I Choose The Bear

The fact that Sun's underwear came off before Jay had even unbuttoned his pants says so much. It speaks to the trust Sun was placing in Jay. His willingness to bear himself open completely. Sun had spent so long fighting against Jay's attempts to top him as well as dominate him. This shows that he has thrown all of that out the window. He's accepted his submissiveness and is letting Jay decide when penetration happens. There's this whole kink under the D/s umbrella in which the submissive partner is naked while the dominant partner is clothed. It's another way of giving the Dom control. They aren't fully engaging in it in this scene, but the idea is there. Sun unbuttoned Jay's shirt, but it's Jay who took off Sun's pants, and, as far as we're shown, Sun didn't attempt to do the same with Jay.

Which just goes back to letting Jay decide when the important part of the kind of sex that Sun has submitted to will happen. Not that penetration is inherently the most important part of sex, or that it's even needed to count as sex, but it's clearly important to them, and it's anally bottoming that Sun has been so resistant to. It's the act that carries the most significance for both of them. There's no chance that Jay will ever bottom. It was always down to Sun agreeing to take that role. To understand that he wanted it.

There's also the fact that Jay has been bared open for Sun in this way the whole time they've known each other. He exudes Dominant Top energy so strongly that I would be surprised if even non kinky people can't feel it. Sun could feel it from the start. Especially since it was very quickly directed his way. Yes, the fact that Sun is a submissive bottom was clear to Jay, but it would be quite difficult for most people to see that, and it was something he was hiding from himself as well. So it was he who needed to physically demonstrate that he had accepted that, both to Jay and himself. To lay himself bare in a way Jay didn't need to.

Sidenote, I can't be the only one who thought this was one of the hottest shots in the scene:

It feels a bit crude to say it like this, but Jay had been trying very hard to get Sun to spread himself open in more ways than one, so demonstrating the fact that that had happened so visually, with Sun looking completely vulnerable and at Jay's mercy, is one of the sexiest sights I've ever seen.

And it was important to see their first time too. We needed to see what it was like for Sun to experience bottoming for the first time. His powerful reaction to it, the fact that it made him cry, which was something he simply couldn't do under any other circumstance. It was also necessary to see Jay's reaction to Sun crying. It showed us his sadistic side in a stronger way than the subtle hints before. It explained why he became fixated on finding Sun for the next five years. He needed to find this man who wept during sex because it was so damn hot to him(and apparently joining the kink scene in Thailand was out of the question ig, idk, maybe it works differently there). He might have a furry fetish too, though that's unclear. Either way, showing us that he was a sadist who loved to watch someone cry during sex explains why when Sun asked Jay to make him cry, he knew exactly how to do that, and very much wanted to. And seeing the sadistic smile that lit his face as Sun's face contorted in pain and the way he cried out as Jay roughly fingered him was a confirmation of the fact that a big part of Jay's draw towards Sun was that he would get to hurt Sun during sex and watch him cry.

Which honestly makes sense. His whole life has been one giant fight. A constant struggle to take care of himself and the people around him. Always being there to physically fight when necessary(and it was often necessary). With Jay, he no longer has to fight. Jay tells him exactly what he needs to do to succeed in the industry. Jay looks after him. Jay gives him immense sexual pleasure. Sun knows that when he does as Jay tells him, when he lets Jay manhandle him into whatever position Jay likes, everything is okay. Of course Sun, who has always desperately struggled to know what the right thing to do is, would be an obedient submissive to the right Dom. It makes perfect sense.

I suspect that this was a question he was asking himself more than Sun. Mainly because of his reaction to Sun's reaction

Sun thinks the truth is that Jay will end up dead, and his instinct is to try to prevent it. Which is in general his attitude when someone he cares about is at risk in some way. However, Jay isn't interested in getting help from Sun

This is not the way a partner would communicate in an egalitarian relationship. Jay raises his hand in a silencing gesture. He doesn't turn around and offer reassurance and gratitude for Sun's concern while telling him he shouldn't worry. He doesn't accept it. He doesn't get defensive and angry at the offer. He doesn't push Sun away. He indicates with nothing but a hand gesture that Sun is to be quiet, and gives him an order. Before saying

Which is itself a form of reassurance. Jay is being commanding and certain of himself. He's speaking with complete confidence and a cold, deadly focus. And Sun's reaction to this is very telling

He still looks worried, but he says nothing. He obeys Jay's unspoken command of silence. He offers no argument or protestation. This is very different from how he reacted to Sunny/Bank when Bank was having money problems. Yes, Bank was communicating his problem in a manipulative fashion, clearly trying to get Sun to offer help, but my impression of Sun is that he would have insisted upon helping even if Bank hadn't been trying to subtly get the money. Sun is always taking it upon himself to fix other people's problems. But Jay isn't someone he does this with. He has faith that Jay can take care of himself, because of how completely he has taken Sun in hand and taken care of him.

Because Sun doesn't disobey. He takes no action that is directly focused on Jay. Instead, he goes after the evil wealthy backer only when Sky is targeted by him. Sun can't get ahold of Jay, and there's no way he's going to let anything happen to sweet, innocent Sky who so reminds him of his brother. Taking care of Sky is, in fact, a way of taking care of himself. It would destroy him if Sky was harmed when he could have done something to prevent it. True, I think he was also hoping that it would help Jay as well, but he doesn't start making moves until Sky is targeted.

Also

Jay is still giving him homework, despite the fact that they're together(it's unstated, but Sun has followed him home and slept next to him in pajamas that are exactly his size, and is clearly used to Jay's presence enough that he instinctively reaches out to him as soon as he wakes up, so I think the implication is clear enough). Jay isn't making a suggestion of what would be a good idea for Sun to do. He's simply giving him an order and stating what will happen after the order is followed, which Jay doesn't seem like he has any doubt will happen. True, Sun doesn't agree, but he also never verbally agrees despite completing every assignment Jay has ever given him. The proof is in the pudding, so to speak. Sun either doesn't feel the need to say he will, or can't quite bring himself to be that compliant, regardless of the fact that he ultimately does as he's told. Plus, he's taciturn as a general rule, only speaking when necessary. And it isn't necessary to tell Jay that he'll follow an order that they both already know he will.

So showing how bottoming and submitting to Jay goes each time they have sex can tell us a lot about how Sun feels and also how he relates to Jay in this way that he was so resistant to. Is pain always involved due to Jay's sadism? How often does Sun cry during sex? Is he capable of and willing to continue to accept more of his desires, and ask Jay to do cnc? In that vein, what other desires does Sun have, and will Jay need to draw them out of him? How will all of this ultimately affect his state of mind and his behavior? Because I don't see it having no accumulative effect. Still, perhaps choosing to do this with Jay won't affect him any more than it has now, even if they go deeper into D/s and S&M.

Which makes sense. I'm not a gay or bisexual man, but I am a kinky bisexual woman, and when I flirt with someone, we're usually both able to read each other well enough to know if we're speaking to someone with whom we're sexually and/or kink compatible. Mistakes do happen, and some people are better at discerning the role the other person takes than others, but it's rather instinctive for most of us. I'm given to understand that it's the same with gay and bisexual men. But Sun just hadn't accepted that part of himself. Couldn't even bring himself to look at it. Then this Dominant Top comes along, sees a hot submissive bottom who's hiding from the fact that he's both of those things, and takes it upon himself to break said sub out of that hiding place. Because they simply couldn't be together otherwise. Jay is no switch. So Sun crumbling and fully accepting his feelings for Jay is so, so much deeper than the standard acceptance of romantic feelings in "chase em til they like you" plots. Jay has broken Sun's whole image of who he is in order to be with him. Which Jay said he was perfectly willing to do. In the same episode in which that happened.

Which is honestly one of the reasons I enjoy this so much. Chase romantic plots tend to make me rather uncomfortable due to the lack of consent. And while I won't pretend that consent was even remotely obtained in this chase, Sun's intense desire to have Jay dominate him was extremely obvious to both Jay and me.

Yes, I think Jay found the challenge quite stimulating, but I also think that there was a genuine desire to help Sun. Sun was clearly an emotionally dead, traumatized wreck. It wasn't like there was a chance he'd agree to go to therapy if Jay had suggested it. So the only thing Jay could do was dominate him and help Sun accept that domination. I don't think I can possibly express just how powerful it feels to submit to someone if you have that desire. Nothing comes close. Jay knew that if anything he could do was going to shatter the cage Sun had built for himself, it would be convincing Sun to let the submissive part of him fly free.

Jay whips him around, and Sun briefly looks slightly surprised. Also a little hesitant, likely due to the newness of being in this position, but he doesn't offer any real resistance, letting Jay easily push him against the glass

He then very quickly melts as Jay kisses him

And allows himself to fully get lost in the sensation of Jay inside him.

Again, not a good person. But he's not purely evil.