For many, there are few questions we ask ourselves more often. We may not voice or even think the words, but our actions speak for us. In the morning, we wake and comb our hair. Pajamas find their way back to the drawer. Cracked knees see lotion; oily noses get powder. Throughout the day, we frequent the mirrors in our bathrooms, pockets, and cars. After we eat, we pick food from our teeth. If we’ve lunched with friends, we’re sure to alert them to stray spinach. Spilled coffee calls for a clean shirt. Even those who say, “I don’t care how I look,” make some effort to look as if they don’t care how they look. Whether we climb into bed with a freshly washed face or with a month of unshaven growth, at the end of the day, appearance matters to all of us.
But should it matter to Christians?
No - and Yes
Perhaps we’re tempted to say, “Only the flesh judges a book by its cover, and only the flesh cares about its own cover.” Certainly, we would be capturing much truth (1 Samuel 16:7; Proverbs 31:30; 1 Peter 3:3–4). Scripture is clear: God regards us not according to the color of our hair but the condition of our hearts. How dear to him are the souls of those who believe it!
But does this make our appearance - the ones he sketched in his mind’s eye an eternity before we were born - un-dear to him? As we sense the wrongness of beauty, activity, and judgments that are solely skin-deep, should we likewise disregard just how wonderfully God made our skin (Psalm 139:14)?
Perhaps some of us have let our countercultural logic run lopsided for too long. When it comes to salvation, we are right to believe that our appearance doesn’t ultimately matter. When it comes to sin, we should sense how strong an idolatrous stakeholder our appearance can be. Yet when it comes to loving God and neighbor, we are wrong to think, feel, and live as if our appearance has no part to play.
Freed by Christ not to care about the ultimate value of appearance (Galatians 3:28), in what ways does appearance still matter in the Christian life? Consider four examples of how believers might care about their looks for the glory of God, not self...
Often, when Christians wrestle with the way they look, we tell them to simply stop looking. “How you look doesn’t matter,” the saying goes. While the words capture some truth, they also lack a resurrected vision of appearance. To paraphrase Abraham Kuyper, perhaps what we need instead is to hear Christ say, “Mine!” over every square inch of our bodies and not only our souls.
So, don’t merely “stop looking” at your appearance. Yes, stop looking in idolatrous, vainglorious ways. But then every morning when you wake, start looking at your appearance as a means to serve others. From hospitable smiles to cross-cultural missions, reverent dress to happy masculinity, oh, how many ways our “very good” appearance (Genesis 1:31) can point to our very good God!
Let’s give Satan a reason to hate mirrors and not only to love them.
Tanner Kay Swanson
Does Appearance Matter to Christians?