’s illegal for anyone to do most non sexual business with a sex worker under the Nordic Model. 

It’s illegal to rent an apartment to a sex worker so they aren’t homeless, accept sex workers as passengers in cabs so they don’t have to walk around the city alone, allow sex workers to drink at bars and have social lives outside of work, give sex workers any kind of harm reduction materials that could save their lives, give sex workers birth control, provide security to a sex worker so that they won’t get hurt, offer shelter to a sex worker if they’re homeless or trying to get away from an abuser, offer any kind of assistance AT ALL to sex workers including something like food money, or even be in a romantic relationship with a sex worker. 

The Nordic Model made it illegal for sex workers to get almost everything one needs to have a safe, secure life. Then the Nordic Model claimed it was sex work that caused sex workers to be homeless, hungry, poor, and mistreated. Nordic Model supporters point to rape statistics in Nordic Model countries. They just forget to mention that the Nordic Model one ups the western model by not just arresting sex workers and charging them with prostitution for trying to report being raped by a client, but responding to rape reports by conducting surveillance on sex workers, taking that surveillance to their landlords, and telling the landlord to either evict the sex worker or get arrested for facilitating prostitution by unknowingly renting to a sex worker. 

The Nordic Model caused the problem themselves. And then the government decided to start making these limited social programs available to sex workers on government terms so that they could tell the public that the government and the government alone was willing to help these poor, miserable sex workers who clearly had nothing because sex work caused them to be like that so that meant sex work was bad.

It absolutely doesn’t. 

Sex traffickers lead women to be sex trafficked. Rapists lead women to be raped. In a world with absolutely 0 sex work, there will still be sex trafficking because people who desire to sexually traffic other people still exist. In a world where all skirts were floor length, rape would still exist because people who desire to rape others still exist. 

A woman choosing which sexual activities she wants to engage in, who she wants to engage in them with, how long she wants to engage in them, and on what conditions she wants to engage in them does not lead women to be raped. 

- “I want sex work regulation” is another way of saying “Why, yes, I want governments to have authority over what adults do with their own bodies”. Are you also pro life? No? Is that because you’re against the idea of a patriarchal government controlling a woman’s body and punishing her for making her own decisions for her own reproductive organs? Hmm, interesting. Very interesting.

- "prostitution and brothels have higher instances of sex trafficking” is, like, the weirdest vague way to try and manipulate the conversation in order to avoid discussing statistics and external factors. “the sexual labour industry has higher rates of illegal sexual labor than other industries that don’t have anything to do with sexual labour”. Well, I mean...yeah. Duh. And the house cleaning industry has higher rates of domestic labour trafficking than, idk, the fucking cheese making industry. Nail salons traffic more women to be nail tech than history museums do. Obviously. A private facility is pretty much the only place you could conceal a sex trafficking business with more than 2-3 trafficking victims. By definition, any private facility where somebody pays for ANY sexual intercourse is considered a brothel, regardless of if it is full of raped children or adults who are loudly campaigning for their own right to have sex on their own terms. So....yeah...OBVIOUSLY the overwhelming majority of sex trafficking will be in brothels. And when legal adult sex workers have to fight like hell to get even one (1) brothel opened for them to be able to have a safe, clean, advertised, well stocked, protected location for them to be able to go and do sex work together away from their homes but traffickers can get their own house called a brothel by pimping out their own kids to be raped in their beds.....then, yeah. That’s gonna cause there to be fewer numbers of good brothels and larger numbers of trafficking brothels. Like, do you not understand how external factors affect statistics? Do you really just think it’s as clear cut as “brothels have a high rate of trafficking so brothels are bad”?

- You’re not talking about stripping and onlyfans because you don’t want to. The rate of trafficking in those field of sex work is so low as compared to the rate of consenting sex workers that including them would dramatically change the statistics and result in the percentage of trafficking victims in the entire sex industry going down and the percentage of consenting sex workers going up. It would show you statistics that would benefit me more than you. This is the same reason why you want to talk about brothels but you don’t want to talk about how it’s nigh effortless to create a trafficking brothel and nigh impossible to create a safe and consensual brothel under the law. You don’t want to bring up details that are relevant but not beneficial to you.

-  “ However, you can’t deny that if someone pays for sex, they will try to take advantage of the prostitute". First off, you mean sex worker. Not prostitute. And, yes, I can deny that as it is, in fact, a non sequitur. Someone contacting a worker, saying “would you be okay with me paying for one of the services you offer?”, getting a clear cut “yes, and here are my terms”, and meeting those terms does not mean they will try to “take advantage” of the worker. The amount of people who go to a restaurant with the intention of running out on the check is miniscule next to the number of people who pay for something off the menu, eat it in a reasonable amount of time, and leave a polite tip on their way out. Spare me “Well I don’t mean in every industry!” too. Go back and reread the first point. Sex work doesn’t exist in a special bubble immune from logical fallacies.

- No, a sex worker doesn’t necessarily have less control over the situation if there’s money involved. I assure you a rapist will be just as quick to rape a victim regardless of if they had to bring money with them. In fact, I would argue that sex workers have MORE control over the situation when it’s professional because it’s expected that they will be the ones providing a list of available services, full service clients expect to be vetted, and in venues like strip clubs, there are lots of cameras and security. In fact, the strip club was probably the only place I ever felt safe fully relaxing while being sexy. Even with partners, I often thought “I just want to be sexy and play around and they’re going to get turned on and want more. They’ll respect it when I say no but I’ll still feel a bit bad.”. They expect a no in the strip club. Most of the time they don’t even seriously ask the question in the first place. If they did decide they didn’t like the word no, then my club is filled with several extremely large men who are willing to be violent in exchange for a paycheck (do you assume they’re soft, sweet men coerced by money to be violent??) who will remove anyone who tries to resist the word “no”.

- Protections should be in the form of rape, statutory rape, assault, kidnapping, threats, blackmail, trafficking, abuse, etc being illegal and ENFORCED ALL THE TIME. No exceptions. If all of those were always enforced  ALL THE TIME then there would be no need for buying or selling sex to be illegal and no one would feel scared of the legal system punishing them for coming forward about being the victim of one of those things. Protections should also exist in the form of banning discrimination against sex workers which would utterly eliminate the need for any exit programs and most welfare programs. Sex workers need exit programs because it’s legal for companies to go “Oh, you were a whore? Unless you’re wanting me to hire you to suck my dick then why are you here? It’s not like you have any other skills.” and, thus, sex workers can’t get non sex work jobs without programs in place to do things like provide fake references, offer short term jobs to pad a resume, and research companies to find out of they’ll pull that shit or not. Due to the assumption that sex workers are braindead sex dolls, it’s also not uncommon for colleges, trade schools, apprenticeships, certification programs, etc to deny admission to sex workers too. It’s also not uncommon to deny sex workers the ability to sign a lease even in non nordic model countries. If all the discrimination were banned, these issues would not persist and it would be no more difficult for a person of any gender to find their way out of sex work than it would be for them to find their way out of waiting tables. 

I’ll listen to you for ten (10) minutes while tell me all about how I’m a tragic, prostituted woman and how you can save me while I gradually work up some fake tears and don’t make eye contact with you on camera because I appear too anxious and ashamed to do so. After your 10 minutes are up, I’ll spent another 10 minutes telling you how you’re really smart and really kind and I hadn’t realised it was possible to just not live this life but that I didn’t have the money to get out until you came along. I’ll gush about how $300 is more money than anyone has ever been kind enough to give sad, sorry little me in all my life and that I didn’t know I could ever be worth that kind of money. At that point, I’ll dab at the eyeliner running down my face and tell you I’m opening a note on my computer to save these links you’ve sent me to rescue orgs and radfem theory because theory was honestly EXACTLY what I needed to pay my rent so I didn’t have to fuck my terrible, no good, awful, very bad landlord again. 

I’ll thank you so much for this information and say that, after talking to you, I’ve really just come to understand that I was nothing more than a fuckhole for men, a subhuman cum dumpster, a stupid little handmaid, a piece of meat for men to put their cock in, just a bought and sold object who wasn’t even that pretty anyway, etc (fake self degradation costs $15/per insult after the first 5. There’s no upper limit but if you buy 10, I’ll throw in another “I’m just a prostituted woman” for free) and now I understand that I can actually just stop being the scum of the earth and being personally responsible for the actions of all rapists ever by simply quitting my job.

At that point, I’ll tell you I’m deleting my social medias that talk about sex work because I just need a whole new start away from that toxic nightmare. I’ll block you from all of them so it looks like the accounts no longer exist and I’ll add you on a fake instagram I started just for this. On it, I’ll post about how I dream of raising puppies with my lesbian (not bi!) girlfriend in our cottagecore inspired place in the woods where we are legally permitted to castrate any man who even breathes within a 50 foot radius of our property line because we assumed having a penis meant he was a rapist. 

You can stay on the account for one (1) week and then you get removed. 

Radfems in my notes *today*:

I know y’all pretend not to know that radfem women abuse sex workers because then you’d have to admit you’re okay with that. But it seems like y’all *really* don’t know that men are completely comfortable using radfem theory to advance their own causes and they’ve been doing it for a very long time.