Incredibly proud of my average penis

It pains me to inform you all that we have found @transfaguette He unfortunately has passed on. Thank you to everybody who aided us, reposted, and had conversations with us to help find him. I wish I had better news to share.

He’s at rest now.

Please take care of yourselves and each other. You are loved, you are cared for, you are so much more important than you could ever realize.

Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-TALK

I never met him, I got here after his note, I never got the chance to meet him; but he is the reason I am who I am now.

I saw his note, and it shattered me, and I saw other transmasc people being bullied, and I couldn't just leave it, I can't let this happen again. I can't lose anybody knowing I could have done something. So now I'm fighting, because I could have been there for him, cause I can be there for others like him, because I will never forget I didn't grow fast enough to help.

Through him, through what he inspired me to do, through how he inspired me to grow, I met more transmasc people, as well as nonbinary and xenogender people. Through him, I realized that my gender and identity don't end at femininity, and I've grown as a person because of it, and I'm genuinely a happier and better person because of him.

I owe my identity to him, I owe my current activism to him, and I will damn well never forget him.

I never met him, I never spoke to him, but he changed my life, and I've been hoping beyond all hope that he was still alive so I could tell him that. I'm grateful for him. I'm grateful he lived. I hope there's something, anything, out there for him.

THE HARM TO TRANS WOMEN WAS THE RAPE, ACTUALLY!

Hmm now what does this line remind me of..

like, unless you are in the position in actual material community to sit this woman down physically or online and be seriously involved in the work of being anti-disposability while also taking abuse seriously as a community rupture, supporting the victims and holding her accountable.... all this does it tells victims of abuse to keep their fucking mouths shut, don't talk bad about family no matter what. you don't need to call for her head on a spike, but "you are the real monster" is just undeniably abuse apologism.

Sophie From Mars, after being exposed for abusive behavior against multiple trans women back in November and going on hiatus since then, has returned to her friends' political podcast (Red Planet) and commented on the events and what's happened to her since then.

from that first link this is what she said on the accusations:

I do not know much about Sophie or any of this situation, but she straight up said "having heard the descriptions of my behavior I entirely agree with what people have said." and the description of her behavior was "abusive, controlling, indifferent to consent or its absence, selfish" and having burned another trans woman with a cigarette leaving permenant physical scars, pressuring drug use, and causing serious emotional harm and physical harm. the woman who posted the open letter from the victims, who Sophie put out a cigarette on, said that she didn't hate Sophie and didn't want her life or career destroyed, but that she felt the need to warn people of her behavior, and that she had spoken about it to Sophie in private but Sophie was "contrite" and insisted that she was the only victim and that the burning was a "one time thing." so this is not the case of "i heard from a person who heard from a person that she's a sick freak and every denial means its true" she herself admitted that she did the abusive things she did to other people.

& in the video in that second link, she describes the situation "I had some bad kink practice in sadomasochism scenes with some of my partners, and, as often happens in kink communities when there isn't a conflict resolution system in place, I was ostracized by the community. And then people said some horrible stuff about me online, and uh, we don't need to tell everyone that the internet is really quick to believe and repeat horrible shit about trans women, um, so I've been having a really shit time." which is objectively downplaying what happened - she was accused of serious abuse, admitted that she agreed with description of what she did, and then never uses the term abuse and emphasizes not the impact of her actions, but how mean everyone is being about it. And implying its at least partially the victims of her actions' fault for not doing good conflict resolution, and that the whole thing is pretty transmisogynistic if you think about it, also erasing that her victims were also trans women.