Adrienne Bee

Halsey (via colourwheelvibrations)

Dialectical means that two opposing ideas can exists at the same time. It is the concept of “both and..” not “either or” e.g Not dialectic: Thank you for taking out the trash but you really have to help out around the house more. Dialectic: Thank you for taking out the trash and I would appreciate it if you did this more often. Notice the big difference? One statement used the word “but” and the other replaced it with “and”. Using the word “but” immediately invalidates whatever came before it. Everyone is familiar with “I’m sorry, but…”. Pretty annoying, right? Replacing the word “but” with “and” can de-escalate situations and improve your relationships with people because it makes them feel less attacked. It can also help you with how you see yourself. e.g Not dialectic: I did my homework last week but not this, so I must be lazy. Dialectic: I didn’t do my homework this week, and I did do it last week so I must be human. The concept of dialectics can apply to many situations. e.g Not dialectic: I was late to meet up with her which means I’m always a bad friend. Dialectic: I was late to meet up with her which means I should have been more conscientious of time today. ALWAYS DOES NOT EXIST. No one is always a good friend, or always lazy. Stay safe, pups.

DBT helps people create a life worth living.

Les Miserables

(via colourwheelvibrations)

1x07 / ghost in the machine

When your girl is looking good on a case but you gotta control yourself

hold me baby

BIG FUCKING MOOD