Diary of a Backslider

I was sent this message and then blocked without a single word. So, considering that this blog reblogged my stuff and I am blocked now, I am answering like this.

Tessy was a role model for me. There, I said it. When I started to know more about the GDF and what they did, I had her as a hard working, loving mother and student who wanted to make a difference. That’s why, when the news of the divorce broke, I might not have been surprised but it was a low blow for me too. My first posts about it show it and that’s why I decided to say anything about the subject. Literally. 

As I was staying quiet for so long, I also started to notice that Tessy was behaving in a very weird way. She started to throw shade and being really passive agressive. The last straw for me was when she posted and revealed she had spend her wedding anniversary alone. With a picture and all. Now, I’ve followed royals for more than half of my life and believe me when I say I knew that wasn’t a good thing to do. In fact, it was terrible; like you said, it’s none of our business what happens in that relationship but she quite literally stopped giving fucks about what say or not to say about that process. And her asking for opinions regarding  those posts and her divorce allowed a conversation about it.

Now, I’m not saying her divorce was easy. None of them are and that’s why I also decided to stay quiet at the beginning. My main concern is and will always be the fact that the kids will be able to see what their mother wrote about their father’s side of the family, their grandparents and their father and THAT is not something I wish them to see.

But going back to Tessy’s behaviour, the press painted her in a gold digging way and I’ve been pretty vocal about the fact that you should not completely believe what the press says, they are there for clicks and selling papers and shit BUT we knew we completely lost her after the divorce veredict came out. 

I read the whole thing. I left no paragraph unread. She was getting the kids’ education, health care and home completely payed for. She was going to get another million pound home to live in in one of the most luxurious neighbourhoods in London. Her only concern would be educate the boys and earn a penny for herself. The rest was completely taken care of. Yet, she didn’t want that. She wanted millions for the kids and for herself. She wanted an even more expensive house. She wanted to take everything. I am a sucker for “actions speak louder than words” and if those actions don’t speak to you, then what else would???

And then, with every twist and turn of that divorce, she would compare the fact that she would get another million pound home to live to (not the one she wanted) to the violation of human rights, I am sorry, but I feel nothing but disappointment and quite frankly, extreme annoyance. She could’ve handled this in a better way, in a private way and she went to extremes playing victim as if this divorce was only Louis’ fault. In a marriage, there’s two. Do the math when it comes to divide resposibility. 

The ask wasn’t mine. But I would love to get an answer on both 🤔

So I think Tessy’s probably the only person who can answer the first question but I can definitely answer the second for you and just hope that’s what anon meant as well! So what’s the deal with Tessy?

So to give some background I was a big Tessy fan. She was one of my underrated favs. It all went down hill when her and Louis split. In September 2017 - after months of posting old Getty pics of them together and saying how much she missed him - she posted about how Louis had abandoned her and left her alone on their anniversary: So I’m a deeply nosy person and super curious… - It’s Good to be Queen (tumblr.com) If that’s true and he chose to blow her off for no good reason then that’s a shitty thing to do. My problem is that we’ll never hear his side of the story and her children are old enough to see this. The parents of their school friends will be able to see this. If Tessy wasn’t a parent and was bitching about him all over town then I’d probably be cheering her on. But that’s just not appropriate to publicly attack your ex when your children can and will see it. We saw that with William and Harry. Around this time is when a lot of the overkill in her posts started. She was constantly posting about her charity work but not “this charity I support is great and you should support them too” or actually talking about what she does. It was just her posting old certificates of awards she’s won. She never really mentioned the people she supported, what the charity did, it was all completely about her. And she started posting even more of the cryptic posts she does these days: Tessy Antony needs to stop being so extra. You… - It’s Good to be Queen (tumblr.com) Things escalated from there. Alongside her usual random mentions of her divorce at any opportunity and digs about how everyone in the royal family made her life miserable:

She would take the boys to charity events which is fine but would post their whereabouts. Apparently the Court were freaked out about the risk to them having their location broadcast

She tried to get the British courts to force the Luxembourg royals to allow her to keep her title, after writing tons of posts about how having a princess title didn’t matter and it was all about what’s inside

The Luxembourg royals offered to buy her a mansion in London up to the value of £1.5 million. They said for various reasons she couldn’t stay in the current home she was in - which was also free - but that they would buy her another one instead. She said on her Instagram that being offered a mansion worth £1.5 million was a violation of her human rights. She posted a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt and said that her divorce was evidence that there were human rights abuses even in the developed world, explicitly linking herself to violations in the developing world

She claimed she was banned from carrying out any work in Luxembourg during her marriage (which is untrue; they lived in the United States for the early part of their marriage and then in London and as Louis isn’t in the line of succession he does less but she did events at the Luxembourg embassy, she attended charity and family events in Luxembourg)

She allowed fans to write xenophobic comments about Maria Teresa on her Instagram. Now, MT’s no saint but xenophobia is never acceptable. We know for a fact she was deleting comments that were negative about her but left those ones up.

Then in 2020 things got substantially worse. Not royal related but Tessy decided to take up pseudoscience as her latest obsession. She started a PhD in Integrative Medicine at Quantum University: I can’t believe someone can write “PHD candidate… - It’s Good to be Queen (tumblr.com) Quantum healing is dangerous pseudoscience and she… - It’s Good to be Queen (tumblr.com) If you’re not aware Quantum Healing is a pseudoscientific practice created by Deepak Chopra - which should be enough - which has led to deaths in the past when people have been encouraged to ignore science and focus on things like “energies” and “vibrations” to treat serious illnesses. She did other courses under the same programme, including one focused on the ear being the key to treating medical issues. And in February this year she posted an Instagram story about how you shouldn’t take medication if you’re sick, you should eat almonds instead!

Haha of course! I’m going to share it publicly because Tessy’s IG is private but she accepts follow requests from everyone, even fan accounts. So she obviously has no issues with things being shared. You’ll have to click on the image to make it bigger:

What I was thinking about Harry’s lawsuit and claims are like is:

if Crown Prince Pavlos of Greece and his wife Crown Princess Marie Chantal, heirs to a deposed monarchy, decided to sue for security and protection. Pavlos has money and Marie Chantal is the daughter of a billionaire. They live in London but don’t get Met protection.

if when Princess Madeleine of Sweden and Christopher O’Neill lived in London, they decided to sue for security and protection. Chris is a high up financial worker, when they lived in London she would’ve been maybe high as fourth in line (can’t remember if Oscar, Alexander etc. had been born yet) but Mads & Chris have their own money, it’s why he didn’t join as a prince, he wanted to keep his career.

if Princess Haya of Jordan sued and wanted the same (I mean she has genuine reasons due to her crazy af ex husband who has kidnapped and abused his own blood) but has her own money too.

If Tessy Antony when she lived in London sued for her sons. While Louis forfeited his sons and his own position in the LoS in Lux, ignoring that Noah & Gabriel after Louis are technically seventh and eighth in line to the throne there.

Princess Martha Louise has been in the US a few times with her boyfriend and she is only fourth in line to the throne in Norway but doesn’t get protection or funding either.

Prince Sebastien of Luxembourg lives in London while working in the Irish Guards in the British Army, but doesn’t get protection or security, even though a serving soldier in a city where a soldier named Lee Rigby was decapitated in broad daylight. He is seventh in line.

That's a good point.

Catalina Ferro, “Manifesto” (via dialecticsof)

I feel like people do need to remember that there is a very real, very painful, very human element to the word “revolution”.